# Oral s\_x with older women (TMI) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 22, 2003, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236 "2003-01-22T16:31:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2003, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/21 "2003-01-22T21:32:32Z")
> [@](#): > > Unfortunately, the last older woman I ate out was a squirter. What an incredible way with words you have. ---
**Author:** ![royjwood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ce73a5/32.png) [@royjwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/royjwood)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2003, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/22 "2003-01-22T21:35:05Z")
badmana, some women can not produce their own lube, and with age, this many women who could while younger can no longer when older. My wife and I do keep, KY on the bedside table, but that is just for us and only for penile penetration. Oral is all natural… ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2003, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/23 "2003-01-22T22:23:07Z")
**LouisB** , I consider it a real shame we’ll probably never meet. You’re alright. ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2003, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/24 "2003-01-22T22:40:59Z")
Just a note that it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with age - some women just lubricate more than others, regardless of age. Also, birth control pills often have the side effect of reducing lubrication. And if you’re taking any kind of antihistimine/decongestant, the nasal passages aren’t the only thing that are affected. And FTR, like **smalltowngirl** , I am really ooged out at the thought using a vibe or other sex toy that someone else had used prior. I buy my toys new at Good Vibrations, not at ebay. ---
**Author:** ![smalltowngirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4bbf92/32.png) [@smalltowngirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smalltowngirl)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2003, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/25 "2003-01-22T22:53:16Z")
Although, let me add: fresh batteries are a must. Nothing’s worse than having to slap it to get it started, eh? Back to the OP, I would think oral would be sufficient, for oral, but otherwise lube can do amazing things, even if there isn’t a noticeable problem in the first place. 🙂 STG ---
**Author:** ![OldBroad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ed655f/32.png) [@OldBroad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OldBroad)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2003, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/26 "2003-01-22T23:53:00Z")
Don’t want to turn this into a debate, but I’m amused that a guy, **Lizard** , who is by his very maleness a “squirter” doesn’t like being the squirtee. Boy, talk about your double standard. As to the OP, I agree that dryness shouldn’t be an issue. ---
**Author:** ![soulburnz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@soulburnz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/soulburnz)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/27 "2003-01-23T01:09:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by porcupine \* > \*\* I buy my toys new at Good Vibrations, not at ebay. \*\* Is that a sig line or what ? I just about peed my pants on that one. Many types of medication cause dryness - it can happen at any age. Astroglide does not taste too hot - FYI… ---
**Author:** ![Manduck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/manduck/32/256_2.png) [@Manduck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Manduck)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/28 "2003-01-23T01:32:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lizard \* > \*\*Unfortunately, the last older woman I ate out was a squirter., and didn’t warn me. The memory of this has prevented me from performing the act ever since. \*\* Oh well, _chacun a son gout_. What’s her phone number? ---
**Author:** ![Padeye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@Padeye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Padeye)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/29 "2003-01-23T02:38:29Z")
Haven’t you people ever heard of olive oil? Versatile stuff. You can annoint with it and I even hear you can use it for cooking. ---
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/30 "2003-01-23T03:12:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Padeye \* > \*\*Haven’t you people ever heard of olive oil? > > Versatile stuff. You can annoint with it and I even hear you can use it for cooking. \*\* Methinks _that’s_ a ceremony you won’t be seeing in the Catholic Church any time soon. ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/31 "2003-01-23T15:30:19Z")
Note to self: never be too honest about the sex life. Jumping to conclusions is apparently an Olympic sport. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by smalltowngirl \* > **Maybe I’m old fashioned, but I would be totally disgusted with a guy who kept a vibrator by his bed. I mean, those are really personal items and have been _places_ if you know what I mean. The first thought that would go through my head would be “who else has used this thing?” followed by "does he use it?"** Yes, you ARE old-fashioned. Don’t get out of our small town much, do we? 😃 I suppose I can’t blame you for making assumptions. First of all, it’s not like I just haul the thing out as soon as I get a woman’s pants off. It’s just one more tool to use in an otherwise complete sexual experience. I bought it mostly for experimentation. You are the _first_ woman who has been “disgusted” by it, **porcupine** being the second. But then again, I didn’t explain just how rarely I actually use vibrators. Yes, that is plural, the reason being that since it never comes into play unless I know a woman well, I buy a new one each time. Battery powered ones are pretty cheap, anyway. The one I normally use cost $12. The one I have now has never been used, on myself or anyone else. Your attitude really surprises me. I’m sure you wouldn’t object to sex WIHTOUT a vibrator, yet a person’s tongue and genitals have been “places” too. Do you demand your sex partners shower before each liason, in case they urinated earlier in the day? ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/32 "2003-01-23T15:37:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OldBroad \* > \*\*Don’t want to turn this into a debate, but I’m amused that a guy, **Lizard** , who is by his very maleness a “squirter” doesn’t like being the squirtee. Boy, talk about your double standard. > \*\* What debate? I’ve never known a single woman who wanted to take a load in the mouth, either. Or who would not have been annoyed if some guy had just gone and done it anyway, without talking to her about it There’s no debate here… ---
**Author:** ![unclviny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e274bd/32.png) [@unclviny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/unclviny)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/33 "2003-01-23T16:32:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lizard \* > \*\*What debate? I’ve never known a single woman who wanted to take a load in the mouth, either. Or who would not have been annoyed if some guy had just gone and done it anyway, without talking to her about it There’s no debate here… \*\* a bj without swallowing is like a day without sunshine, “taking a load in the mouth” is standard equipment and in my experience a LOT of women enjoy it (in a LTR it’s about pleasing thier partner), a grateful man is a GOOD thing. unclviny ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/34 "2003-01-23T16:42:56Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by unclviny \* > **a bj without swallowing is like a day without sunshine, “taking a load in the mouth” is standard equipment and in my experience a LOT of women enjoy it (in a LTR it’s about pleasing thier partner), a grateful man is a GOOD thing.** “Standard equipment”? Come on. I’m not saying there are no such women out there, but they are in no way a majority. Nor would I expect them to be. My point was that neither semen nor vaginal juices are inherently appetizing substances for most people of either gender, so **OldBroad’s** comment about a “double-standard” in this regard was entirely off-base. ---
**Author:** ![TheLadyLion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d78d45/32.png) [@TheLadyLion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLadyLion)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/35 "2003-01-23T16:50:34Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by porcupine \* > \*\*Just a note that it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with age - some women just lubricate more than others, regardless of age. \*\* Well, I think the word _necessarily_ is the key word here. When women hit menopause, the vaginal lining thins out and lubrication drops. If a woman naturally lubricates a LOT when she’s young, she might still lubricate quite a bit when she’s post-menopausal. Women who lubricate somewhat when they are younger tend to get bone-dry when they go through the change. Just one of those biological things. And for those with enquiring minds… I taught **Padeye** about the olive oil thing. We gets ours now at the warehouse store. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![TheLadyLion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d78d45/32.png) [@TheLadyLion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLadyLion)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/36 "2003-01-23T17:18:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lizard \* > \*\*What debate? I’ve never known a single woman who wanted to take a load in the mouth, either. Or who would not have been annoyed if some guy had just gone and done it anyway, without talking to her about it There’s no debate here… \*\* No debate-mongering from my post either. However, many women (moi included) happen to enjoy the sensation, and sometimes the taste, of a man coming in her mouth. Granted, it’s an acquired taste, just like enjoying doing oral sex on a man is an acquired taste (my mother told me what else you guys do with that thing). If a woman isn’t ready or desirous of a man coming in her mouth, and he does, it’s a rude shock. Same goes for a man doing oral on a woman who is a squirter and who doesn’t warn him of this. He isn’t prepared for it and finds himself on the receiving end of a deluge. Not fair and not nice. Some women assume that all men are going to find it fascinating that they are squirters… probably not so. Some, yes… all, no. ---
**Author:** ![Texican](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ebca7d/32.png) [@Texican](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Texican)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/37 "2003-01-23T18:26:43Z")
As I have gotten older, I have grown skeptical of a woman claiming she didn’t know a guy was about to come in her mouth. I guess I can’t say if this is true with all guys, but when I approach orgasm, the head swells considerably, the whole thing gets bigger and harder, actually, and I would think she could tell by my body language and the sounds I made that ole faithful was about to blow!!! While we are attempting humor, let me also add that while saliva can be a great lubricant, hocking up a loogie isn’t likely to turn her on much so be discreet… ---
**Author:** ![unclviny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e274bd/32.png) [@unclviny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/unclviny)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/38 "2003-01-23T18:40:16Z")
To me “transmission of bodily fluids” (isn’t that a PC term) is the ultimate expression of intimacy, believe it or not some of us REALLY enjoy pleasing our partners, the following is from my experiences: What percentage of women swallow early on in a relationship? not many that I have known. What percentage of women swallow in a comitted LTR? most of the ones that I have known (bless you). The first time I encountered a “squirter” it freaked me out long enough to realize she had not peed, then I really got into it, we BOTH enjoyed it IMMENSELY!. unclviny ---
**Author:** ![rsa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/839c29/32.png) [@rsa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rsa)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/39 "2003-01-23T18:54:15Z")
I must say that I am a bit amused that of the few threads I have posted, none has gotten more than a handful of reponses and views in the double digits. I put “s\_x” in the title and I get over a thousand views. 🆒 does this qualify me for membership in the SDMB clique? > [@](#): > > My point was that… vaginal juices are [not] inherently appetizing substances for most people… Cite? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2003, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236/40 "2003-01-23T19:01:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by unclviny \* > The first time I encountered a “squirter” it freaked me out long enough to realize she had not peed, then I really got into it, we BOTH enjoyed it IMMENSELY!. We have a water fountain here like that. I never know if I’m going to get a sip or blasted in the face. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-s_x-with-older-women-tmi/150236.md?page=3)