# On Cuddling

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-cuddling/486484>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [February 19, 2009, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-cuddling/486484 "2009-02-19T00:38:54Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![AngelSoft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angelsoft/32/440_2.png) [@AngelSoft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelSoft)\
**Post date:** [February 19, 2009, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-cuddling/486484/61 "2009-02-19T23:46:20Z")

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> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#):
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> Rubbing a boner against me to wake me up guarantees that I will awaken quite out of the mood. Rubbing a boner against me when I’m awake guarantees that I will be totally turned off, unless I am already agreeable to the idea of having sex. Try rubbing your hands over a woman, if you want to arouse her.

Exactly. Once, near the end of the relationship, I woke up to find him actively (and not in his sleep) rubbing against me and trying to use me as a masturbation aid. I was pissed and I do believe that was the last time I let him share a bed with me.

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**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\
**Post date:** [February 22, 2009, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-cuddling/486484/62 "2009-02-22T00:12:58Z")

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> [@MOIDALIZE](#):
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> To be fair, we don’t really have any say over when the boner decides to show up at night.

And there are those of us who are happy when the boner shows up at all…

Actually, we can’t cuddle in bed any more. I have to wear a CPAP machine these days, and SWMBO says it’s like snuggling with Darth Vader.

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**Author:** ![Creaky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e68b1a/32.png) [@Creaky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Creaky)\
**Post date:** [February 22, 2009, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-cuddling/486484/63 "2009-02-22T00:31:21Z")

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> [@LouisB](#):
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> Separate bedrooms is the only way to go. Share a bed as required, then someone gets up and leaves.

I totally agree. When I was dating, in my opinion this was the best course of action.

When I was living with somebody and because we had a small apartment, we had to share a bedroom. But I insisted on separate beds. As far as I’m concerned one bed is for sex, two beds are for sleeping.

I think cuddling is annoying. If you’re that much awake, get up and make me some food! 😛

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