# OkCupid Success Story **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 27, 2013, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332 "2013-08-27T19:28:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Crumbled\_Bumble](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ac91a4/32.png) [@Crumbled\_Bumble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crumbled_Bumble)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/1 "2013-08-27T19:28:15Z")
So, I met my current girlfriend on OkCupid. We’ve had our ups and downs, which ironically lead us towards falling in love with each other. As of now, she has moved into my apartment and we are getting her on the lease this weekend. I’m very excited. We are in love with each other and I look forward to spending my life with her. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/2 "2013-08-27T19:33:45Z")
> [@Crumbled\_Bumble](#): > > We’ve had our ups and downs, which ironically lead us towards falling in love with each other. Ups/downs, ins/outs… sounds about right. ---
**Author:** ![Crumbled\_Bumble](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ac91a4/32.png) [@Crumbled\_Bumble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crumbled_Bumble)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/3 "2013-08-27T19:45:27Z")
A lot of people tell me there aren’t supposed to be ups and downs, but we honestly wouldn’t have fallen in love with each other if we didn’t have those rocky patches. ---
**Author:** ![Greg\_Charles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/839c29/32.png) [@Greg\_Charles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greg_Charles)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/4 "2013-08-27T19:51:09Z")
> [@Crumbled\_Bumble](#): > > A lot of people tell me there aren’t supposed to be ups and downs … Shakespeare may have disagreed with that. ---
**Author:** ![want2befree](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/3e96dc/32.png) [@want2befree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/want2befree)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/5 "2013-08-27T20:08:19Z")
That’s awesome! Hope it lasts forever. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Zyada](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zyada/32/3028_2.png) [@Zyada](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zyada)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/6 "2013-08-27T20:21:10Z")
> [@Crumbled\_Bumble](#): > > A lot of people tell me there aren’t supposed to be ups and downs, but we honestly wouldn’t have fallen in love with each other if we didn’t have those rocky patches. A lot of people have it wrong then - you can’t have two people who spend any length of time together and not have ups and downs. If you don’t, it’s because one or both are trying too hard to be what the other one wants rather than to being themselves in the relationship. How y’all handle the downs is a great indicator of how good the relationship is going to be. It sounds like y’all have it right! Congrats! ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/7 "2013-08-27T21:05:48Z")
> [@Crumbled\_Bumble](#): > > A lot of people tell me there aren’t supposed to be ups and downs, but we honestly wouldn’t have fallen in love with each other if we didn’t have those rocky patches. Ups and downs are fine. But if there is anything that you don’t like but think to yourself, “It will get better,” run. It won’t get better. Believe me there were signs with my ex-wife but I chose to ignore them. If you fight with her now, it will get worse not better. Disagreements are fine. Being temporarily annoyed with each other is fine. Long drawn out fights? Not for this guy. ---
**Author:** ![Crumbled\_Bumble](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ac91a4/32.png) [@Crumbled\_Bumble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crumbled_Bumble)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/8 "2013-08-27T22:35:43Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > Ups and downs are fine. But if there is anything that you don’t like but think to yourself, “It will get better,” run. It won’t get better. Believe me there were signs with my ex-wife but I chose to ignore them. If you fight with her now, it will get worse not better. Disagreements are fine. Being temporarily annoyed with each other is fine. Long drawn out fights? Not for this guy. We set boundaries with each other when we became exclusive. We both said: -No cheating -Resolve fights before going to bed -Never use sex as a barter system -Understand where the other person is coming from -Each person should give half to the relationship -Finances are split evenly ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2013, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/9 "2013-08-27T22:47:12Z")
> [@want2befree](#): > > That’s awesome! Hope it lasts forever. 🙂 Hate to be a buzzkill, but they are both going to die eventually. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2013, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/10 "2013-08-28T03:03:28Z")
Mazel tov! ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2013, 11:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/okcupid-success-story/667332/11 "2013-08-28T11:16:17Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Hate to be a buzzkill, but they are both going to die eventually. Probably in a murder-suicide over coffee cup rings on the end table and ignoring the oil check light in the car.