# Office Sex Party; You In? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 2, 2018, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895 "2018-11-02T16:22:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![EscAlaMike](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/escalamike/32/4177_2.png) [@EscAlaMike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EscAlaMike)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/21 "2018-11-02T17:49:39Z")
Aside from my moral objections, I’m shuddering now just imagining how awkward everything would be; before, during, and after. I’m the direct supervisor of an office full of women. ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/22 "2018-11-02T17:54:36Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > What if the company(and therefore, your department) was shutting down? That would in theory alleviate my “don’t wanna be a creep/lawsuit” concerns, but not my disinterest in casual sex. Or my not-previously-mentioned disinterest in public/group sex, or the fact it’s distinctly possible that all the women here are married - I don’t want to be an adulterer. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/23 "2018-11-02T18:02:12Z")
I work out of my home, so it’s just me. And I think I’m going to leave it at that. ---
**Author:** ![Athena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/35a633/32.png) [@Athena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Athena)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/24 "2018-11-02T18:02:45Z")
I work from my home. So does Mr. Athena. We both work for the same company, so we are officially co-workers. I’ll let you guys figure out the rest. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/25 "2018-11-02T18:04:14Z")
I’ve got nothing against sex parties, but _office sex parties???_ With _people you work with???_ Thats wrong on so many levels. ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/26 "2018-11-02T18:16:02Z")
The entire permanent staff of our organization is myself and two other women. Being all straight females in committed relationships, yeah…it’s just not going to happen. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/27 "2018-11-02T18:17:18Z")
> [@Athena](#): > > I work from my home. So does Mr. Athena. We both work for the same company, so we are officially co-workers. I’ll let you guys figure out the rest. 😃 Hey, if it lets you declare more rooms in your house as work space for tax purposes, all the better! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/28 "2018-11-02T18:18:26Z")
YES! My wife and and also work from home as our own business. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/29 "2018-11-02T18:23:14Z")
I work at an ad agency, and my office is full of attractive young people (of both sexes) in their 20s and early 30s. A) They’re all young enough to be my children (or, conversely, I’m old enough to be their father) B) I’m married (as are many of them) C) As others have pointed out, such a party would lead to a ridiculously uncomfortable work environment afterwards Parenthetical: when I first started working in advertising, my manager was an English guy, who had a serious problem with roving eye. He was, in fact, married, though that marriage didn’t last much longer. He had once gone to our agency’s Paris office on business, and came back from that trip very envious of the open affairs that were going on between various staff members in that office. ---
**Author:** ![Emergency911](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/43a26b/32.png) [@Emergency911](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emergency911)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/30 "2018-11-02T18:28:30Z")
Big no from me as well. Old, out of shape and lazy. Not to mention the desks in my office are barely fit to work on, let alone THAT kind of work! ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/31 "2018-11-02T19:07:48Z")
Well, I worked at one place that it would be a _Big Yes._ 😉 Come to think of it, two places. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/32 "2018-11-02T19:24:07Z")
No, because after they get a taste of _this_, I’ll never get any work done. ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/33 "2018-11-02T20:51:22Z")
Well, I’m a university professor, so I’d need to define “office”. Depending on if the definition includes my classroom, my answer is either “Oh, good lord, no” or “Jesus Christ, no!”. ---
**Author:** ![Heracles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heracles/32/487_2.png) [@Heracles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heracles)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/34 "2018-11-02T21:04:00Z")
The cute guys in the office are all at least 15 years younger than me, and they’re all (apparently) straight, so I’d just sit in the corner. Never mind. ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/35 "2018-11-02T21:50:27Z")
Another vote for _Oh hell no!_, for reasons others have cited above. I think about this from time to time in my biweekly running group, which includes several young, attractive women who, _mirabile dictu_, seem to like me and enjoy my company. While the perennial eighteen year-old buried in me thinks “Whoah! These hot girls who are way outta my league actually like me!”, the mature 50 year old me knows that the way to maintain this esteem is to obey some iron-clad rules: one, never ask about their personal lives; two, never make any comments about their bodies, save for occasionally on something directly related to running - “Hey, your leg-turnover is good today! Your stride looks efficient!”; and three, the most important - never, ever touch them. I’m a middle-aged man who greatly enjoys a couple of hours a week spent running with friendly young women who are usually dressed in skimpy shorts and singlets, so it behooves me, I think, to avoid any behavior that comes anywhere close to creepiness. I don’t want to make any of my young friends feel uncomfortable or weird around me; I enjoy their friendship too much for that. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/36 "2018-11-02T21:51:55Z")
No way. This place is positively stuffed with Alpha-personality lawyers. It’d degenerate into an alcohol-fueled S&M event in 20 minutes. I’m too old to enjoy that. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/37 "2018-11-02T22:34:53Z")
Hella no! ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/38 "2018-11-02T22:43:53Z")
Well… I did meet my former husband at work, but that’s different. We did have sex, but not parties. I will confess, if I worked on the set of Animal Kingdom, I would be so tempted. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/39 "2018-11-02T22:55:06Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > I will confess, if I worked on the set of Animal Kingdom, I would be so tempted. Is that so? Oh…nevermind. I was thinking Wild Kingdom. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2018, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895/40 "2018-11-02T23:10:49Z")
> [@Paintcharge](#): > > I work by myself. > So… So do I. When I was much younger, I did work at a place where this went on, and no, it was not any of the restaurants I worked in until I graduated from college. It was at my first job out of school; there was a small group of pharmacists and technicians who liked to have the wrong kind of good time (and at least two pregnancies resulted; I knew about those because both women had their babies :eek: ) and had any of those parties been raided, I have no doubt that everyone there would have lost their licenses. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/office-sex-party-you-in/823895.md?page=3)