# Oh my God - am I turning into Bridezilla?!?!?! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 5, 2009, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515 "2009-02-05T02:24:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/61 "2009-02-09T13:46:21Z")
> [@rekkah](#): > > In all seriousness, my wedding day _was_ the happiest day of my life. It wasn’t perfect, minor things went wrong, a few people were slightly irritating and I’m sure that our choice to have a buffet instead of a sit-down meal was viewed as less than satisfactory by a small proportion of the guests. We did it the way that we wanted to, partly because of our own particular circumstances (a top table where the brides parents can’t stand to be anywhere near each other is no fun for anyone). I was very stressed before the day that it wouldn’t work out. > > Once I got to the church though, I was just so happy to be there, ecstatic to be marrying the love of my life, surrounded by so may people who wished us well. No amount of minor imperfections could have spoiled it. > > Anyone’s wedding day should be a happy day for them. That just doesn’t mean they have the right to make lots of other people do things they don’t want to do. _That_ is where bridezilla-ism starts. I agree with you. Your wedding day _should_ be a very happy day. It’s when you start unrealistically expecting the skies to open up and the birds to sing your name like some sort of delusional fairy tale is when the trouble start. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/62 "2009-02-09T17:03:47Z")
> [@Mollie\_Magill](#): > > I agree with you. Your wedding day _should_ be a very happy day. It’s when you start unrealistically expecting the skies to open up and the birds to sing your name like some sort of delusional fairy tale is when the trouble start. So my dream of having 1000 guilded emus pulling **Walter** an I in from the sky on a winged chariot isn’t going to happen? Bummer. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/63 "2009-02-09T17:13:14Z")
You could probably manage a thousand **gelded** emus **piled** on you and Walter. ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/64 "2009-02-09T17:55:44Z")
> [@Mollie\_Magill](#): > > Your wedding day _should_ be a very happy day. But keep in mind that big weddings aren’t for everybody. I didn’t particularly enjoy mine, because I’m a shy person who dislikes being the center of attention (when I am the center of attention, I keep thinking “I’ll screw up, can’t screw this up…”). If I had it to do over again and it were entirely up to me, I’d have had a very small wedding- private ceremony with immediate family only, then go out to a restaurant to celebrate. That might be preferable for someone who doesn’t like being in the center of attention. It might be profoundly unsatisfying for someone who does. > [@rekkah](#): > > I’m sure that our choice to have a buffet instead of a sit-down meal was viewed as less than satisfactory by a small proportion of the guests. No matter what you do or don’t do at your wedding, somebody’s going to view something as less than satisfactory. My mother in law was disappointed that we didn’t follow that odious and childish new “tradition” of smashing cake in each other’s faces. If we had done it, my mother would have been disappointed, since she can’t stand that either. If you’d had a sit-down meal, I’m sure somebody would have been dissatisfied with the table you had them sit at, or something. You have to accept early on that, even if you had an infinite budget, you couldn’t make everybody happy with all your decisions at your wedding. ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/65 "2009-02-09T20:27:35Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > So my dream of having 1000 guilded emus pulling **Walter** an I in from the sky on a winged chariot isn’t going to happen? > > Bummer. “With god as my witness, I thought emus could fly.” ---
**Author:** ![Giles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giles/32/60_2.png) [@Giles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giles)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/66 "2009-02-09T20:31:22Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > So my dream of having 1000 guilded emus … . Members of the Guild of Emus? The trouble is, they demand union rates, and that’s probably outside your budget. ---
**Author:** ![Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dread_pirate_jimbo/32/3897_2.png) [@Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dread_Pirate_Jimbo)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/67 "2009-02-09T21:12:59Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Do a little shopping around for that fridge elsewhere. It wouldn’t surprise me much if they upped their registry price so much that a 25% discount would just bring the price back down to what you would pay anywhere else. Assuming she’s registered at The Bay, they don’t have special “registry pricing.” They just go with their standard every-day overpricing. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/68 "2009-02-09T22:10:07Z")
> [@Anne\_Neville](#): > > \My mother in law was disappointed that we didn’t follow that odious and childish new “tradition” of smashing cake in each other’s faces. \ I read somewhere (possibly on the Dope) that smashing cakes in each other’s faces is a fairly reliable indicator of a marriage that is doomed. You did the right thing. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/69 "2009-02-10T01:37:02Z")
> [@featherlou](#): > > I read somewhere (possibly on the Dope) that smashing cakes in each other’s faces is a fairly reliable indicator of a marriage that is doomed. You did the right thing. 🙂 I have told **Walter** that his chance of being forgiven and ever getting post-nuptual poontang is greater if he shows up for the ceremony wearing his hockey uniform than if he tries this stunt. Lucky for me (well, him) that he also finds it disgusting. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/70 "2009-02-10T03:43:16Z")
> [@featherlou](#): > > I read somewhere (possibly on the Dope) that smashing cakes in each other’s faces is a fairly reliable indicator of a marriage that is doomed. You did the right thing. 🙂 My aunt and uncle practically had a cake FIGHT…but that was at a family picnic we held for them after the fact…since they got married at the JP, with only one or two witnesses. Does that count? (Said family picnic involved sneakers and shorts) Oh, and the BEST Etiquette Hell stories are the ones where the person who sends them in are the ones committing the faux pas! Am I right, or am I right? ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/71 "2009-02-10T12:42:44Z")
> [@hajario](#): > > You have now started five threads about your wedding since your engagement just over a month ago. By my calculations you are still two away from Bridezilla status. Okay, that was funny. > [@Alice\_in\_Wonderland](#): > > Interesting. You don’t HAVE to read them you know. While your post was informative and helpful, I probably could have managed without it, shockingly enough. Uh oh… “Symptom 1: Loss of sense of humor” * * * As to the OP, I wouldn’t bat an eye over a $2000 refrigerator these days. I’ve seen mattress sets on registries that ran that much. I once saw a baby comforter set on a registry that was approaching $1000. ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/72 "2009-02-10T15:05:34Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > My aunt and uncle practically had a cake FIGHT…but that was at a family picnic we held for them after the fact…since they got married at the JP, with only one or two witnesses. Does that count? (Said family picnic involved sneakers and shorts) I still wouldn’t have liked it and would have :rolleyes:'ed at it, for what that’s worth. I remember my mom telling me when I was about 7 or so about a wedding she went to where the groom accidentally smeared some icing on the bride’s face when feeding her the cake, and the bride retaliated by smashing cake in the groom’s face. I remember thinking, “I’m more grown up than that now”. So, when I got married 20 years later, anything resembling cake smashing was absolutely out of the question. We didn’t even feed each other cake, because we’re both klutzy and it might have turned into something like cake smashing inadvertently. ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/73 "2009-02-11T18:57:54Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > Does that make me a bridezilla? That’s not a bridezilla. [This (second letter in this Ask Amy column)](http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/02/AR2009020201687.html?hpid=smartliving) is a bridezilla: > [@Bridezilla](#): > > DEAR AMY: I just found out that a sixth friend is pregnant and due around the date of my wedding!.. Please tell me how I can be happy for these people because right now I’m just furious. ETA: If you think your friends or relatives should be postponing major life decisions (getting married or having children would be two excellent examples) to avoid overshadowing Your Wedding, then guess what, you’re a bridezilla. [Several hundred more examples of Bridezillaism can be found at etiquettehell.com](http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/bridezillas/ebridezilla.shtml) ---
**Author:** ![StuffLikeThatThere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bc8723/32.png) [@StuffLikeThatThere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StuffLikeThatThere)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2009, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515/74 "2009-02-11T19:35:20Z")
> [@PunditLisa](#): > > I wouldn’t bat an eye over a $2000 refrigerator these days. I’ve seen mattress sets on registries that ran that much. I once saw a baby comforter set on a registry that was approaching $1000. Great Jumping Jehosephat! Are you kidding me? When I got married, the most expensive item on my registry was $200. I didn’t get it, which was totally fine with me. When I had a baby shower, I think I put a swing on there for $120, and when I opened it at the shower, I was astounded. I cannot fathom spending $1000 on baby bedding. Are there people that do? Besides the Beckhams? More to the point: **alice** , I wouldn’t necessarily think you were Bridezilla. I’d just think you were overly optimistic. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-my-god-am-i-turning-into-bridezilla/484515.md?page=3)