# OkCupid: A Journey **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 6, 2010, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164 "2010-04-06T17:02:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 12
**Author:** ![mutantmoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a87d85/32.png) [@mutantmoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mutantmoose)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2010, 10:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/221 "2010-04-14T10:35:37Z")
Don’t worry, I’m sure I’ll fuck it up by making inappropriate jokes. There’s no edit feature in real life ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2010, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/222 "2010-04-14T10:57:42Z")
> [@mutantmoose](#): > > Don’t worry, I’m sure I’ll fuck it up by making inappropriate jokes. There’s no edit feature in real life Here’s hoping, amirite? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2010, 10:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/223 "2010-04-19T10:42:26Z")
> [@mutantmoose](#): > > Things looking more promising for me. I’ve got a date on saturday with a girl from okcupid. We’ve been emailing and texting but we’re going to actually speak for first time tonight. Just hope we can keep conversation going in real time. **mutantmoose** , how’d that date go? [I put my _scientific_ study on my site. A few of you feature.](http://www.theinfamousnick.com/blog/okcupid1.html) ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2010, 8:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/224 "2010-04-20T08:52:49Z")
> [@kapri](#): > > Wow. You and I live in the same town. Too bad I’m twice your age. That’s never stopped me before. How are you doing this evening? ---
**Author:** ![mutantmoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a87d85/32.png) [@mutantmoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mutantmoose)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2010, 10:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/225 "2010-04-20T10:32:58Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > **mutantmoose** , how’d that date go? Hard to say for sure. The first half hour was a bit nervy as you might expect. She went to the toilet and came back and said “A friend of mine might be coming later so I may have to go and meet her”. Then in the next half hour we both relaxed a bit and made each other laugh and she went to the toilet again. When she came back she said “My friend’s not coming now”. Then we went round a couple of bars and had a very pleasant evening chatting, then we parted company at the end and went our separate ways. We’ve exchanged a few texts since then but I’m stuck in the position of I don’t know whether she doesn’t want to do it again or whether she thinks I don’t want to do it again. I’m thinking I’d better text her and say “Just to be clear, if you want to do it again sometime then I’m good with that” but I don’t want to hassle her if she’s not interested. All a bit awkward now. By the way, I didn’t mention above, there’s a bit of an age difference - I’m 43, she’s only 26. She did write to me first but that’s another reason why I’d rather let things go at her pace. Anyway, it didn’t lead to immediate hot sex if that’s what you’re asking. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2010, 10:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/226 "2010-04-20T10:37:11Z")
> [@mutantmoose](#): > > Hard to say for sure. The first half hour was a bit nervy as you might expect. She went to the toilet and came back and said “A friend of mine might be coming later so I may have to go and meet her”. Then in the next half hour we both relaxed a bit and made each other laugh and she went to the toilet again. When she came back she said “My friend’s not coming now”. > > Then we went round a couple of bars and had a very pleasant evening chatting, then we parted company at the end and went our separate ways. We’ve exchanged a few texts since then but I’m stuck in the position of I don’t know whether she doesn’t want to do it again or whether she thinks I don’t want to do it again. > > I’m thinking I’d better text her and say “Just to be clear, if you want to do it again sometime then I’m good with that” but I don’t want to hassle her if she’s not interested. All a bit awkward now. By the way, I didn’t mention above, there’s a bit of an age difference - I’m 43, she’s only 26. She did write to me first but that’s another reason why I’d rather let things go at her pace. > > Anyway, it didn’t lead to immediate hot sex if that’s what you’re asking. Sounds to me like at first she hated you (“I may have to go and meet her”) but then you, with your awesome studliness, wooed her back. As for your concern… you should ttly make a thread about it like a few of the other people have. Provide the Dope with the exact texts and I’m sure they’ll have you in a pile of that hot sex in no time. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/227 "2010-04-22T03:00:31Z")
How’s everyone doing lately? I’ve had lots of messages, but no dates. ---
**Author:** ![tr0psn4j](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@tr0psn4j](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tr0psn4j)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/228 "2010-04-22T03:19:58Z")
No messages at all but I’ve only been on the website once in the last 10 or so days. Isn’t it supposed to do all the work for me? Actually, I lied. I did get one message. ---
**Author:** ![tr0psn4j](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@tr0psn4j](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tr0psn4j)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/229 "2010-04-22T03:27:22Z")
You know what’s really fun? Using some weird words in the search to see what kind of crap people put in there profile. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/230 "2010-04-22T03:52:13Z")
I’ve had conversations with a few girls, but none of them seem interested. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/231 "2010-04-22T15:04:46Z")
> [@Autolycus](#): > > How’s everyone doing lately? I’ve had lots of messages, but no dates. Not terribly well, actually. A few messages here and there, but nothing that could really be called a conversation. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2010, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164/232 "2010-04-22T15:09:12Z")
Messages from people I’m not terribly attracted to. Nothing good yet. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-a-journey/535164.md?page=11)