# Okay, so I'm finally trying online dating... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 4, 2008, 12:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658 "2008-12-04T12:45:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2009, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/41 "2009-01-12T20:38:01Z")
> [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > Are we getting more mature as a group? Forty replies and not a single joke about the irony of the username/OP combo? šŸ˜•šŸ˜•šŸ˜• The Katharine Hepburn character in _The Philadelphia Story_ makes this ironic how? ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2009, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/42 "2009-01-12T20:52:50Z")
> [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > Are we getting more mature as a group? Forty replies and not a single joke about the irony of the username/OP combo? Iā€™m missing the irony. Tracy Lord is ([link](http://www.imdb.com/character/ch0011857/)) \*the fictional haughty and attractive heiress of the Lord family in the comedy ā€œThe Philadelphia Storyā€ and its musical remake ā€œHigh Society.ā€ \* Is it because she is attractive and wealthy? Unless you were thinking of the porn star _Tracy Lords_. [link](http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000183/) (Beat by twickster - but I took time for links.) ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2009, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/43 "2009-01-12T21:43:39Z")
> [@Khadaji](#): > > ā€¦Is it because she is attractive and wealthy? > > Unless you were thinking of the porn star _Tracy Lords_. [link](http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0000183/) Itā€™s Traci, but yeah. I like your reasoning better. Iā€™ll go be immature by myself, now. šŸ˜› ---
**Author:** ![Lo-Slung\_Denim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f6c823/32.png) [@Lo-Slung\_Denim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lo-Slung_Denim)\ **Post date:** [January 12, 2009, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/44 "2009-01-12T21:51:08Z")
**TracyLord** , hope you enjoy your pint tonight! I did some internet dating with Guardian Soulmates, which tends to be very London-centric, with huge amounts of people on it. My supervisor summed up internet dating thusly ā€œYeah my sister did internet dating. She met her husband onlineā€¦but she went out with some \*proper \*knobs first.ā€ I agree with that statement. Went out with some proper knobs. My judgements were waaaaaaaaaay off and I was always let down as people said they were something they turned out not to be! Thatā€™s why I love that you are so honest in your profile! Thatā€™s the way to do it! Iā€™ve never heard of OkCupid, I only came in here to recommend Soulmates, even if I sacked it off in the end and met a guy in a bar, because the format is good and itā€™s a very popular site. I think youā€™d be a hit on it. Also, if I didnā€™t like the person messaging me, I ignored the message. And I wasnā€™t offended if someone ignored a message I sent them. It seemed to be the way it was done. Good luck šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Tracy\_Lord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@Tracy\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tracy_Lord)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2009, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/45 "2009-01-13T14:59:25Z")
The date was great ā€“ just a few laid-back pints in one of my favorite pubs, but the conversation was very easy to keep up and we ended up missing the last Tube because we were enjoying ourselves so much. A good sign, I thought! Unfortunately it did end a bit awkwardly, as I was slightly surprised by my stop and had to dart off the Night Bus. Havenā€™t heard from him yet. Would an ā€œI had a nice time, shame it ended so abruptlyā€ sound too much like ā€œman, I wish I could have tapped thatā€? I donā€™t want to send ā€œletā€™s have at it like knives RIGHT NOWā€ signals, but I thought it would be appropriate to address that little weird moment. Or maybe Iā€™m just overthinking things! **Lo-Slung Denim** , I was at a wedding in November where the bride and groom had met through Guardian Soulmates! Iā€™ve heard good things about it, but never bothered to check it out. Iā€™ll have to go nose around and see how the pickings are. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2009, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/46 "2009-01-13T15:36:31Z")
> [@Tracy\_Lord](#): > > ..Would an ā€œI had a nice time, shame it ended so abruptlyā€ sound too much like ā€œman, I wish I could have tapped thatā€? Why donā€™t you phrase it as the compliment it actually is? " I was so engrosed in our conversation, I almost missed my stop and had to dart out. Shame it ended so abruptly" and then let him ask you out again. Or do it yourself, whichever suits you both. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2009, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/47 "2009-01-13T19:51:02Z")
> [@Tracy\_Lord](#): > > **Lo-Slung Denim** , I was at a wedding in November where the bride and groom had met through Guardian Soulmates! Iā€™ve heard good things about it, but never bothered to check it out. Iā€™ll have to go nose around and see how the pickings are. šŸ™‚ Iā€™ve used Guardian Soulmates and have nothing but good things to say about it - in fact when Iā€™ve decided I want to try dating again (probably sometime around spring/summer) Iā€™ll be using that as my method. šŸ™‚ **ETA** - agree with **Maastricht** that if youā€™re going to say anything make it a clear compliment, no well-adjusted person would take that negatively. ---
**Author:** ![Lo-Slung\_Denim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f6c823/32.png) [@Lo-Slung\_Denim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lo-Slung_Denim)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2009, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/48 "2009-01-13T21:28:45Z")
> [@Illuminatiprimus](#): > > Iā€™ve used Guardian Soulmates and have nothing but good things to say about it - in fact when Iā€™ve decided I want to try dating again (probably sometime around spring/summer) Iā€™ll be using that as my method. šŸ™‚ The format is easy, and the fellas are tasty. Whatā€™s not to like? Iā€™d use it again if I felt like it - my friend is having a whale of a time since she got herself in to the top ten most popular! šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2009, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/49 "2009-01-13T21:40:16Z")
> [@Lo-Slung\_Denim](#): > > The format is easy, and the fellas are tasty. Whatā€™s not to like? Iā€™d use it again if I felt like it - my friend is having a whale of a time since she got herself in to the top ten most popular! šŸ˜ƒ Well, I donā€™t flatter myself that I would manage that so will have to settle for being a run of the mill user. šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [January 13, 2009, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/50 "2009-01-13T22:16:56Z")
> [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > Itā€™s Traci, but yeah. I like your reasoning better. Iā€™ll go be immature by myself, now. šŸ˜› I knew who you were thinking of, because Iā€™ve been thinking the same thing the entire thread. (Although _I_ knew the correct name. :D) ---
**Author:** ![Tracy\_Lord](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@Tracy\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tracy_Lord)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2009, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/51 "2009-01-14T01:32:11Z")
This is what I ended up emailing: > [@](#): > > Just wanted to say that I had a really nice time last night, even if the ending was a little abrupt (thatā€™s London Transport for you!). Hope to see you soon! I wasnā€™t able to find a way to phrase ā€œā€¦and your conversation was so engagingā€ without it reading either dewy and Victorian or impatiently hot-to-trot. Weā€™ll see! ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [January 14, 2009, 8:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658/52 "2009-01-14T08:36:35Z")
That sounds like a lovely message to receive - if the feeling was mutual (and the signs are positive for that) then he should be in touch soon. šŸ™‚ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-so-im-finally-trying-online-dating/475658.md?page=2)