# (Old) When Mom's Away...A Coasterless MMP **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Tags:** mmp\ **Created:** [January 22, 2024, 7:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477 "2024-01-22T07:34:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 17
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/321 "2024-01-28T19:34:52Z")
We just saw an iceberg with penguins on it. Unfortunately, my tablet has not-so-great resolution so the pic on FB looks like a berg with dots. **FCD** got some better ones, but they won’t be posted till we get home. But lots of icebergs here around the South Shetland Islands. And freekin’ cold out there! ---
**Author:** ![nightshadea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7ba0ec/32.png) [@nightshadea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nightshadea)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/322 "2024-01-28T19:43:56Z")
> [@dogbutler](#): > > ight heaving today. I stopped at the Likker Sto after work, they now sell 😮 [Malört](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeppson%27s_Mal%C3%B6rt) 😮 🤮 Our royal; princess doesn’t need more kitty crack we just got to where her temptations addiction is managable … > [@FairyChatMom](#): > > But lots of icebergs here around the South Shetland Islands. And freekin’ cold out there! Did you see some ponies at least? : D&R: ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/323 "2024-01-28T19:50:12Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > We just saw an iceberg with penguins on it. Are you sure they weren’t [penwings](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GflW9_t7LZk)? ---
**Author:** ![BippityBoppityBoo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bippityboppityboo/32/5745_2.png) [@BippityBoppityBoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BippityBoppityBoo)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/324 "2024-01-28T20:00:54Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > > [@JaneDoe42](#): > > > > I understand both of those things. > > I do too. > > I put the little trash can I keep next to my chair out in the middle of the floor, where it’s underfoot and highly visible. > Thus, I remind myself to do things … but to a casual visitor, it’s like, “Why do you have a flowerpot full of trash out in the living room?” > > Look, these things make perfect sense to me! Makes perfect sense to me too~says the person who writes reminders on her tiolet lid in dry erase so she doesn’t forget important things (look, it’s easy to lose or misplace a paper list but have you _ever_ misplaced your toilet? Or not looked at it several times a day?) I rest our case. [dry erase notes on the bathroom mirror works too-you always look at that a couple times of day] ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 8:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/325 "2024-01-28T20:03:03Z")
> [@BippityBoppityBoo](#): > > the person who writes reminders on her tiolet lid in dry erase Where has THIS hack been all my life?!? ---
**Author:** ![BippityBoppityBoo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bippityboppityboo/32/5745_2.png) [@BippityBoppityBoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BippityBoppityBoo)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/326 "2024-01-28T20:09:18Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Where has THIS hack been all my life?!? Waiting for me to have a traumatic brain injury and go through two years of cognitive rehab with speech pathologists and then for me to come here and feel comfortable enough with y’all to share my weird bonked brain hacks? I have lots of them. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/327 "2024-01-28T21:52:39Z")
Hi everyone - Today my friend came over with his pickup truck and 3-1/2 loads later I’m out of the apartment. As I type I’m in a room at a nearby extended stay hotel for 2 nights, then Tue afternoon will show up at my new digs. And begin titrating in the very small percentage of my stuff (clothes mostly) that fit my hyper-limited space. And I think I’ll sleep for a week. This has been both hard work and hard play. Last night I went out to Brazilian Steakhouse dinner with my PCP. She had also been my late first wife’s PCP and we’ve been friends almost 10 years now. She used to come over to our place for dinner or we three would go out. She’s very smart, very sweet, but utterly not somebody I’d be interested in as a GF/SO/etc. And like most physicians, she has about 1 hour of free time per week; the rest is work and an occasional catnap. So a pleasant grown-up time was had. She and I had more, and more animated, conversation on more topics in our 3 hour dinner than I’ve had with Her Ladyship collectively in probably 4 months. Evidently I can in fact speak & be understood by at least some people. > [@Misnomer](#): > > And I’m totally in the minority on this, but I actually understand Her Ladyship not wanting to hang onto any of your old stuff: she might agree that splitting is the best thing but it still won’t be easy, and she’ll already have the condo and things you obtained together as a constant reminder of what was. Frankly I wouldn’t want to keep any of your “before” stuff, either: getting new things would help me with moving on/a fresh start. Maybe that makes me all of the things that folks in this thread have called HL, but I figured I’d share an alternate perspective. Oh, I agree with your perspective. Had I chosen to leave my, e.g. dishes, I’d expect her to replace them soon enough. As in once she got through doing some serious shopping as is her usual MO, carefully ensuring the colors and motifs align., etc. I would totally expect that and would do the same myself were the situation reversed and the thing in question was something that mattered greatly to me. So IMO, you’re not wrong; you nailed it. What surprised me is: “Take all your dishes _today_ or I’ll drop them down the trash chute; I’d much rather eat off paper plates for a month until I find some new ones.” To me that felt gratuitously mean; Meanwhile she thought my idea of me leaving them for her _gratis_ as temporaries wasn’t me being gracious or generous, it was me being mean and controlling over her. And on exactly the rocks of these sorts of utter misunderstandings did our marriage fail. Today she was 99% cheerful and helpful & totally civil. And her 1% wasn’t notably different from the little failed communication digs that were part and parcel of every day of both our lives for the last 2 years; nothing especially harsh. I greatly admire her for that. The last thing she said to me was just about “I hope we can remain as calm and civil as today and work through this legal process promptly & easily.” To which I said “I agree completely; that’s my goal too. Thank you.” I’ve said here before that I love her and respect her. That’s still true. We just go together like a fish and an accordion. ---
**Author:** ![Seanette](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/seanette/32/9139_2.png) [@Seanette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seanette)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/328 "2024-01-28T22:00:18Z")
I’m just hoping that some of the petty spite you’ve described doesn’t show up when it comes time to deal with money matters. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/329 "2024-01-28T22:01:57Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > Last night I went out to Brazilian Steakhouse dinner Did you buy any candles when you were there? I’ve heard people mention Brazilian wax, and I guess it’s good. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/330 "2024-01-28T22:02:04Z")
I did read everyone’s postings and only have brain bytes to offer encouragement to all for your various projects, annoying or entertaining cow-orkers, beastly weather, etc. We’ve had two or three days of _de facto_ summer. Sunset is in an hour and it’s 80/27 under partly cloudy and slightly humid skies. Feels more like late March than late Jan. But that ends overnight tonight with a low of 52/11 and a planned high of 68/20 and breezy. ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/331 "2024-01-28T22:24:24Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > They were _good_ socks, too, a nice brand and very well-made, and they were one of his 1st employee purchases when he got a really great job after years of crap, and yanno, they really meant something to me. > He’s been gone over ten years, but every time I pulled them on I’d briefly think of him, and those happy times when he’d 1st gotten that job that made him so happy, and how _good_ things were for a while. > > So they were old socks with holes in them, but I’m still boo-hoo’ing over throwing them away. 🫂 I still have one of the UT sweatshirts that my late sweetie bought for me (gotta fit in at Neyland Stadium on game day, yanno). It’s threadbare and has several holes after 15 years, but it still reminds me of him. I’ve been messing around in the studio for most of the day. It’s a damp, 40F day out there with a cold wind, so indoors is the place for me. It’s back to irke tomorrow. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/332 "2024-01-28T23:04:40Z")
Howdy Y’all! We deheathenated, got back to da cave and achieved nappage. Then an early sup got cooked and et and the kitchen cleanded up. A couple of rum and Coke Zeros were enjoyed whilst sittin’ on the back porch. Also, the biiiiig trash can has been hauled all the way down to the road for pickup tomorrow. Netflix and chill comin’ up soon. **red** if’n you go to Neyland make sure you also take a plastic mustard bottle, some golf balls and other assorted trash to throw. Gotta fit in with the other Rocky Flops. Also, might want to have a spare goal post or two in case the ones on the field get thrown in the river. One never knows. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/333 "2024-01-28T23:40:34Z")
Well, we did our best this weekend. Both of us have an unpleasant cold. I was sicker yesterday but I did manage to play an adorable game with **Spouse Weasel** and **Wee Weasel** called [Spots](https://www.amazon.com/CMYK-CMYK0001-Spots/dp/B0BJFJSS23). It’s the first game the boy is able to sit and have some modicum of self-control with. He doesn’t understand all the rules but he’s fine with following Daddy’s suggestions, he enjoys rolling the dice and placing them on the dogs, etc. My Aunt is a total dog lover, so I plan to bring it to her on our next trip with the little surprise that **Wee Weasel** can play along too. My son’s obsession with weighing things on our kitchen scale goes unabated. He needs to know “How many grams?” for every one of his toys, and he’s rather obsessed with stacking and weighing the toy bins themselves, which means he keeps dumping all of his toys out on the floor so he can weigh all the bins at once. Sigh. Today **Spouse Weasel** was considerably sicker, and I was wiped, so we parked the kid on the sofa and watched _Aladdin_ (really holds up well!) and then the kid discovered Bluey. We have no food in the house so had to order in, not my preference. What I would really like is some chicken coconut turmeric soup with rice. Hopefully I will feel well enough to make that tomorrow. I don’t even know what we’re going to feed the kid this week, we are so low on groceries - I think we’re going to need to schedule a grocery delivery tomorrow. Finally, in my quest to spend less time on my phone (I didn’t pick a great weekend since I can’t move much), I started playing the PC Game [Dorfromantik](https://store.steampowered.com/app/1455840/Dorfromantik/), which is charming puzzle game and a good way to pass the time when you’re kind of lethargic. It’s challenging enough to keep me wanting to top my last score, but relaxing enough that you don’t feel a ton of pressure. Tomorrow is the deadline for the grant application I’ve been wailing about, so it should be over by COB. Then all I’ll have left is MDHHS reporting, which hopefully goes smoothly, and I’m trying not to panic that I don’t have the OVW report yet from the lady who just went out on maternity leave. I’m just working on not thinking about things that upset me. (I’m definitely not going to check my work email on Sunday night. Nope.) ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/334 "2024-01-28T23:56:40Z")
> [@swampbear](#): > > **red** if’n you go to Neyland make sure you also take a plastic mustard bottle, some golf balls and other assorted trash to throw. Gotta fit in with the other Rocky Flops. Also, might want to have a spare goal post or two in case the ones on the field get thrown in the river. One never knows. The years that Saturdays were spent there were when they were still good. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Stainless\_Steel\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_stainless_steel_rat/32/5727_2.png) [@The\_Stainless\_Steel\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Stainless_Steel_Rat)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/335 "2024-01-29T00:03:43Z")
Evening all. Spent a couple hours at the gym, 750 calories burned off, which considering my meal at Texas Roadhouse was nearly 2,000 calories, made the day about a break-even, once sammiches and snacks this evening are counted. Probably run the dishwasher tonight when I finish this message and have it emptied to start the week. Down to 44F and the next few evenings will be down near freezing, but there’s no rain forecasted so I’ll manage. **Oopsie** , glad you made it through the week. **shoe** , I have pictures of my Mom and Dad from when they were in High School…few if any others know who or what they are, but I do. Crying over socks…those socks…makes perfect sense to me. > [@FairyChatMom](#): > > And freekin’ cold out there! Just remember, it’s Summer in the Southern Hemisphere… **BBBoo** , I tend to tape notes to the bottom of my computer to remind me of things. Have to remember that toilet idea. **Pilot** , glad life as you hadn’t known it is beginning to take a rhythm of it’s own. **{{Spicey}}** , hope you and Spouse get to feeling better soon. And fingers corssed all goes according to plan with the grant and the other stuff. OK, dinner sammiches have been consumed so need tp get the dishwasher in operation. All y’all take care and if not before, I’ll catch you on the next MMP. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/336 "2024-01-29T01:24:36Z")
Easy dinner tonight. Trader Joe’s Asian-Style Vegetables, Trader Joe’s chicken thigh meat, Trader Joe’s Shrimp Gyoza, and the leftover broccoli and cauliflower from Mrs. L.A.'s belated birthday dinner. ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/337 "2024-01-29T02:57:06Z")
And the NFC games ends with illegal touching. #NotCode LOLions I cleaned. I napped. I watched handegg. Poke loin is baking, {{{{ **Spicey** and family}}}} > [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > So they were old socks with holes in them, but I’m still boo-hoo’ing over throwing them away. {{{{ **shoe** }}}} > [@BippityBoppityBoo](#): > > [dry erase notes on the bathroom mirror works too-you always look at that a couple times of day] My dry erase board is on the fridge, cause I’m not likely to forget to grab a beer. 🍺😉 ---
**Author:** ![Paintcharge](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/paintcharge/32/7946_2.png) [@Paintcharge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paintcharge)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/338 "2024-01-29T04:54:04Z")
**shoe** {{}}just cuz. Love ya babe. Me, I’m at I just don’t wanna any more. Sort of feel like I’m only hanging on to find out what happens next in my book. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![JaneDoe42](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janedoe42/32/14104_2.png) [@JaneDoe42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JaneDoe42)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/339 "2024-01-29T05:16:55Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Because dry winter air (hello bloody nose!) Summer is what does it to me. Well…not the summer, the AC required to live through the summer. > [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > I would embroider this onto a pillow for you, if I knew how to embroider! Um, yeah, hate to break it to you but cross-stitch _is_ embroidery. > [@scareyfaerie](#): > > I shall grit my teeth and read them…that man needs to learn how to use a comma or two! You are a very good friend. I’ve been super entertained by Sky News lately. Actually, I watch it because it entertains me…weather people who don’t get excited over storms aren’t something in my world. But anyhow, they are reporting that while putting salt in tea isn’t an official diplomatic policy, the American Embassy **does** microwave their water. > [@LSLGuy](#): > > Evidently I can in fact speak & be understood by at least some people. These sort of little things you’ve dropped over time are why I haven’t been a fan of HL for quite a while. You are a good man who deserves some happiness. Sneaking around in the kitchen to make coffee in the morning doesn’t sound like happiness to me. I’m glad you got your stuff moved out. I hope everything keeps going smoothly and that you will be flying off to exotic locals…or renting an apartment in Brazil shortly. > [@Johnny\_L.A](#): > > I’ve heard people mention Brazilian wax, and I guess it’s good. snert!!! > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > My son’s obsession with weighing things on our kitchen scale goes unabated. From what you’ve said, he’s a super smart kid. Teach him how to change the scale from grams to ounces and let him weigh everything again! Would he understand how to set the tar yet…or would losing the weight of the first thing weighed distress him because he doesn’t know how to subtract yet? I hope you guys start feeling better soon. Being sick with cats is a pain because they have to be fed, being sick around a child that needs more than a can of gooshy fud tossed in the bowl has got to suck. > [@Paintcharge](#): > > Me, I’m at I just don’t wanna any more. 🫂 😿 ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477/340 "2024-01-29T06:50:15Z")
> [@Paintcharge](#): > > Sort of feel like I’m only hanging on to find out what happens next in my book. Sorry. Apology rejected. That’s a really poetic way to phrase a really shitty feeling, by the way. > [@JaneDoe42](#): > > the American Embassy **does** microwave their water Please tell me they named their microwave “The Harbor.” > [@LSLGuy](#): > > And on exactly the rocks of these sorts of utter misunderstandings did our marriage fail. That’s so hard to get past. Neither of you is doing anything wrong; you just have such utterly different perspectives on the world, different preferences and opinions … _and that’s okay_ in itself (hell, the MMP is a great microcosm of different ways of life) but you - and she - can’t change who you fundamentally are. > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > he enjoys rolling the dice and placing them on the dogs, etc He likes numbers; he likes precision and things being “right” e.g. where they’re supposed to be … this game seems right up his alley! How’d you find out about it? > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > the little surprise that **Wee Weasel** can play along too. That will be great for everyone! He’ll get to participate with the Big Grownups, and she’ll get the fun of having him playing along. > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > My son’s obsession with weighing things on our kitchen scale goes unabated. He needs to know “How many grams?” I can’t recall how old he is - would he enjoy weighing a measuring cup filled with varying amounts of water? He can see how ounces relate to cups, for example… > [@dogbutler](#): > > LOLions Apparently it went from, “Oh, we GOT this” to, uh, not so great (but still close!) and man, our Oven Master was _devastated._ * * * Alright, I’m usually the last one awake on Sunday nights. (Where my insomniacs at?!) I’ll see y’all on the next thread. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477.md?page=16) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/old-when-moms-away-a-coasterless-mmp/996477.md?page=18)