# Online Dating Experiences **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 25, 2012, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/online-dating-experiences/642072 "2012-11-25T16:49:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 18
**Author:** ![Dr.Colossus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.colossus/32/9423_2.png) [@Dr.Colossus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Colossus)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2012, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/online-dating-experiences/642072/341 "2012-12-05T02:03:15Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > You’re really not bright, are you? I can’t speak for Fuzzy, but we’ve been on these boards for a while, have never had any unpleasant interactions with him, so I’m going to guess he doesn’t think I’m a loser. I can speak for myself, however, and can say with great certainty I don’t think of myself as bad people. not bright like you are pleasant. so for _clarity_-when the two of you insulted all the user\* of dating sites, you both meant “but not US when WE used the dating sites?” all women on there are socially inept losers–and a pool of exceptionally bad people–but you, being a women who was on a dating site, are excluded–and the both of you, being on there, are the exceptions to the rule of bad people? sorry, i missed the portion where you clarified the caveats to your sweeping insult of every user of dating sites. apparently i am not that bright since i missed it. or maybe it’s just imprudent to level swaths of insults against millions of people because it’s really silly…especially when you were one of them, too. it would stand to reason if you like yourself and have self respect and YOU tried, there could be a ton of other decent folk on there as well. \*fuzzy only insulted all the _women_, not all the users. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Colossus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.colossus/32/9423_2.png) [@Dr.Colossus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Colossus)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2012, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/online-dating-experiences/642072/342 "2012-12-05T02:55:26Z")
^ and i of course realize that even tho it really is what you both said, you don’t actually believe everyone on dating sites are terrible people or losers. i know you don’t actually feel that way. what i am trying to clarify is how unnecessary it is to level such insults simply because you didn’t like it or it didn’t go well for you. there’s probably a similar distribution of terrible people online proportional to real life. (tho people do tend to act like total bastards more online than in life). _coughs_ i just don’t see the point of demonizing a whole giant system simply because you don’t like it. _i_ don’t like it. _i_ never want to try it again. but that doesn’t entitle me to say the whole thing is pointless or useless, to insult all the users, etc. the success can actually be measured. that still doesn’t mean anyone \*has \*to like it. but there’s a way to state that without insulting everyone who does use it, or being credulously disbelieving of any anecdotes of success, or pretending it’s a scam. or all of the above. it’s ok just to not like something just because you don’t like it. just you don’t have to build it into some kind of devil machine made of brainwashed sub-humans who are too easily separated from their money. _don’t like it, just pretend at least some objectivity_. and bear in mind you wanted to try it yourself, too– like i said, if you respect yourself and you were willing to try, it’s perfectly reasonable to conclude many people just like you are trying it as well. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2012, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/online-dating-experiences/642072/343 "2012-12-05T03:53:11Z")
Since this topic has dissolved into nothing but taking potshots at others and heated debating, I’m going to close it. Feel free to make a new one (preferably in Great Debates if you wish to debate the merits of online dating) if you want to get back to the OP. > [@Modern\_Master](#): > > What reason is that? Oh my, someone disagrees with you. Time to get hostile! This is a warning for you, stop replying like this in topics to people. If you have something to say that’s on topic, say it, otherwise take all other things (like this post) to the Pit. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/online-dating-experiences/642072.md?page=17)