# Okay women...school me! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2009, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-women-school-me/483939 "2009-02-01T00:40:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![PotLuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@PotLuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PotLuck)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2009, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-women-school-me/483939/121 "2009-02-06T21:40:19Z")
> [@Beware\_of\_Doug](#): > > I’d go further. Women can’t stand the first sign of loneliness in a man. They want someone whose social fitness is at least equal to theirs. > > If being alone is really that intolerable to you, you are going to have to find ways to beat it without involving a woman, or else youre going to have to repress it like hell every time you’re around them. Indeed, and this goes hand in hand with “be confident” advice. If you can’t project faith in yourself (or can’t mask your desperation for a partner), the message you’re giving the object of your desire is “you’ll probably think I’m not good enough for you and reject me, like everyone else does”. This will become a self-fulfilling prophecy – unless you’re (un)fortunate enough to meet someone who’s looking for a partner to rescue. In short, Queen’s “[Somebody to Love](http://www.lyricsfreak.com/q/queen/somebody+to+love_20112299.html)” is a great song to belt out at karaoke, but it’s a lousy way to look at life. ---
**Author:** ![Beware\_of\_Doug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/278dde/32.png) [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-women-school-me/483939/122 "2009-02-07T01:16:05Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > Isn’t this the case on both sides? Desperation and neediness in women are a huge turnoff for men too. Yes, but a man just thinks, “She’s clingy.” A woman thinks, “He’s less of a man.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okay-women-school-me/483939.md?page=6)