# Oral sex: Swallowing **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 11, 2006, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304 "2006-06-11T15:22:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/21 "2006-06-11T18:16:23Z")
I have a lot of friends that say that they’d rather spit because it “tastes icky.” That boggles my mind. Much like \*\*DianaG \*\* said, it makes no sense to spit it out-- it gets all over your mouth. As I see it, if you’re doing it right, the cum is going to be in the back of your throat, so just swallow. If I spit it out, then I’m spitting it back into my mouth and THEN I can taste it. Ick. ---
**Author:** ![Avarie537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/48db29/32.png) [@Avarie537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Avarie537)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/22 "2006-06-11T18:20:35Z")
I’m a spitter. It doesn’t taste good. Frankly, I’m going to be at the sink momentarily anyway (to get hubby a warm washcloth for clean-up) or we’re in the shower to begin with, so I just spit while the water’s running. And he won’t kiss me after a blow job until I’ve at least gargled with Listerine - he doesn’t like the taste either, so it doesn’t seem to bother him at all. ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/23 "2006-06-11T18:35:50Z")
I love giving blow jobs, but I’m only a sometime swallower. I’ve volunteered, and sometimes it is welcome, but sometimes guys like to do different things; be it quick insertion to finish, or an aim-and-fire (I don’t care where it goes, but do NOT get it on my face or hair. I may be known around here for my love of “porn style” sex, but the love and respect **must** be part of it, and that kind of shit will _never_ go over well with me.) Anyway. My first ex had really, really disgusting tasting semen. I tried, oh lord, I tried. But it was really skunky. My last ex had very little flavour at all, and was easy to do. My husband’s is kind of sweet. I don’t know what makes one taste different than another, but it makes all the difference in whether I’ll swallow or not. It’s not hard to “finish” a blow job without swallowing at all, once you get to learn your partner’s responses better. There’s no cookie-cutter way to go about it. My philosophy has always been: “I’ll try anything twice.” The first time or two may be rough around the edges, but as you get used to each other, you learn what you can do that ends with both people happy - swallowing or not. ---
**Author:** ![Lynne\_kilii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d26b3c/32.png) [@Lynne\_kilii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynne_kilii)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/24 "2006-06-11T21:18:21Z")
Out of my friends who I’ve discussed this with, only one says she won’t do it, because oral sex grosses her out. The rest of us think she’s dumb. Actual reflexes and vomiting aside, ewww factor just seems rude. Anyway, I enjoy the feeling, and the taste (most of the time). ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/25 "2006-06-11T21:24:33Z")
[QUOTE=DianaG] I can understand why you might not want someone to come in your mouth, but once it’s there, you might as well swallow. If you find it unpleasant tasting, why keep it in there until you get to the bathroom, or grab a big enough wad of tissue to spit it out? [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Susie Derkins] Sorry, do you mean spitting it out? To me that’s just all of the flavor with twice the insult. [/QUOTE] You’re both preaching to the converted (although I’m entirely unclear on what you mean by “insult”, **Susie** ); I also think you might as well swallow. But if a partner of mine does blowjobs to completion but doesn’t swallow, it’s no skin off my nose. I don’t care, and what I’ve been trying to say in this thread is that I don’t understand why it seems to be such a big deal to so many guys. ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/26 "2006-06-11T21:46:01Z")
[QUOTE=Priceguy] … and what I’ve been trying to say in this thread is that I don’t understand why it seems to be such a big deal to so many guys. [/QUOTE] Hey! They’re _guys_. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/27 "2006-06-11T22:07:09Z")
[QUOTE=DiosaBellissima] As I see it, if you’re doing it right, the cum is going to be in the back of your throat, so just swallow. [/QUOTE] Amen! ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/28 "2006-06-11T22:20:26Z")
Well, a couple new secret Doper crushes out of this thread, that’s for sure… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![mrald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3da27b/32.png) [@mrald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mrald)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/29 "2006-06-11T23:10:29Z")
Swallow it honey, didn’t you mother teach you to clean up after yourself… ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/30 "2006-06-11T23:21:59Z")
[QUOTE=Mr Bus Guy] Well, a couple new secret Doper crushes out of this thread, that’s for sure… 😉 [/QUOTE] Amen, brother. AAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamen. (or A-wom-en) ---
**Author:** ![A.R.Cane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@A.R.Cane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A.R.Cane)\ **Post date:** [June 11, 2006, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/31 "2006-06-11T23:38:39Z")
The love of my life was an expert fellatrix and she loved her work. Not infrequently she would climax immediately after me, she was that turned on by the act. She had an incredible libido and she wasn’t afraid to use it. Swallow? She wouldn’t think of letting it go to waste. What a woman, I’ve never experienced another who could begin to compare w/ her, in bed or out. ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/32 "2006-06-12T00:37:37Z")
[QUOTE=Misnomer] I’ve always been a swallower, so I have no insight into why a woman might refuse. I’ve heard that semen is very high in calories, so maybe stop dating supermodels? 😃 I don’t mind suggestions about my technique, in fact I usually solicit them. Different guys like different things, and I definitely want to make sure I’m doing what works for the dick that’s in my mouth. Plus, the sooner he gets off the better it is for my jaw. 😉 [/QUOTE] How you d… …nope… better not. 😛😃 ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/33 "2006-06-12T02:21:09Z")
[QUOTE=QuickSilver] …nope… better not. [/QUOTE] You _know_ you don’t want to go there. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![boytyperanma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4491bb/32.png) [@boytyperanma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boytyperanma)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/34 "2006-06-12T02:33:20Z")
I like to swallow. I will not do so if I’m just hooking up no cumming in my mouth is allowed in those enconters. Snowballing is ok with me too. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/35 "2006-06-12T02:43:52Z")
[QUOTE=Misnomer] I definitely want to make sure I’m doing what works for the dick that’s in my mouth. [/QUOTE] Best. Sig line. _EVAH!_ ---
**Author:** ![Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e56c9b/32.png) [@Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mirror_Image_egamI_rorriM)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/36 "2006-06-12T06:17:47Z")
I have not ever actually given a blowjob to the end. It seems to go: handjob-\>blowjob-\>handjob-\>sex. If the blowjob is not part of foreplay, then it’s a sort of handjob/blowjob, and I don’t mind semen on my skin and hair. Condoms for handjob/blowjobs make it less fun. Safer, though. ---
**Author:** ![Dubious\_Weasle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b782af/32.png) [@Dubious\_Weasle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dubious_Weasle)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 7:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/37 "2006-06-12T07:59:57Z")
[QUOTE=Priceguy] . I don’t care, and what I’ve been trying to say in this thread is that I don’t understand why it seems to be such a big deal to so many guys. [/QUOTE] Probably because the alternatives often carry with them an implication of “you’re icky.” It can be a bit of a mood killer just as if a guy made faces or rushed to the bathroom for mouthwash afterwards. Some people wouldn’t be bothered by it but it’s not surprising that many would feel it as a rejection. ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 8:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/38 "2006-06-12T08:09:49Z")
Always swallowed. To be honest the idea of spitting is more repulsive to me, and a cup of coffee or a glass of juice will usually sort out any lingering taste issues. If I’m not in the mood to swallow, we’ll finish with sex, or we’ll do something else instead (I’ve found that my husband quite likes the visual effect of a “pearl necklace”). It’s something he likes, and I love him, so I do what I can to make him happy. I don’t have a strong gag reflex, and the taste is never that bad, so I don’t see why I shouldn’t. Plus…nothing makes me feel quite as powerful as giving him oral… ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 8:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/39 "2006-06-12T08:45:55Z")
The first time I got head, she spit. I felt like I made her sick, and I felt really bad. Not a great post-orgasm feeling (still not her fault though). The next time she swallowed (with vigor I might add), and I almost went blind. If she had asked me or a kidney 2 minutes after, I’d have offered the second one as a tip. Women that stop giving BJs fter marriage are like dog owners that drop the leash and just shout at their dogs to come home. The meek shall inherit the Earth, but the women that suck out every last drop, shall own all of the property tax-free. They deserve it too. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2006, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/40 "2006-06-12T15:43:17Z")
[QUOTE=boytyperanma] I like to swallow. I will not do so if I’m just hooking up no cumming in my mouth is allowed in those enconters. Snowballing is ok with me too. [/QUOTE] Okay, I’ve gotta say it.. How you doin? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304.md?page=3)