# OK, but I want to do all of the driving **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 14, 2018, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559 "2018-03-14T17:16:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 11:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/41 "2018-03-15T11:01:10Z")
Dunno, some people are just like that. Every year I go to the NY Ren Faire with my best friend and her parents and we always come back the same day. And every year her dad insists on doing all of the driving, from New Hampshire to New York. That’s ten hours of driving in a day. She and I have stopped offering to drive, though occasionally her mother convinces him to let her drive for a couple of hours. ---
**Author:** ![GoodOmens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d26b3c/32.png) [@GoodOmens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GoodOmens)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 11:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/42 "2018-03-15T11:46:37Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > Some people just like driving. If I were in your shoes, I’d say “Sure, thanks!”, and let him do it. The only one who needs to know his reason is him. Unless you like driving enough to want to do it, too? My thoughts exactly. Someone wanting to do all the driving on a long trip is the polar opposite of a problem, as far as I’m concerned. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/43 "2018-03-15T12:03:11Z")
I’m gonna want to do all the talkin’. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 12:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/44 "2018-03-15T12:11:48Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > I’m gonna want to do all the talkin’. _inserts earbuds_ Go for it! ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/45 "2018-03-15T13:42:39Z")
OP, you really need to come back after your chat with them and tell us what his motivation turned out to be. I’m dying to know now. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/46 "2018-03-15T14:07:33Z")
On long road trips with my wife I do at least 90%, if not 100%, of the driving if I can help it. I just don’t like the way she drives. Whenever I ride with her it seems like she’s determined to do anything _except_ drive. ---
**Author:** ![Dinsdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/97f17d/32.png) [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/47 "2018-03-15T14:19:43Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > OP, you really need to come back after your chat with them and tell us what his motivation turned out to be. I’m dying to know now. Sorry, doubt there will be ay chat. Dtr and kid are coming over for lunch today. We’ll probly tell her we bought our tickets, but no plans to make it into a discussion. Don’t know what their plans will be. ---
**Author:** ![septimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/septimus/32/410_2.png) [@septimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/septimus)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/48 "2018-03-15T14:25:38Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > Regardless of what everyone has said, and there might be good reasons for your SIL to want to drive, I’d be nervous about being in a car with anyone who was planning on driving 14 hours, straight. Even with rest stops. I’ve probably done that myself on a few occasions, but it’s not the smartest thing in the world to do. ++. 14 hours is way too long for a single driver, even assuming two meal stops. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/49 "2018-03-15T14:30:39Z")
> [@Dinsdale](#): > > Sorry, doubt there will be ay chat. > > Dtr and kid are coming over for lunch today. We’ll probly tell her we bought our tickets, but no plans to make it into a discussion. Don’t know what their plans will be. 14h of Din a MV . . . ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/50 "2018-03-15T15:17:27Z")
> [@septimus](#): > > ++. > 14 hours is way too long for a single driver, even assuming two meal stops. What do you consider OK? I used to drive Pittsburgh to Hilton Head, stopping only for gas (food in a cooler) in 11 hours. It wasn’t bad other than West Virginia’s mountains. When I lived in Philly, I drove (on three or four occasions) to Pittsburgh for a job interview and lunch, then drove back. That was ten hours of driving in one day and wasn’t bad at all. ---
**Author:** ![Enright3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/enright3/32/2897_2.png) [@Enright3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enright3)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/51 "2018-03-15T15:21:56Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > Yeah, there’s no way I’d let someone drive 14 hours straight if there were other qualified drivers in the car. It’s completely a safety issue. If the only options are he is the only driver for 14 hours or fly, I’d fly. And for me, Yeah, there’s no way I’d let someone drive 14 hours straight if I didn’t know ahead of time if they were the type of people I knew ahead of time that I could spend 14 hours in a car with. Not only that, but if you’re renting a van, then the person who rents the van is in charge of who drives. Right? no way I’d chance 14 hours in a car with a control freak. ---
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/52 "2018-03-15T17:43:12Z")
In the EU (lorry) drivers can drive 4,5 hours straight, then need to rest. They can drive a total of 9 hours per day. I would absolutely not get in a car with anyone driving more than that. Driving drowsy is like driving drunk. Why would you even trust someone who plans on doing that, it’s like trusting someone who plans in advance to drink & drive. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/53 "2018-03-15T17:59:12Z")
> [@Tzigone](#): > > A: She might think he always wants to drive because he always wants to drive when he’s with her (if she’s that bad a driver). That was my thought. I find it’s a little unlikely he would be quite so assertive with his father-in-law who’s paying for the rental. > [@](#): > > B. I really don’t like “ailments” in quotes - it sounds dismissive and insulting when reading it without tone of voice. That’s probably how it was intended soooo… ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/54 "2018-03-15T18:17:15Z")
I took it as the SIL doesn’t like his driving and if his kid is in the car, the SIL will insist on doing all the driving. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [March 15, 2018, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559/55 "2018-03-15T18:24:04Z")
> [@madmonk28](#): > > I took it as the SIL doesn’t like his driving and if his kid is in the car, the SIL will insist on doing all the driving. In his OP, he said: > [@](#): > > As far as I can recall, he has never ridden in a car driven by me or my wife So, unless his daughter thinks that the OP is a bad driver, and has told her husband that, it’s probably not the reason why. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-but-i-want-to-do-all-of-the-driving/810559.md?page=2)