# Okay, Facebook users, what fuck is the hold up here? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 17, 2009, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-facebook-users-what-fuck-is-the-hold-up-here/517861 "2009-11-17T01:58:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2009, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-facebook-users-what-fuck-is-the-hold-up-here/517861/41 "2009-11-18T21:57:59Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > I think there’s just a tipping point at where you don’t think you could possibly have a decent debate with the person, and that everything they have to say is something you find offensive. > > If everything they say is contrary to your beliefs (they hate the politician you love, they are against the issues you are for, they’re religious and you find religion to be off-putting, etc) then eventually it gets to be that they’re attacking YOU. And you get nervous about putting your own beliefs up because they might come out fighting. > > But still, you hold on to those old memories of the person and it’s hard to “get rid” of them. You can hide them, but they still see your status. You can de-friend them but you’ll never hear from them again. > > For some people, this is a tough choice. And you need to be on FB a while before you decide how you want to deal with it. It was a weird thing for me at the beginning but eventually I came up with rules/strategy for how I want to deal with it and I’m good now. This. And sometimes people’s opinions are so beyond the pale that you feel morally incriminated just by associating with them. I mean seriously, if someone doesn’t agree with me politically or I don’t share their spiritual perspective, fine. But when you’re frothing at the mouth about shit that calls into question your ability to make judgments about reality (i.e. The Bible says that Obama is the Anti-Christ, Armageddon is imminent, we are on the brink of a civil war, homosexuals are like pedophiles, etc.), that’s going to constantly piss me off and irritate me. If you, **corkboard** , aren’t bothered by that shit, that’s great. I am. It disturbs the hell out of me. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-facebook-users-what-fuck-is-the-hold-up-here/517861/42 "2009-11-20T15:50:44Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Yeah, so? > > Countless posts about Facebook annoyances 'round these parts, and nobody has an explanation for why they won’t de-friend or hide the users posts? Somebody’s holding out. Honest answer: it makes it really fucking hard to cyber stalk and spy on people I want to gossip about if I defriend them and they have their profile set to private. Just because I don’t like you doesn’t mean I don’t want to silent judge you at 1:00 am while I cruise the internet and finish my wine in my underwear. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-facebook-users-what-fuck-is-the-hold-up-here/517861/43 "2009-11-20T15:53:47Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > I think there’s just a tipping point at where you don’t think you could possibly have a decent debate with the person, and that everything they have to say is something you find offensive. True. I have “defriended” very few people (see my reasons above :)) but the one I did cut was because he was posting things I find offensive on a 4 time/day basis. I had to draw the line when his posts included stock art of dildos being inserted into a spread eagle woman. I mean, he’s a prostitute so I expected some “salty” stuff, but not a blow-by-blow, so to speak, of his daily activities. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2009, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-facebook-users-what-fuck-is-the-hold-up-here/517861/44 "2009-11-20T16:17:17Z")
> [@ShelliBean](#): > > Honest answer: it makes it really fucking hard to cyber stalk and spy on people I want to gossip about if I defriend them and they have their profile set to private. Just because I don’t like you doesn’t mean I don’t want to silent judge you at 1:00 am while I cruise the internet and finish my wine in my underwear. Hilarious! Well, thanks, I appreciate the honesty. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-facebook-users-what-fuck-is-the-hold-up-here/517861.md?page=2)