# OP: Why is your breast on my hand? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 1, 2003, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277 "2003-12-01T15:55:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Mycroft\_Holmes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a5b964/32.png) [@Mycroft\_Holmes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mycroft_Holmes)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2003, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/41 "2003-12-02T16:41:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by minor7flat5 \* > \*\*Since guilt shows on my face like a neon sign, I immediately told my wife as we exited the store, with feigned shock of course. She explained that girls there are often more … forward than American girls. Perhaps the sight of a tall slim gringo was too much for her (yeah right…) > \*\* Well, I have also been to Brazil (together with my Brazilian wife) and I can confirm that the girls in Brazil are indeed more … forward. I have even had my tushy pinched while walking down the street hand-in-hand with my wife! I think forward really isn’t a strong enough term. Oh, and **Winston** , put me down for flirting too. In the situation you described, it had to be deliberate. Especially if the hand-boob interface lasted longer than a few milliseconds. ---
**Author:** ![hapaXL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/94ad74/32.png) [@hapaXL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hapaXL)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2003, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/42 "2003-12-02T19:50:15Z")
I’m 31 now, but I worked with high school students (teacher, counselor) in my mid-late 20s. On many occassions young women, while standing next to me (usually leaning over to “read something over my shoulder”), placed their breasts in the crook of my arm. I wondered if it was accidental and if they noticed as much as I did - ALARM! Teenage breast contact! Do I jerk away or just play it off? Which is more inappropriate?! What’s an ethical man to do? Eventually, I recognized that the repeat offenders were flirty girls who showed a little too much interest in me. It’s definitely a deliberate action. (Next time we’ll go into the whole bending over with low-cut shirts issue. Hazards of the workplace, I suppose.) ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2003, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/43 "2003-12-02T20:41:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jackelope \* > \*\*You’re kidding, right? > > We are aware of it as keenly as we would be aware of a shotgun pointed in our faces. Except happy. So, so happy. \*\* Ummm, no, I was serious. I always wondered, but hoped that if it were a more friendly, as opposed to boyfriend/girlfriend thing that the man was thinking “appropriately”. To clarify, regarding the “not being aware that a breast might momentarily press against someone”. Of course you know that there is contact, but for me at least, there’s no sexual connotations at all, so I don’t tend to “notice” it so much on my end. I guess I should start. ---
**Author:** ![Winston\_Smith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e95f7d/32.png) [@Winston\_Smith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winston_Smith)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2003, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/44 "2003-12-02T20:51:05Z")
It would seem there is a definite question about how long the “boob pressing” lasted. I assure you, it was no momentary thing. It was a prolonged pressing, indeed. I’m off to class now, so we’ll see if there’s some kind of follow-up on her part. In the name of science, I will make myself available for additional “boob pressing” should circumstances permit. Wish me luck, Winston ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2003, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/45 "2003-12-02T21:11:37Z")
I’m guessing there wasn’t any carpet static? ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2003, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/46 "2003-12-02T21:17:37Z")
Next time rub your feet on the carpet a couple of times just as she approaches. If she keeps pressing electrocuted nipples against your hand then yeah, she’s definately flirting. ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [December 2, 2003, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/47 "2003-12-02T22:05:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CanvasShoes \* > \*\*Ummm, no, I was serious. I always wondered, but hoped that if it were a more friendly, as opposed to boyfriend/girlfriend thing that the man was thinking “appropriately”. > > To clarify, regarding the “not being aware that a breast might momentarily press against someone”. Of course you know that there is contact, but for me at least, there’s no sexual connotations at all, so I don’t tend to “notice” it so much on my end. > > I guess I should start. \*\* I should clarify: we don’t automatically think it’s a flirt or any kind of sexual overture; the existence of this thread is evidence of how confused many of us are in such matters. It’s just one more wonderful facet of getting hugs. So please don’t go depriving anybody of hugs just because of what some chump on a message board (that’s _moi_) told you. ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/48 "2003-12-03T01:09:07Z")
I’m also amply-endowed & also suspect that she was flirting. That is all… ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/49 "2003-12-03T01:56:41Z")
I dunno. She may well have been flirting, but I’m absent-minded, vacuous and uncoordinated enough to do something like that without it being deliberate. So not-flirting is a possibility. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/50 "2003-12-03T02:02:02Z")
I’m amply endowed and sometimes I don’t know where my boobies are. The side of my boobies on the back of your hand would probably mean nothing to me. But then again, it would probably mean nothing to you. ---
**Author:** ![Daftbugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Daftbugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daftbugger)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2003, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277/51 "2003-12-03T13:09:22Z")
Well endowed going for accident here. I went to a gig a couple of weeks ago (Linkin Park, if you must know) in the crush at the front (where I was feeling very old!) as I was trying not to elbow anyone one, I realised that I’d ended up with my arm around the waist of a rather innocent 18 year old for a good 10 minutes. Oooops. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/op-why-is-your-breast-on-my-hand/216277.md?page=2)