# On the gender politics surrounding fellatio: **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [December 27, 2002, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216 "2002-12-27T19:39:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2002, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216/41 "2002-12-30T23:27:09Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by robertliguori \* > \*\* > Heh. No one complains about sacredness when we debate religion. \*\* What if one gives blow jobs that are a religious experience for the recipient? ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2002, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216/42 "2002-12-31T03:53:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eva Luna \* > \*\*What if one gives blow jobs that are a religious experience for the recipient? \*\* Can I have his phone number? ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2002, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216/43 "2002-12-31T04:28:35Z")
Heh, according to a friend of mine, her BJs are a religious experience. I told her I am definitely interested in receiving one. We’ll see if she comes through for me. Anyway, I don’t see what is wrong with repressing someone in the bedroom. What business is it of YOURS? Some women repress their men, some men repress their women. I mean abuse is not reasonable, but many times relationships ARE NOT equal, and it’s pretty common in either direction. In a relationship you basically make a deal as to how things are going to work, and if it’s good for both sides then that’s great, let them work it out. There is no holy crusade to against blow jobs. Personally I prefer giving cunnilingus to receiving a blow job, but I think that’s because most women don’t know how to give blow jobs, and having not received too many passable ones I don’t really know how to direct traffic. Erek ---
**Author:** ![racosun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bc79bd/32.png) [@racosun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racosun)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2002, 9:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216/44 "2002-12-31T09:13:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lamia \* > **…it’s hardly a ringing endorsement of fellatio. Is the average straight woman going to be particularly keen to perform an act if it is associated in her mind primarily with “degrading insult for gay men”? Probably not.** This can be used for the words “fucker” and “mother fucker” as well. Do fathers cringe away from intercourse because they don’t want to be known as a “mother fucker”? Do I enjoy intercourse less because my friends sometimes call me a “fucker”? Not at all. I’m not sure what your point is. ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2002, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216/45 "2002-12-31T17:22:11Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by racosun \* > **Do fathers cringe away from intercourse because they don’t want to be known as a “mother fucker”?** Don’t tell me that I have to be the one to explain to you that “motherfucker” means “one who fucks his own mother”. ---
**Author:** ![racosun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bc79bd/32.png) [@racosun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racosun)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2002, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216/46 "2002-12-31T20:28:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lamia \* > \*\*Don’t tell me that I have to be the one to explain to you that “motherfucker” means “one who fucks his own mother”. \*\* LMAO!! Just like I had to explain what a “cocksucker” meant, aye? I think you get my point, though. I hope, anyways. ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2003, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216/47 "2003-01-01T01:03:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by racosun \* > \*\*I think you get my point, though. I hope, anyways. \*\* You had a point? I thought you were just quibbling with me for fun. Or perhaps that _was_ your point. If so, good job. You even managed to get me to do the same! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/on-the-gender-politics-surrounding-fellatio/145216.md?page=2)