# Oral Sex: Spit vs. Swallow **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 7, 2014, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004 "2014-08-07T04:08:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2014, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/61 "2014-08-10T16:43:12Z")
> [@Cubsfan](#): > > If your wife has no problem sucking you off and letting you come in her mouth and you can complain about that you should go punch yourself in the face. What an idiot. +1 (Yeah, I know, we rarely agree on a lot… but its true. She said Yes. If couples talk about trying new things, fine, but if the guy just bitches about it, is it any surprise when his partner takes it off the menu?) ---
**Author:** ![brainstall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@brainstall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainstall)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2014, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/62 "2014-08-10T18:09:07Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > I’m not some self-deserving meathead who thinks a woman should swallow my semen after using her mouth to make me orgasm. > > It literally makes fuck-all difference to me. I’d prefer a spitter. How you doing? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2014, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/63 "2014-08-10T20:18:17Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Yeah, some freak the fuck out and jerk back like a snake bite em to get as far away from your dick as they can the second you give any indication you might be cumming. 😉 Heh. A while back, I found a porn compilation video somebody had made to illustrate the difference between an “amateur” facial and a “professional” facial. The video alternated “money shot” scenes that depicted “amateurs” doing the “jerk back and freak out” and “professionals” eagerly accepting it. The “amateurs” in this case weren’t actual “amateur” performers — they were pros who _reacted_ like amateurs. I still remember my bewilderment a few years ago when I encountered a one-girl porn site where her _whole schtick_ was that she loved having guys come on her face, and yet every sample video showed her clamping her eyes and mouth shut and reacting with disgust as she got her face splattered. Yeah, that’s it, show us how much you “love” it. ---
**Author:** ![Sterling\_Archer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Sterling\_Archer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sterling_Archer)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2014, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/64 "2014-08-11T15:10:05Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > I don’t know any woman who likes it. Out of say maybe ten friends in RL and the many online who enjoy discussing their sex lives with me I don’t know a single woman who enjoys the cumming part. Not in the face, not in the mouth, not even really on the tits. I am positive they are out there who love the jizz but most of us do it because we enjoy the reaction, not the actual flavor or feeling of getting cum in our faces. Agree with this. Gross. I wouldn’t want it in my mouth, that’s for sure, so I don’t expect it of my wife. Eeeeewwww. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2014, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/65 "2014-08-11T19:46:52Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Hell fucking no i wouldnt. But i _would_ happily gargle a mouthful of warm pussy juice! (Not _any_ pussy juice, mind you, just the juices of the woman I’m having sex with. What, not even your own? I mean, it’s not like you never jerk off, so it’s totally the juices of someone you’re having sex with. Or are you one of those obnoxious guys who think semen is toxic waste when around their faces, but women ought to wallow in the stuff? Because I flat-out don’t get that shit. I’m not at all into pussy, but if there’s a little juice on his lips or dick and it gets in my mouth, BFD. It’s a vagina, ffs, not a nuclear reactor. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2014, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/66 "2014-08-11T20:13:05Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > As for spelling, the Oxford and the American Heritage dictionaries both list it as “come,” with “cum” labeled a variant. I like the “cum” spelling myself though. Who gives a fuck about an Oxford “cum,” eh? ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2014, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/67 "2014-08-11T20:30:53Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Who gives a fuck about an Oxford “cum,” eh? +1 ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2014, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/68 "2014-08-11T20:47:19Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > What, not even your own? I mean, it’s not like you never jerk off, so it’s totally the juices of someone you’re having sex with. Or are you one of those obnoxious guys who think semen is toxic waste when around their faces, but women ought to wallow in the stuff? Because I flat-out don’t get that shit. I’m not at all into pussy, but if there’s a little juice on his lips or dick and it gets in my mouth, BFD. It’s a vagina, ffs, not a nuclear reactor. Get all angry and shit. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2014, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/69 "2014-08-11T21:03:15Z")
> [@bup](#): > > Get all angry and shit. Cumming is one thing, but dropping play-doh cables by your partner’s face? Ewww. “Room service? The Bups here. We were busy & missed the maid this morning. Could you send someone up to muck out room 513? Thanks.” ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2014, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/70 "2014-08-11T21:26:22Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > What, not even your own? I mean, it’s not like you never jerk off, so it’s totally the juices of someone you’re having sex with. Or are you one of those obnoxious guys who think semen is toxic waste when around their faces, but women ought to wallow in the stuff? Because I flat-out don’t get that shit. I’m not at all into pussy, but if there’s a little juice on his lips or dick and it gets in my mouth, BFD. It’s a vagina, ffs, not a nuclear reactor. Ah. It’s the angry attitude that’s so hawt! ---
**Author:** ![Disgscen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f05b48/32.png) [@Disgscen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disgscen)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2014, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/71 "2014-08-12T21:28:07Z")
> [@OurLordPeace](#): > > Not so. I defer to Dan Savage More recent Dan Savage: > **[SL Letter of the Day: Cum Now, Daniel...](https://www.thestranger.com/blogs/2013/10/14/17955101/sl-letter-of-the-day-cum-now-daniel)** > > You're wrong about "cum," Dan. Linguistically and historically cum is shortened from scum. A condom was a "scumbag," hence the derogatory term. You'll find a tiny little bit of Internet evidence—with actual citations—here. So using cum (or scum) is... He doesn’t like it and he won’t change his usage, but he was wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/72 "2014-08-13T00:37:00Z")
> [@74westy](#): > > Sher could spit it in his mouth. Sauce for the gander and all that. > [@Lobohan](#): > > No regifting. I thought it was called a [snowball](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_A58231NFk)? ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/73 "2014-08-13T19:09:14Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > It’s a vagina, ffs, not a nuclear reactor. It can be, if the right button is pushed! [sub]Red Alert…Red Alert…Impending core meltdown…Maintain course and speed!!![/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Icarus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icarus/32/72_2.png) [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004/74 "2014-08-13T23:13:38Z")
> [@Stringbean](#): > > It literally makes fuck-all difference to me. I’d prefer a spitter. If it makes no difference to you, how can you say you have a preference? 😕 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-spit-vs-swallow/695004.md?page=3)