# Oral Sex: Spit vs. Swallow **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 7, 2014, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004 "2014-08-07T04:08:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/41 "2014-08-08T17:01:16Z")
> [@brainstall](#): > > And really, if you’re getting head, does it matter all that much? Not to me. Once I’ve come in a woman’s mouth, whatever she chooses to do with it next is fine with me. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/42 "2014-08-08T17:09:02Z")
Even spitting it into a blunt syringe to inseminate herself? ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/43 "2014-08-08T17:17:03Z")
Someone splain me something I’ve never understood… Once it’s in your mouth, why not just swallow it? Actually seems like the easier route, short of an external target. The way I reason is that if you don’t like the taste or the texture, moving it back to the front of your mouth to spit is actually compounding the problem. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/44 "2014-08-08T17:42:18Z")
> [@OurLordPeace](#): > > Not so. I defer to Dan Savage, which is [what happened here on the SDMB in 2004](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/archive/index.php/t-253677.html): > > "To quote the great Dan Savage (Savage Love, 1998): > > Of all the words with a second, sexual meaning, why does only this one require an alternate spelling? We don’t “suk dik,” eat “pussee,” sit on “kocks,” get “blohjahbs,” or nuzzle “juggs,” do we? “Cum” is an adolescent, Hustler magazine affectation. > > And the fact that “cum” can be a noun or a verb further complicates the matter. As noun, it’s always cum: “Look, there’s some cum lying there.” “Oh, I have cum in my eye.” Not so when used as a verb: “Cum on me, baby.” “He [came] on me.” If in the present tense, the slang verb for ejaculate requires an alternate spelling, why not in its past tense? Why don’t we say, “She cam/caam/camme/caim/c@me when I ate her out”? Because it’s a stoopid thing to do, that’s why! > > And what if you need to use both the noun and verb forms in one sentence? Writing “He came in my mouth, so I swallowed his cum” is inconsistent, don’t you think? Looks sloppy. How much simpler it is to use the standard four-letter spelling and allow the word to have, as so many words do, more than one meaning. > There now. Was it good for you too?" I like Dan, but sometimes you have to take his advice _cum grano salis_. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/45 "2014-08-08T17:43:32Z")
> [@brainstall](#): > > What’s the difference between like and love? > > Spit and swallow. > And really, if you’re getting head, does it matter all that much? Because I don’t have to go down on you if not swallowing is going to be an issue for you. The first part of your post answers the question you posed. Swallowing knocks down the walls of self-doubt that I have about being loved. I’m a big self-doubter, but if she’s swallowing, I just can’t question that she really, really likes me. The bird of peace is the dove… ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/46 "2014-08-08T22:33:38Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Yeah, some freak the fuck out and jerk back like a snake bite em to get as far away from your dick as they can the second you give any indication you might be cumming. 😉 > Some women aren’t cum fans. To put it diplomatically. Some. A minority. I don’t know any woman who likes it. Out of say maybe ten friends in RL and the many online who enjoy discussing their sex lives with me I don’t know a single woman who enjoys the cumming part. Not in the face, not in the mouth, not even really on the tits. I am positive they are out there who love the jizz but most of us do it because we enjoy the reaction, not the actual flavor or feeling of getting cum in our faces. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/47 "2014-08-08T23:09:02Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > I don’t know any woman who likes it. Out of say maybe ten friends in RL and the many online who enjoy discussing their sex lives with me I don’t know a single woman who enjoys the cumming part. Not in the face, not in the mouth, not even really on the tits. I am positive they are out there who love the jizz but most of us do it because we enjoy the reaction, not the actual flavor or feeling of getting cum in our faces. Maybe it’s a difference between the sexes, but a lot of guys I know like the taste. (gay guys anyway, never had a reason to discuss it with straight guys) ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/48 "2014-08-09T00:07:41Z")
> [@Sicks\_Ate](#): > > Someone splain me something I’ve never understood… > > Once it’s in your mouth, why not just swallow it? Actually seems like the easier route, short of an external target. > > The way I reason is that if you don’t like the taste or the texture, moving it back to the front of your mouth to spit is actually compounding the problem. Exactly my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/49 "2014-08-09T00:10:44Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > I don’t know any woman who likes it. Huh. I do. Guess there are lots of women out there. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/50 "2014-08-09T00:11:41Z")
> [@by-tor](#): > > So my friend was lamenting that his wife doesn’t swallow when giving him oral sex. Then we had a discussion about the percentage of women who spit vs. swallow in the US and worldwide and I realized that I only had anecdotal information. Well your friend shouldn’t complain. His wife doesn’t give me any kind of oral sex. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/51 "2014-08-09T01:06:41Z")
As for spelling, the Oxford and the American Heritage dictionaries both list it as “come,” with “cum” labeled a variant. I like the “cum” spelling myself though. ---
**Author:** ![Kedikat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed655f/32.png) [@Kedikat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kedikat)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/52 "2014-08-09T05:08:13Z")
If a man is giving good oral to a woman, he is likely swallowing her bodily fluids almost constantly while doing it. Women who prefer not to swallow say it is icky etc… Well, it can be icky for the man too. Would you feel good to have him constantly pulling away and spitting, wiping his face? In a fair world, all couples involved in oral sex, should both spit or swallow. Give as you get. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mad\_Hermit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5ac83/32.png) [@The\_Mad\_Hermit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mad_Hermit)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/53 "2014-08-09T05:57:48Z")
I’ve always disliked it when the woman (in my case) pulls away and acts like it’s corrosive. My new partner has no such problem. ---
**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/54 "2014-08-09T16:40:57Z")
I’m not some self-deserving meathead who thinks a woman should swallow my semen after using her mouth to make me orgasm. It literally makes fuck-all difference to me. I’d prefer a spitter. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/55 "2014-08-09T17:00:53Z")
Guys always say there’s no difference, but how many of you get squicked out about kissing her immediately afterwards? . . . Anybody? . . . Buehler? My experience has been that most guys will avoid kissing until she has brushed her teeth and gargled. In the end, it’s mostly mucus. It’s slimy and unpleasant. If it felt good to play with your nose, would you blow it into her mouth? Some of us just find it gross; it’s not a pathology. ---
**Author:** ![amanset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8dc957/32.png) [@amanset](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amanset)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/56 "2014-08-09T17:14:54Z")
My last girlfriend actually asked me, after she gave me a blowjob for the first time, if I was annoyed that she didn’t swallow. I simply replied with ‘why on earth would you want to?’ ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/57 "2014-08-09T19:20:38Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > Guys always say there’s no difference, but how many of you get squicked out about kissing her immediately afterwards? . . . Anybody? . . . Buehler? My experience has been that most guys will avoid kissing until she has brushed her teeth and gargled. > > In the end, it’s mostly mucus. It’s slimy and unpleasant. If it felt good to play with your nose, would you blow it into her mouth? Some of us just find it gross; it’s not a pathology. My perception is probably different with being gay and all, but I have no problem kissing after. Hell, I like the taste of my own. ---
**Author:** ![LawMonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@LawMonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LawMonkey)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/58 "2014-08-09T19:57:59Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > Maybe it’s a difference between the sexes, but a lot of guys I know like the taste. (gay guys anyway, never had a reason to discuss it with straight guys) Bi, personally, and while I wouldn’t go so far as to say I like the taste, it’s not offensive or anything. I approve of cum in general, as I do of female sexual fluids–it’s all tied up with sex, obviously, and therefore erotic and sexy and stuff. Tastes, obviously, may differ. > [@amanset](#): > > My last girlfriend actually asked me, after she gave me a blowjob for the first time… For reasons of brain weirdness, I kept wanting to stop this sentence like this and enjoy the silly mental image of a girl who obviously did not think ahead. Also, thank goodness we don’t have one of those official committees to decide what does and doesn’t go in the language like French does, and that even if we did, Dan Savage wouldn’t be on it. ---
**Author:** ![Cubsfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Cubsfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cubsfan)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/59 "2014-08-09T20:14:11Z")
If your wife has no problem sucking you off and letting you come in her mouth and you can complain about that you should go punch yourself in the face. What an idiot. ---
**Author:** ![dracoi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/90db22/32.png) [@dracoi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dracoi)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2014, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/60 "2014-08-09T21:45:47Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > Guys always say there’s no difference, but how many of you get squicked out about kissing her immediately afterwards? . . . Anybody? . . . Buehler? My experience has been that most guys will avoid kissing until she has brushed her teeth and gargled. > > In the end, it’s mostly mucus. It’s slimy and unpleasant. If it felt good to play with your nose, would you blow it into her mouth? Some of us just find it gross; it’s not a pathology. Kiss afterward? Shouldn’t I already be asleep by then? 🙂 But, seriously, I have no problem at all with kissing after oral sex. I don’t really understand why anyone would. One poster suggested she should spit it back into the guy’s mouth and that does seem gross… but then I’d find it pretty gross to have her spitting anything into my mouth. As for whether she swallows or not, I guess it doesn’t really matter to me as long as she’s not over-reacting and freaking out. As an example of this from my perspective, I have only once experienced a woman ejaculating, and she did it straight into my mouth. I honestly didn’t know anything about that at the time, so I was completely shocked… Was it pee? Something else? I wasn’t about to interrupt the action so I just swallowed it and kept going. That’s kind of the reaction I’d expect from any partner in sex. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004.md?page=4)