# Open toed shoes at a funeral? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 16, 2008, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551 "2008-04-16T03:07:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![velvetjones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5f9b8f/32.png) [@velvetjones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velvetjones)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/21 "2008-04-16T15:01:18Z")
I think those shoes are fine, unless you wore something wildly inappropriate no one will even notice. I agree that you may want to consider whether or not you’ll have to walk through the grass in those, not impossible but kind of a pain. And, while I wore pantyhose with open toed shoes when I was a teenager back in the '70s, here in FL it’s considered very tacky to wear open toed shoes with panty hose but I realize that may be different for people who live in cooler climates. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/22 "2008-04-16T15:56:48Z")
[QUOTE=velvetjones] I think those shoes are fine, unless you wore something wildly inappropriate no one will even notice. I agree that you may want to consider whether or not you’ll have to walk through the grass in those, not impossible but kind of a pain. And, while I wore pantyhose with open toed shoes when I was a teenager back in the '70s, here in FL it’s considered very tacky to wear open toed shoes with panty hose but I realize that may be different for people who live in cooler climates. [/QUOTE] I live in Minnesota and its still … I hesitate to say tacky …“fashion innocent.” You wear closed toe shoes in the winter or when you need to wear hose. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/23 "2008-04-16T16:08:11Z")
[QUOTE=Renee] I’ll be attending a funeral soon, and the only black dress shoes I have are open-toed. Do I have to buy new ones, or will these work? [http://picasaweb.google.com/raenjapan/Shoes/photo#5189674258276387490](http://picasaweb.google.com/raenjapan/Shoes/photo#5189674258276387490) [/QUOTE] I have been to a depressing number of funerals recently. No one will give a damn. They’ll be too busy, you know, grieving. Just don’t send text messages during the eulogy like my idiot cousins during during Aunt Gigi’s funeral. ---
**Author:** ![mazinger\_z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5f9b8f/32.png) [@mazinger\_z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mazinger_z)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/24 "2008-04-16T17:09:44Z")
Unbelievable! What’s next? White shoes after labor day? ---
**Author:** ![ThirdOne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@ThirdOne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThirdOne)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/25 "2008-04-16T17:18:31Z")
Once upon a time, at the dawn of history, only black was acceptable. We wore gloves and hats to weddings and black was an absolute no-no on anyone; white shoes/handbags (they HAD to match) were only worn/used Memorial Day to Labor Day. Then, it was black or whatever dark colour. Today, bridesmaids, mothers of the bride and/or groom wear black to weddings. “Fashion” has changed drastically over the years. I agree with no bright toenail polish, but I see nothing wrong with the shoes. Just my 2 cents. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/26 "2008-04-16T17:31:20Z")
[QUOTE=NinetyWt] Ain’t that what they make sandalfoot hose for? 😕 [/QUOTE] Are you talking about the ones that have a hole at the end for your toes? Because those are just satanic, fashion-wise. **Renee** , I’m sorry to hear that you have to attend. Was this someone close? ---
**Author:** ![Khampelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Khampelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khampelf)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/27 "2008-04-16T17:33:58Z")
[QUOTE=atomicbadgerrace] …then, what? [/QUOTE] Then they may think that Renee’s footwear is inappropriate. ---
**Author:** ![Zabali\_Clawbane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/ecd19e/32.png) [@Zabali\_Clawbane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zabali_Clawbane)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/28 "2008-04-16T18:51:18Z")
It’s Spring, open toed shoes that aren’t too flashy, and are black are acceptable. Open toed shoes in the winter though, wouldn’t be comfy. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/29 "2008-04-16T19:16:58Z")
[QUOTE=The Sonoran Lizard King] Then they may think that Renee’s footwear is inappropriate. [/QUOTE] It is? ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/30 "2008-04-16T21:49:17Z")
[QUOTE=Guinastasia] Are you talking about the ones that have a hole at the end for your toes? [/QUOTE] I think that’s what they call footless tights. Or something. [Sheer-toe](http://i1.ebayimg.com/05/i/000/ag/09/1924_1_bl.JPG)hose is probably what I meant. And I’ve _never_ heard of not wearing hose with open-toed shoes. That plain puzzles me. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/31 "2008-04-16T21:50:27Z")
[QUOTE=Guinastasia] Are you talking about the ones that have a hole at the end for your toes? Because those are just satanic, fashion-wise. **Renee** , I’m sorry to hear that you have to attend. Was this someone close? [/QUOTE] Thanks. It’s my father in law–he actually isn’t dead yet, but he’s in the end stages of cancer, and probably only has a few days. We’re flying to the states today to be with him. He’s a good man, and we will miss him. Thanks for the shoe advice, everyone. I think they should be fine. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/32 "2008-04-16T21:51:10Z")
[QUOTE=Zabali\_Clawbane] Open toed shoes in the winter though, wouldn’t be comfy. [/QUOTE] In some locales winter != cold. I don’t know if it’s cold where **Renee** is right now, or not. ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/33 "2008-04-16T21:54:44Z")
\*\*NinetyWt \*\* I am moving to MS in a month or so. If I ever catch you out with sandals or open toed shoes and hose, I will personally steal every pair of pantyhose you own and stalk you at Wal-Mart when you try to buy replacements. It’s just one of those things that friends don’t let friends do. ---
**Author:** ![Zabali\_Clawbane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/ecd19e/32.png) [@Zabali\_Clawbane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zabali_Clawbane)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/34 "2008-04-16T22:01:38Z")
[QUOTE=NinetyWt] In some locales winter != cold. I don’t know if it’s cold where **Renee** is right now, or not. [/QUOTE] Well, but winter in those places often means rain, right? Open toed shoes in the mud…not good. 😉 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Scarlett67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlett67/32/7387_2.png) [@Scarlett67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlett67)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/35 "2008-04-16T22:09:26Z")
I’m just glad to hear that you’re taking the trouble to dress appropriately, instead of in old jeans and sneakers and your “I’m with Stupid” T-shirt. Too much of that sort of thing at the funerals I’ve been to in the last few years. ---
**Author:** ![ouryL](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ouryl/32/6067_2.png) [@ouryL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouryL)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/36 "2008-04-16T22:25:02Z")
[QUOTE=Renee] I’ll be attending a funeral soon, and the only black dress shoes I have are open-toed. Do I have to buy new ones, or will these work? [http://picasaweb.google.com/raenjapan/Shoes/photo#5189674258276387490](http://picasaweb.google.com/raenjapan/Shoes/photo#5189674258276387490) [/QUOTE] Black stockings? ---
**Author:** ![Mrs\_Johnson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7cd45c/32.png) [@Mrs\_Johnson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs_Johnson)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/37 "2008-04-16T22:25:39Z")
Another vote for “they’re fine”. And like others said - be careful if you have to walk in grass. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/38 "2008-04-16T22:29:23Z")
[QUOTE=ShelliBean] \*\*NinetyWt \*\* I am moving to MS in a month or so. If I ever catch you out with sandals or open toed shoes and hose, I will personally steal every pair of pantyhose you own and stalk you at Wal-Mart when you try to buy replacements. [/QUOTE] Ha! Very easy since I don’t _have_ any open-toed dress sandals/shoes. [QUOTE=Zabali\_Clawbane] Well, but winter in those places often means rain, right? Open toed shoes in the mud [/QUOTE] We do have _some_ sidewalks. One or two. Like, in the city and all. 😉 I’ve never been able to keep up with fashion anyway - the deal used to be that grown-up ladies wore hose out in public, and nice shoes. Going bare-legged was scandalous! Of course all that has changed (for the better, considering our 100-degree steam-bath days in July). But I’ve seen lots and lots of lady feet in sheer-toe hose, in open- or peep-toed shoes. I was clueless that it’s a faux pas now. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/39 "2008-04-16T22:34:45Z")
[QUOTE=ouryL] Black stockings? [/QUOTE] :: twitch :: No. Stockings. With. Open-toed. Shoes. Be careful, lest **Shellibean** discover where you live. ---
**Author:** ![Khampelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Khampelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khampelf)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2008, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/open-toed-shoes-at-a-funeral/445551/40 "2008-04-16T22:54:15Z")
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