# Oral Sex: Spit vs. Swallow **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 7, 2014, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004 "2014-08-07T04:08:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/21 "2014-08-08T00:20:13Z")
Odd combination of OP username and thread title. ---
**Author:** ![md2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/73ab20/32.png) [@md2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/md2000)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/22 "2014-08-08T00:26:02Z")
> [@Tom\_Tildrum](#): > > Odd combination of OP username and thread title. OK, I’ll bite - what do you mean? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/23 "2014-08-08T00:44:33Z")
> [@md2000](#): > > OK, I’ll bite - what do you mean? 😃 My guess is By-Tor = Biter. ---
**Author:** ![brainstall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@brainstall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainstall)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/24 "2014-08-08T00:49:41Z")
What’s the difference between like and love? Spit and swallow. And really, if you’re getting head, does it matter all that much? Because I don’t have to go down on you if not swallowing is going to be an issue for you. @ **md2000** why would I be running to the bathroom? I don’t want to swallow, but I’m not going to act as if I need to be scrubbed down like I’ve just been exposed to radioactive contaminants in a nuclear accident. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/25 "2014-08-08T00:53:53Z")
I’ve never really gotten the point of spitting. It’s already in your mouth. If it’s a fear of disease, that shouldn’t be an issue with a spouse/long term partner/etc/ ---
**Author:** ![md2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/73ab20/32.png) [@md2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/md2000)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/26 "2014-08-08T00:56:07Z")
> [@brainstall](#): > > What’s the difference between like and love? > > Spit and swallow. > And really, if you’re getting head, does it matter all that much? Because I don’t have to go down on you if not swallowing is going to be an issue for you. > > @ **md2000** why would I be running to the bathroom? I don’t want to swallow, but I’m not going to act as if I need to be scrubbed down like I’ve just been exposed to radioactive contaminants in a nuclear accident. Where would one spit? Unless it’s in the living room or den and the kitchen sink is closer. (Or as I said, if it’s not her house - so she doesn’t care about the décor, the carpet, mattress stains or future cleanup) ---
**Author:** ![brainstall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@brainstall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainstall)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/27 "2014-08-08T01:05:00Z")
Sex is messy. Keep a towel or old tshirt by the bed. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/28 "2014-08-08T02:12:05Z")
Given that we’ve gone 26 posts without anyone coming within spitting distance of a factual answer, I’m going to move this to IMHO. Colibri General Questions Moderator ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/29 "2014-08-08T02:30:35Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > Given that we’ve gone 26 posts without anyone coming within spitting distance of a factual answer {_snip_} …(_taps mic_)…“Hello, hello. This thing on?” ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/30 "2014-08-08T03:22:07Z")
How do you know if you have a high sperm count? If she has to chew before she can swallow. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/31 "2014-08-08T03:31:34Z")
> [@md2000](#): > > Where would one spit? Unless it’s in the living room or den and the kitchen sink is closer. (Or as I said, if it’s not her house - so she doesn’t care about the décor, the carpet, mattress stains or future cleanup) In the chamber pot. (I guess my age is showing.) ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/32 "2014-08-08T03:51:06Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > How do you know if you have a high sperm count? > > If she has to chew before she can swallow. _Sexxaay_! ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/33 "2014-08-08T03:51:06Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Yeah, some freak the fuck out and jerk back like a snake bite em to get as far away from your dick as they can the second you give any indication you might be cumming. 😉 Well, can you really blame them? I don’t see you happily gargling away on a cup of warm ejaculate in the morning. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/34 "2014-08-08T03:54:13Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > Well, can you really blame them? I don’t see you happily gargling away on a cup of warm ejaculate in the morning. Hell fucking no i wouldnt. But i _would_ happily gargle a mouthful of warm pussy juice! (Not _any_ pussy juice, mind you, just the juices of the woman I’m having sex with. ETA: And keep in mind, this isn’t all wmen who react this way, or even a majority. Just _some_. Some have a “cum-phobia” of sorts. ---
**Author:** ![OurLordPeace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/e8c25b/32.png) [@OurLordPeace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OurLordPeace)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/35 "2014-08-08T03:56:02Z")
No matter what they do with it, it’s spelled “come.” Yes, even in a sexual context. It refers to arriving at your destination, so to speak. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/36 "2014-08-08T04:02:44Z")
> [@OurLordPeace](#): > > No matter what they do with it, it’s spelled “come.” Yes, even in a sexual context. It refers to arriving at your destination, so to speak. Nah, slangiliy, it’s spelled “cum.” I’m not sure I’ve ever seen the noun form spelled in the “proper” way. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/37 "2014-08-08T04:03:16Z")
> [@OurLordPeace](#): > > No matter what they do with it, it’s spelled “come.” Yes, even in a sexual context. It refers to arriving at your destination, so to speak. I spell it “cum” as I suspect the majority of people who write about ejaculating/orgasming do. I rarely, if ever, see it spelled “come”. ---
**Author:** ![OurLordPeace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/e8c25b/32.png) [@OurLordPeace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OurLordPeace)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/38 "2014-08-08T04:12:52Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Nah, slangiliy, it’s spelled “cum.” I’m not sure I’ve ever seen the noun form spelled in the “proper” way. > [@Ambivalid](#): > > I spell it “cum” as I suspect the majority of people who write about ejaculating/orgasming do. I rarely, if ever, see it spelled “come”. Not so. I defer to Dan Savage, which is [what happened here on the SDMB in 2004](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/archive/index.php/t-253677.html): "To quote the great Dan Savage (Savage Love, 1998): Of all the words with a second, sexual meaning, why does only this one require an alternate spelling? We don’t “suk dik,” eat “pussee,” sit on “kocks,” get “blohjahbs,” or nuzzle “juggs,” do we? “Cum” is an adolescent, Hustler magazine affectation. And the fact that “cum” can be a noun or a verb further complicates the matter. As noun, it’s always cum: “Look, there’s some cum lying there.” “Oh, I have cum in my eye.” Not so when used as a verb: “Cum on me, baby.” “He [came] on me.” If in the present tense, the slang verb for ejaculate requires an alternate spelling, why not in its past tense? Why don’t we say, “She cam/caam/camme/caim/c@me when I ate her out”? Because it’s a stoopid thing to do, that’s why! And what if you need to use both the noun and verb forms in one sentence? Writing “He came in my mouth, so I swallowed his cum” is inconsistent, don’t you think? Looks sloppy. How much simpler it is to use the standard four-letter spelling and allow the word to have, as so many words do, more than one meaning. There now. Was it good for you too?" ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/39 "2014-08-08T04:27:32Z")
I don’t really care what Dan Savage has to say about the matter. “Cum” is the popular spelling, and that’s the one I’m going to use to avoid confusion. At least for the noun. For the verb, I can go either way. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/40 "2014-08-08T04:31:00Z")
> [@OurLordPeace](#): > > No matter what they do with it, it’s spelled “come.” Yes, even in a sexual context. It refers to arriving at your destination, so to speak. It’s from the latin…cum sperma volans. 😉 (at least, that’s what I’m going with!) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004.md?page=3)