# Oh my God - am I turning into Bridezilla?!?!?! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 5, 2009, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515 "2009-02-05T02:24:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2009, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/41 "2009-02-05T21:31:19Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I don’t think I understand the question. There are people who are coming in from all over the damn place to watch us get married and it doesn’t seem right not to feed them. I may not have phased it as well as I should, however this: > [@](#): > > Well, there are already hundreds of things that won’t be perfect, so no. I’m hoping people have fun, the food is good, and **Walter** doesn’t actually wear his hockey uniform to the ceremony as he’s threatening to. Other than that, I’m not too bothered. Is the answer I was hoping for. As long as you keep this attitude, you shouldn’t have to worry about becoming a Bridezilla. Mrs. Magill and I were stressed and tired as all get out on our wedding day. There’s no way in hell it was the happiest day in our lives, but we wanted to make sure that we and our guests had a good time. We succeeded. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [February 5, 2009, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/42 "2009-02-05T23:45:06Z")
> [@Maastricht](#): > > Aren’t the kind of shops that accept bridal registries ridiculously overpriced anyway? I dunno. Do you consider Wal-mart ridiculously overpriced? We registered there, and at Target, and at Sears. (Hey, if people were going to buy us stuff, we figured we could use power tools way more than crystal candle sticks.) ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/43 "2009-02-06T00:05:26Z")
> [@Maastricht](#): > > Aren’t the kind of shops that accept bridal registries ridiculously overpriced anyway? I registered at Target. ---
**Author:** ![sugar\_and\_spice](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e8c25b/32.png) [@sugar\_and\_spice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sugar_and_spice)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/44 "2009-02-06T00:33:47Z")
> [@Hello\_Again](#): > > I registered at Target. Did Target give you a discount on items that were not purchased? ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/45 "2009-02-06T01:03:20Z")
> [@sugar\_and\_spice](#): > > Did Target give you a discount on items that were not purchased? Yeah there was something along those lines, they emailed a one-time use completion coupon, which I didn’t end up using, because we got about everything on the registry – mostly in the $20-75 range – and could definitely live without what was left. I also registered for some things through [Amazon.com](http://Amazon.com) , but I don’t recall any completion bonus from them. ---
**Author:** ![Emmy2635](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/919ad9/32.png) [@Emmy2635](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emmy2635)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/46 "2009-02-06T01:33:48Z")
You should check and see when the last time to add items to your registry is. I was actually able to add things AFTER my wedding and purchase them at a discount! This was at Macys and Bed, Bath & Beyond. ---
**Author:** ![Markxxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@Markxxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Markxxx)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/47 "2009-02-06T07:00:52Z")
Read the book _8 Simple Rules for Marrying My Daughter_, by W Bruce Cameron, it has a BRIDEZILLA in it and it is so funny ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 9:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/48 "2009-02-06T09:18:34Z")
About high range items: in my home town there aren’t any stores that carry registries. Some stores carry “mini registries”, they’re mini because the store is limited in scope but you can give them a list of stuff you like from there (for example a kitchenware-and-china store). So most people don’t get registries… But it used to be customary to make sure that your guest list included at least one people from the local BigElectronicsFirm factory (“used to” because it’s closed now): - only one guest who worked there? Ask for them to “take out” the TV. - a second one? Sound system. - three? VCR, later DVD. The store price of any of those items would have been huge, much more than anybody would think of asking a friend for. But the price for someone who worked in the factory, specially if they managed to grab an item that had been rejected by QC for something minor (major = it doesn’t work, minor = sometimes the sound goes off by itself and you need to switch it off and back on) could be 1/10 of the store price. The “take out” means that the couple would not be asking the guest to pay for the item, only to get the item for the couple under his yearly quota (or the yearly quota of a friend with less weddings to attend) - if the guest wanted to chip part of the price, he just quoted them a lower price than he had paid. Is it… ehm… entitled to choose your guests based on “ok, who can get me a TV”? Well, yeah. Did they mind? I’ve never met a Navarrese who said no to a good meal 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/49 "2009-02-06T16:49:14Z")
[QUOTE=Maastricht] Aren’t the kind of shops that accept bridal registries ridiculously overpriced anyway? [/QUOTE] My husband and I registered at The Dollar Store. 😉 Alice - you’re fine. I can’t think of anyone who would be LESS a bridezilla than you. > [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I have to ask though - do some of the women actually only register for themselves!?!?! What on earth do they put on there? China, linens, silverware, small appliances - the girly stuff! There are a lot of grooms who really don’t care. My first marriage the groom didn’t care. Then again neither did any of the guests. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/50 "2009-02-06T17:04:54Z")
> [@Missy2U](#): > > China, linens, silverware, small appliances - the girly stuff! There are a lot of grooms who really don’t care. My first marriage the groom didn’t care. Then again neither did any of the guests. Once again proving that **Walter** is part gay (excpet for the part about not wanting to have sex with men), he was totally into selecting those items. He insisted that all the items (glasswear, formal dinner wear, casual dinerwear, silver wear, etc) be Mikasa. He also wanted us to register for the mack-daddy, super-delux, grand-poobah waffle iron. It could only be refered to as the Wafflizer[sup]TM[/sup]. The latter may be because he’s totally into waffles though… ---
**Author:** ![Knowed\_Out](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/knowed_out/32/7380_2.png) [@Knowed\_Out](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knowed_Out)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/51 "2009-02-06T22:08:07Z")
You should prank your bridesmaids on your wedding day. When you all get together and they’re brushing your hair, adjusting your train, you ask one of them out the blue: “Cathy, did you sleep with Walter?” When she denies it, talk about the time he came home smelling like her perfume, or that he took a long time to fix her toilet, or something equally as bogus. Start getting your voice more and more shrill as you keep piling on false details, then when it starts to get to the screaming stage, smile and say “Just kidding!” Tell them you were getting nervous and needed some way to take iff the edge. That would rock. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/52 "2009-02-06T22:14:18Z")
> [@Knowed\_Out](#): > > You should prank your bridesmaids on your wedding day. When you all get together and they’re brushing your hair, adjusting your train, you ask one of them out the blue: “Cathy, did you sleep with Walter?” > > When she denies it, talk about the time he came home smelling like her perfume, or that he took a long time to fix her toilet, or something equally as bogus. Start getting your voice more and more shrill as you keep piling on false details, then when it starts to get to the screaming stage, smile and say “Just kidding!” > > Tell them you were getting nervous and needed some way to take iff the edge. That would rock. You have an interesting sense of humour. Sadly, I’m not having maids, I’m having maid, she won’t be doing my hair, I’m not going to have a train, and if I asked her that she would burst out laughing and I don’t think she’d be able to get it together for about 2 hours and we’d miss the ceremony. However, if someone else would like to do that, and video tape it, and send me the tape, that would be fantastic. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/53 "2009-02-07T04:33:34Z")
Mmmm…homemade waffles… And you don’t strike me as a bridezilla. More like a “nerve-zilla?” So, **alice** , are you still going with the kiddie table? (I love that idea, btw-because I would have found that to be a blast when I was little!) ---
**Author:** ![Knowed\_Out](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/knowed_out/32/7380_2.png) [@Knowed\_Out](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knowed_Out)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/54 "2009-02-07T13:41:29Z")
Only one maid? What, is this taking place at the JoP? If it’s that small a wedding, then you’re no Bridezilla. More like a BrideSmurfa. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/55 "2009-02-07T19:45:51Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > So, **alice** , are you still going with the kiddie table? (I love that idea, btw-because I would have found that to be a blast when I was little!) Yep for the kiddie table. The caterer has agreed to do kiddy portions of prime rib for the under 12 set. Also, **Knowed Out** , yes, it’s going to be quite a small wedding. We’re having it at a local Ranch House and the ceremony and reception will be in the same space (although not at the same time). We’re expecting about 45 people. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/56 "2009-02-07T20:01:59Z")
Do a little shopping around for that fridge elsewhere. It wouldn’t surprise me much if they upped their registry price so much that a 25% discount would just bring the price back down to what you would pay anywhere else. ---
**Author:** ![rekkah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ee59a6/32.png) [@rekkah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rekkah)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/57 "2009-02-08T00:34:03Z")
> [@Mollie\_Magill](#): > > A couple of serious questions though: > > 1 - Are you seriously expecting your wedding day to be the happiest day of your life? > > 2 - Who are you putting on the reception for? > > 3 - Does everything have to be perfect? In all seriousness, my wedding day _was_ the happiest day of my life. It wasn’t perfect, minor things went wrong, a few people were slightly irritating and I’m sure that our choice to have a buffet instead of a sit-down meal was viewed as less than satisfactory by a small proportion of the guests. We did it the way that we wanted to, partly because of our own particular circumstances (a top table where the brides parents can’t stand to be anywhere near each other is no fun for anyone). I was very stressed before the day that it wouldn’t work out. Once I got to the church though, I was just so happy to be there, ecstatic to be marrying the love of my life, surrounded by so may people who wished us well. No amount of minor imperfections could have spoiled it. Anyone’s wedding day should be a happy day for them. That just doesn’t mean they have the right to make lots of other people do things they don’t want to do. _That_ is where bridezilla-ism starts. ---
**Author:** ![GrizzRich](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7ba0ec/32.png) [@GrizzRich](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrizzRich)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 1:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/58 "2009-02-08T13:31:03Z")
Read the stories on this website… > **[Etiquette Hell Bridezilla Jan-Jun 2005 Archive](http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/bridezillas/ebridezilla.shtml)** > > Etiquette Hell offers etiquette advice and answers to manners questions such as wedding etiquette, parenting issues and table manners. if you (or your friends) don’t see this behavior, then you’re probably fine. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/59 "2009-02-08T16:45:57Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > (or other glass wear or dinner wear or whatever) I can see how wearing dinner might be interesting under the right circumstances, but please do be careful wearing glass! Although I hear the slippers are reliable. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/60 "2009-02-08T22:03:32Z")
> [@Antigen](#): > > I can see how wearing dinner might be interesting under the right circumstances, but please do be careful wearing glass! Although I hear the slippers are reliable. > > 😃 Jesus. I guess **Walter** better address the intives. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515.md?page=4)