# Oh no no no. Of all people in the world, not HER. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 28, 2005, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483 "2005-12-28T20:38:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![anyrose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/54ee81/32.png) [@anyrose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anyrose)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/101 "2005-12-29T16:27:30Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > Wow, leave work early, go off to a party, get toasted, sleep late and look what I get. You’d think the rest of us don’t have lives :D:D:D ---
**Author:** ![Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Hey\_It\_s\_That\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hey_It_s_That_Guy)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/102 "2005-12-29T16:37:21Z")
Frankly, I think that is the ideal situation. You told her, she was relatively cool with it, you get to catch up with your old friend/flame and have a pleasant conversation (and some closure for you), and go back to your happy life. That’s what I would have suggested in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tastes_of_chocolate/32/3232_2.png) [@Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tastes_of_Chocolate)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/103 "2005-12-29T16:38:09Z")
Beautifully done, **Mr Bus Guy**. I hope you and your wife both appreciate what a good catch you have. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/104 "2005-12-29T16:39:30Z")
I KNEW you wouldn’t let me down, **BusGuy** --you’re true blue and will never fade. I am dying to be a bug on the wall for this cuppa! Whatd’ya bet she’s really nice and just wants to say hi? If she arrives in a low cut blouse and her thong is hanging outta her jeans and she has a tattoo on her forehead that says “do me”–well, then I’d worry. And Yeah! for the Mrs–you guys are a class act. Jeepers-I need a life! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/105 "2005-12-29T16:42:37Z")
Doing the happy dance for **Mr. BusGuy**. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/106 "2005-12-29T17:15:25Z")
Best of luck to you, **Mr. Bus Guy**. Here’s hoping that your wife being aware of the situation will serve as an added layer of protection for you (no pun intended), whatever Susan’s intentions are. ---
**Author:** ![anyrose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/54ee81/32.png) [@anyrose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anyrose)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/107 "2005-12-29T17:30:53Z")
> [@elenorigby](#): > > Whatd’ya bet she’s really nice and just wants to say hi? I’ll take a piece of that! 200 Qualtoos on “desparate, horny bitch” ---
**Author:** ![Fish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bc8723/32.png) [@Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fish)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/108 "2005-12-29T17:57:54Z")
I wouldn’t bet either of you: she’s probably both and she’s meeting **Bus Guy** to see which way the cards will fall. If he gives her any room to move in, she will; and if she doesn’t see an opening, she’ll tactfully withdraw. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Chao\_Goes\_Mu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_chao_goes_mu/32/3191_2.png) [@The\_Chao\_Goes\_Mu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Chao_Goes_Mu)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/109 "2005-12-29T18:09:40Z")
Forget about Susan. Some Friday, get a babysitter, take the wife out to a nice dinner, maybe a passionate night in a hotel afterwards. Saturday, you and wife do something fun with the kid. Think, often, during these two days how much you love your family. Then think of what it would be like to lose them. Forget Susan. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/110 "2005-12-29T18:17:16Z")
> [@jlzania](#): > > And hope she’d gained 100 pounds and become a raging Republican. 😛 Y’ know… on this board, I know such comments pass with the vast majority of people sagely nodding their heads… But I’d like to point out that I am married to a raging Republican. And I **like** it. A lot. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/111 "2005-12-29T18:19:33Z")
**Bricker** , I thought \*she \* was married to a raging Republicn? Or was that just raging? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/112 "2005-12-29T18:39:38Z")
You done good, **Bus Guy** , and by the way, your wife is amazing. But you already knew that, didn’t you? Good job. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/113 "2005-12-29T18:43:15Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > Y’ know… on this board, I know such comments pass with the vast majority of people sagely nodding their heads… > > But I’d like to point out that I am married to a raging Republican. And I **like** it. A lot. Phew-I thought you were calling me on the “gaining 100 pounds” comment. I’m glad being married to a raging Republican works well for you-my guy is a flaming liberal however and it would be like mixing oil and water 😃 . It was a strictly personal observation and not meant as disparaging of all Republicans. And I guess this means that neither of us have to worry if Mrs. Bricker meets Mr. jlza for lunch as they’ll soon be arguing about the state of everything. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/114 "2005-12-29T18:50:22Z")
> [@Mr Bus Guy](#): > > And she did ask what my feelings were for Susan (BTW - NOT a fake name, I used her real name before I had a chance to think about not doing so.) back then. Oh! _That_ Susan! The one with the twins and the late husband. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/115 "2005-12-29T19:06:05Z")
Quite a coincidence that Susan just happened to get Bus Guy on the phone IMHO. I wouldn’t rule out a little research on her part. Does Bus Guy’s phone have a private number? Or do calls go through a switchboard? It just seems far fetched, to me. No matter what the current Mrs. Bus Guy says, I wouldn’t get near Ms Susan unless my marriage was totally and completely done and dead. Avoid the very appearance of evil, or some such. ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/116 "2005-12-29T19:17:22Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > Best of luck to you, **Mr. Bus Guy**. Here’s hoping that your wife being aware of the situation will serve as an added layer of protection for you (no pun intended), whatever Susan’s intentions are. You know, I’m of the mind that Susan’s intentions aren’t all that relevant. What’s important is , **Mr. Bus Guy’s** and if he’s approaching this from a mildy curious but happily and securely married frame of mind, I think he’ll be just fine. Life’s filled with temptations-it’s how you handle them that counts. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/117 "2005-12-29T19:59:51Z")
> [@LouisB](#): > > Quite a coincidence that Susan just happened to get Bus Guy on the phone IMHO. I wouldn’t rule out a little research on her part. Does Bus Guy’s phone have a private number? Or do calls go through a switchboard? It just seems far fetched, to me. > > No matter what the current Mrs. Bus Guy says, I wouldn’t get near Ms Susan unless my marriage was totally and completely done and dead. Avoid the very appearance of evil, or some such. Well she called the Transportation main number. After it rings 4 times, it rings at my desk, so I just grabbed it. We get a dozen or so similar calls each week, someone just moved in and wants to know where/when their kids catch the bus. Had she been interested in doing research, a Google on my name leads you to a half dozen articles in local newspapers quoting me on school issues in the district. Our district’s web site has a Staff Directory page that gives both my e-mail address and my direct line. ---
**Author:** ![Cranky\_Hermit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/13edae/32.png) [@Cranky\_Hermit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cranky_Hermit)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2005, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/118 "2005-12-29T22:32:07Z")
Good for **Mr & Mrs Bus Guy**! I think you both handled this well. Gold stars! ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2005, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/119 "2005-12-30T04:45:31Z")
> [@Fish](#): > > I wouldn’t bet either of you: she’s probably both and she’s meeting **Bus Guy** to see which way the cards will fall. If he gives her any room to move in, she will; and if she doesn’t see an opening, she’ll tactfully withdraw. Exactly. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2005, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483/120 "2005-12-30T05:00:58Z")
> [@jlzania](#): > > You know, I’m of the mind that Susan’s intentions aren’t all that relevant. > What’s important is , **Mr. Bus Guy’s** and if he’s approaching this from a mildy curious but happily and securely married frame of mind, I think he’ll be just fine. > Life’s filled with temptations-it’s how you handle them that counts. I may have written it poorly, but what I was trying to convey in my statement actually agrees completely with what you’ve said. My point was that, now that he’s shared the situation with his wife, it should help to bolster him being in an appropriate frame of mind approaching the situation, whether or not Susan is interested in anything beyond friendship. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oh-no-no-no-of-all-people-in-the-world-not-her/337483.md?page=7)