# Ok, it's NOT that I'm gay, but that guy looks... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 25, 2012, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949 "2012-04-25T20:08:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/1 "2012-04-25T20:08:13Z")
I’m sure this is a pretty common caveat when a straight man completes the sentence with “…hot/good looking/etc.” Not universal certainly, since straight guys can evaluate other guys and not feel weird about it, but. In some settings, it’s probably used as an indicator that the person may very well be gay. Why, some may reason, would a guy 1) even say ‘I’m not gay’, and 2) even comment on another guy’s looks? But here’s an odd twist on it: Was having drinks with a mixed group not too long ago, and one guy said, several times “Look, I’m not gay, but that’s one ugly man!” Um, what? So odd, to have to qualify your sexuality in order to call someone ugly. I even made a joke with the dude that you don’t _have_ to do that, we’re not going to think you’re gay for saying someone _isn’t_ good looking. His explanation was that the way he grew up, you didn’t want there to be any doubt that you weren’t gay. Which may very well be the case, but it’s not like the group that evening was a bunch of 50 year-old rednecks. Anyway, mundane and pointless. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/2 "2012-04-25T20:20:59Z")
Next time he says it respond with “Look, I’m not gay, but I’d like to fuck you.” ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/3 "2012-04-25T20:44:02Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > Next time he says it respond with “Look, I’m not gay, but I’d like to fuck you.” But what if he says “Look, ok?” Awwwwkwaarrrrd. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/4 "2012-04-25T20:45:56Z")
No homo. ---
**Author:** ![Snake\_Plissken](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@Snake\_Plissken](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snake_Plissken)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/5 "2012-04-25T20:47:54Z")
I might think a guy is good looking, or ugly, but it’s not something I would usually vocalize. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/6 "2012-04-25T20:49:16Z")
Hmmm. Maybe as an experiment, I’ll preface all my SDMB posts from now on with “Look, I’m not gay, but”… ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/7 "2012-04-25T20:54:19Z")
Look, I’m not gay, but let’s just say I’ve never been to Minnesota. If you know what I mean. ---
**Author:** ![Arrogance\_Ex\_Machina](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/arrogance_ex_machina/32/192_2.png) [@Arrogance\_Ex\_Machina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrogance_Ex_Machina)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/8 "2012-04-25T20:56:08Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > Hmmm. Maybe as an experiment, I’ll preface all my SDMB posts from now on with “Look, I’m not gay, but”… Remember to end them with “Also, I think Carthage must be destroyed.” while you are at it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/9 "2012-04-25T20:56:51Z")
> [@Ludovic](#): > > Look, I’m not gay, but let’s just say I’ve never been to Minnesota. If you know what I mean. Not even the airport restroom? ---
**Author:** ![sachertorte](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sachertorte/32/3727_2.png) [@sachertorte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sachertorte)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/10 "2012-04-25T21:00:49Z")
Actually, I would be fascinated to know who straight guys consider to be attractive men. I wonder how that lines up with straight women and gay men… you know, in general. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/11 "2012-04-25T21:19:01Z")
Look, I’m not gay, but if that guy were homework I’d do him on my desk every night. What? Oh yeah, that’s right! I _AM_ gay. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Wargamer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/df705f/32.png) [@Wargamer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wargamer)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/12 "2012-04-25T21:21:19Z")
> [@swampbear](#): > > Look, I’m not gay, but if that guy were homework I’d do him on my desk every night. > > What? Oh yeah, that’s right! I _AM_ gay. 😃 Whew, in that case I bet you’re relieved! ---
**Author:** ![Snake\_Plissken](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@Snake\_Plissken](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snake_Plissken)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/13 "2012-04-25T21:22:00Z")
> [@Ludovic](#): > > Look, I’m not gay, but let’s just say I’ve never been to Minnesota. If you know what I mean. Ha! that kind of freaked me out, because I am in Minnesota. ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/14 "2012-04-25T21:26:41Z")
I’m not gay but this is one of the funnier threads I’ve read today. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/15 "2012-04-25T21:27:13Z")
> [@sachertorte](#): > > Actually, I would be fascinated to know who straight guys consider to be attractive men. I wonder how that lines up with straight women and gay men… you know, in general. Look, I’m not straight but in my experience, it doesn’t line up that well. A group of straight guys I worked with asked which of them I thought was the hottest. They were shocked by my pick. They assumed I would pick the tallest one. ---
**Author:** ![Beastly\_Rotter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/45deac/32.png) [@Beastly\_Rotter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beastly_Rotter)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/16 "2012-04-25T21:32:20Z")
Look, I’m not gay but I would turn for Raul Julia {at least when he was alive}. ---
**Author:** ![Kenm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bc79bd/32.png) [@Kenm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kenm)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/17 "2012-04-25T21:32:47Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > LThey were shocked by my pick. They assumed I would pick the tallest one. They’re all gay and said that only to show they aren’t. ---
**Author:** ![Al\_Bundy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@Al\_Bundy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Al_Bundy)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/18 "2012-04-25T21:34:06Z")
If guy comments that another guy is “hot”, that’s enough to garner gender probation from there on. A comment about being ugly is barely a warning shot. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/19 "2012-04-25T21:40:34Z")
> [@Sicks\_Ate](#): > > His explanation was that the way he grew up, you didn’t want there to be any doubt that you weren’t gay. Which may very well be the case, but it’s not like the group that evening was a bunch of 50 year-old rednecks. Many a 20-something redneck may well have a 50-something redneck inside waiting to bust out. Like in Alien, only with banjo music. ---
**Author:** ![thelurkinghorror](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7c8e57/32.png) [@thelurkinghorror](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thelurkinghorror)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2012, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949/20 "2012-04-25T21:42:02Z")
“Hey, I don’t wanna sound like a queer or nothin’, but I think unicorns are kick ass!” “I don’t wanna sound like a queer or nothin’, but I think Depeche Mode is a sweet band!” “Dude, I don’t wanna sound like a queer or nothin’, but I think you got a hot ass!” “I don’t want to sound like a queer or nothin’, but I’d kinda like to make love to you tonight.” -Dave the Lighting Guy [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/ok-its-not-that-im-gay-but-that-guy-looks/619949.md?page=2)