# Okay - Here's some TMI - Tell me about Lube... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 7, 2007, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553 "2007-11-07T16:07:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/1 "2007-11-07T16:07:39Z")
I used to sell sex toys at home parties, because of this some people like to bring their questions and issues to me as some kind of pseudo-expert. Here’s the deal - she is an older, post-menopausal woman and “enjoys” one of the “gifts” that this age brings - extreme dryness. She has tried a couple of different kinds of lube (water based, no added sugar, medical quality), but finds they have all resulted in UTIs (urinary tract infections). Anyone have any other ideas? I suggested a grapeseed oil one but it didn’t help… ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/2 "2007-11-07T17:09:57Z")
53 views and no suggestions? Wow. Also needed to subscribe ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/3 "2007-11-07T17:12:55Z")
Well, this is probably the most disappointed I’ve ever been after reading a post about lube. Eww. Should’ve listened to the TMI warning. ---
**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/4 "2007-11-07T17:17:19Z")
There are prescription vaginal suppositories for this problem. Could she ask her Gyne? (The reason I know this: I once had a client bring in a fecal sample from her bird. She recycled one of her own prescription vials for this purpose. I became intrigued by the drug name on the label, so I checked the PDR. Moral: remove all labels before recycling. My employees forever referred to the client (who was a bitch) as “the dried up bitch”) ETA: cite: [Natural Ways To Relieve Vaginal Dryness - Women's Health Network](http://www.womentowomen.com/menopause/treatmentsforvaginaldryness.aspx) ---
**Author:** ![Vevila](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/bc8723/32.png) [@Vevila](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vevila)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/5 "2007-11-07T18:08:51Z")
Instead of a water-based lubricant, try a silicone based lube. I recommend [Wet Naturals Silky Supreme](http://www.wetnaturals.com/) (link is work safe.) Condom safe, not silicone toy safe unless you test it - put a drop onto the toy, wait 24 hours, if there’s no reaction (usually discoloration) then it’s safe to use with a silicone toy. ---
**Author:** ![Throatwarbler\_Mangrove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8c91f0/32.png) [@Throatwarbler\_Mangrove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Throatwarbler_Mangrove)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/6 "2007-11-07T18:31:23Z")
> [@](#): > > She has tried a couple of different kinds of lube (water based, no added sugar, medical quality), but finds they have all resulted in UTIs (urinary tract infections). Has she considered the posibility that it may be something other than the lube causing the infection? ---
**Author:** ![Ca3799](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9f8e36/32.png) [@Ca3799](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ca3799)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/7 "2007-11-07T20:01:40Z")
I have found that many times, older folks don’t like to drink liquids-particularly at night- because it disturbs their sleep. Also, some UTI’s can be caused by intercourse introducing bacteria into the relatively short female urethra. I wonder if her UTI’s are caused not so much by the lubricant, but by a lack of liquids and a lack of a post-coital urination…especially if she tends to have intercourse shortly before going to sleep? ---
**Author:** ![psychobunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/54ee81/32.png) [@psychobunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psychobunny)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2007, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/8 "2007-11-07T20:04:25Z")
Topical estrogen can help; she should talk to her doctor. ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2007, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/9 "2007-11-08T01:20:50Z")
Seconding topical estrogen (cream). Should be used on a regular basis, but I’ve even heard of some women who use it AS a lube, as well. It’s actually quite…slippery…😃 I’m only 41, but after my hysterectomy, I found the skin was thinner and more prone to tearing. :eek: The topical estrogen helped with that. ---
**Author:** ![stucco](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e56c9b/32.png) [@stucco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stucco)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2007, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-heres-some-tmi-tell-me-about-lube/425553/10 "2007-11-08T03:57:05Z")
I’d also suggest sillicone lube. It doesn’t dry up as easily as water-based lubes so it might work better for her.