# on my, what a sad, sad day it's been **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 11, 2005, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838 "2005-06-11T04:38:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![lost\_in\_cyberspace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6a8cbe/32.png) [@lost\_in\_cyberspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lost_in_cyberspace)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2005, 4:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838/1 "2005-06-11T04:38:55Z")
I just returned from a funeral for a 14 year old boy who committed suicide. It was probably the saddest thing I have seen - ever. This boy seemingly had it all, wonderful parents, two great sisters, tons of relatives, tons of friends, good in school, seemed to love life. I could go on and on. I not only knew the parents well, I also knew 2 of his aunts & 2 of his uncles, upstanding family. Apparently he left a note saying he had thought of it for a while and it was nobody’s fault and that he loved everybody. On the outside, he seemed as happy as a lark, nobody had a clue that there was anything wrong. I know we will never know, but what could have possessed this boy to do this? I mean, if he outwardly sad or crying all the time, had no friends, did lousy in school, ect. but not so with this kid. Chemical imbalance maybe? can a person that young be that depressed that he would want to end his life, and leave absolutely no clues to his state of mind (obviously yes, BUT I JUST DON’T FREAKIN GET IT!!!) Okay, I’m gone to have another good cry - ---
**Author:** ![Campion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@Campion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Campion)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2005, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838/2 "2005-06-11T05:11:05Z")
Hang in there. I really don’t know what to say, other than, well, hang in there. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Cymbeline](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_cymbeline/32/9244_2.png) [@Green\_Cymbeline](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Cymbeline)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2005, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838/3 "2005-06-11T05:51:30Z")
That is so sad, and I am so sorry, especially for his family! It is so hard to understand. But I have gone through similar stuff. To the outside observer, I am happy, successful, smart, have lots of friends, great family, etc. … But sometimes deep inside I feel the same way as that boy, and I have had this problem since my early teens (I am 29 now). I have been on antidepressants for the majority of my adult life. I can’t even explain it to myself. I guess I just need to know that I have ultimate control over my life… I didn’t ask or choose to be born, but I have control over whether I remain here. And when shit gets too tough, sometimes I feel like it’s just not worth it… I know in my rational mind that is not true, but sometimes emotion takes over. Like I said, it’s hard to explain. It sounds like this boy was smart, and thought it through. It’s a shame he had to hurt his family like that. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2005, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838/4 "2005-06-11T17:19:34Z")
Moving thread from IMHO to MPSIMS. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2005, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838/5 "2005-06-11T17:23:38Z")
When adolesents suffer from Clinical Depression, they withdraw, & get very quiet. Too often, parents react with relief after a noisy childhood. ---
**Author:** ![Pushkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ee59a6/32.png) [@Pushkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pushkin)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2005, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838/6 "2005-06-12T00:12:38Z")
Yup, it can be you don’t suspect anything till you hear they’re dead. Just reminded me there was a memorial mass for someone I knew who commited suicide just the other day. ---
**Author:** ![Carm6773](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/2bfe46/32.png) [@Carm6773](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carm6773)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2005, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-my-what-a-sad-sad-day-its-been/307838/7 "2005-06-12T00:59:21Z")
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