# Oral sex: Swallowing **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 11, 2006, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304 "2006-06-11T15:22:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![marshmallow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@marshmallow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/marshmallow)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 7:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/61 "2006-06-13T07:29:49Z")
A mouth is warm and wet and fun…better than a hand. If you can cum in her mouth and continue to receive stimulation throughout and past the orgasm then it feels 100x better. It’s pretty simple and I’m surprised so many females don’t understand this. This is also why pulling out during lovemaking is very difficult for most men… ---
**Author:** ![Taber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ac91a4/32.png) [@Taber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taber)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/62 "2006-06-13T08:08:00Z")
[QUOTE=Misnomer] That immediately made me think of the song “[Read About Love](http://lyrics.rare-lyrics.com/R/Richard-Thompson/Read-About-Love.html)” by Richard Thompson – the chorus goes: I had to fire up iTunes and listen to it – it’s playing right now. 🙂 [/QUOTE] Funny, it reminded me of Genesis’s [Counting out time](http://www.lyricsdomain.com/7/genesis/counting_out_time.html) sample lyrics: > [@](#): > > Found a girl I wanted to date, > Thought I’d better get it straight. > Went to buy a book before it’s too late. > Don’t leave nothing to fate. > And I have studied every line, every page in the book, > And now I’ve got the real thing here, I’m gonna take a look, take a look. > > This is Rael! > > I’m counting out time, hoping it goes like I planned it, > 'cos I understand it. Look! I’ve found the hotspots, Figs 1-9. > -still counting out time, got my finger on the button, > “Don’t say nuttin-just lie there still > And I’ll get you turned on just fine.” > Erongenous zones I love you. > Without you, what would a poor boy do? > > … > > I’m counting out time, reaction none to happy, > Please don’t slap me, > I’m a red blooded male and the book said I could not fail. > I’m counting out time, I got unexpected distress from my mistress, > I’ll get my money back from the bookstore right away. ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/63 "2006-06-13T11:05:29Z")
> [@](#): > > **Excalibre** said: > Sweetie, I’m glad you’re dedicated, but you’re not obligated to gag yourself on his cock . . . Well when there’s a stroke where it goes down wrong and just hits the back of the throat or the tonsils or something, there’s usually a little bit of a reaction. It’s not a big deal though, I mean not like I’d throw up or anything. Some dudes that like to get the hip action going could do damage if adjustments aren’t made so that they can do that but you’re not having your throat ripped apart because they have too forceful and deep of a stroke, so them I give some guidance to. > [@](#): > > **mhendo** said: > I particularly don’t get the “It feels like rejection” argument about spitting. If a woman has just given me a blow job to orgasm, i’m not exactly overcome with feelings of rejection. I would be pissed off if a guy jumped up from giving me oral and went to the bathroom to go use some Listerine or a toothbrush or something. I might even wonder if something was wrong with me that would make him think that I was disgusting. It would be a big time insult, and I’m not willing to insult a guy that way. Also I haven’t met a guy yet who didn’t like having the sucking continue through his entire orgasm, and some of them like the sucking to continue until they go soft. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/64 "2006-06-13T12:22:38Z")
[QUOTE=dnooman] So, have you experienced both a spiting and swallowing BJ? [/QUOTE] I have. There is no difference in the sensations. How could there possibly be? The spitting or swallowing takes place after the act is over. It’s like saying sex feels worse if you eat eggs for breakfast the next morning. ---
**Author:** ![mhendo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mhendo/32/3159_2.png) [@mhendo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mhendo)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/65 "2006-06-13T13:47:00Z")
[QUOTE=dnooman] So, have you experienced both a spiting and swallowing BJ? If not, you’re not qualified to answer. [/QUOTE] To the extent that your hostile, stupid response requires an answer, yes i have. I’d also be happy to describe it for you, so you know what one feels like. [QUOTE=catsix] I would be pissed off if a guy jumped up from giving me oral and went to the bathroom to go use some Listerine or a toothbrush or something. I might even wonder if something was wrong with me that would make him think that I was disgusting. It would be a big time insult, and I’m not willing to insult a guy that way. [/QUOTE] Yeah, because the only alternative to swallowing is to jump up and run to the bathroom for Listerine. I never said that i don’t like the swallowing blowjob. I do. I’m just somewhat perplexed at the obsession some guys have with the whole swallowing thing. In my experience, a woman who knows what she’s doing can make it feel just as great either way. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Odds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/d_odds/32/2882_2.png) [@D\_Odds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Odds)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/66 "2006-06-13T14:12:55Z")
_sigh_ How do I surreptitiously get this thread in front of Mrs. D\_Odds? Spit or swallow, I’m not picky. My ego is sufficiently huge that the little things like that don’t matter. ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/67 "2006-06-13T14:53:55Z")
[QUOTE=jjimm] In my entire life and 20-something sexual partners, I’ve had but one girlfriend who swallowed. And what a difference that made. It’s not a dominance thing, it just feels _incredible_. All the others have faded in my memory, but Gina is still there. She gave me the best oral sex I ever had. Sigh. [/QUOTE] Now, if you weren’t all the way over in England I’d have some serious questions about this Gina girl. Unless she’s spent time in the Midwest… ---
**Author:** ![Excalibre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@Excalibre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Excalibre)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/68 "2006-06-13T14:54:54Z")
[QUOTE=catsix] Also I haven’t met a guy yet who didn’t like having the sucking continue through his entire orgasm, and some of them like the sucking to continue until they go soft. [/QUOTE] Exactly. If you want to jump out of bed and go brush your teeth right afterwards, it sorta wrecks the mood but it doesn’t alter the sensation of the orgasm. But on the other hand, if you _are_ willing to sit that long with semen in your mouth, I have to wonder what the point of spitting is. ---
**Author:** ![Susie\_Derkins](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e47774/32.png) [@Susie\_Derkins](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Susie_Derkins)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/69 "2006-06-13T14:55:17Z")
Every man is different. If you’re not offended by having a woman spit out your semen as if were noxious, that’s great. You’re probably very open-minded and secure with yourself, and can accept it as her preference. Not all men are like that, though, including some that I have dated. Another reason I swallow is that if I am blowing a guy and he comes in my mouth and I _don’t_ intend to swallow it, what do I do with it while I let him ride out his orgasm? Even though it is sometimes referred to as a “wad”, I can’t tuck it between my cheek and gum as I let the last delicious moments play out for him. I don’t want my mouth to abandon him until I am 100% sure he’s ready for it, but if it is full of something I want to get rid of, I pretty much have to. Cutting the good part short just isn’t proper BJ etiquette. Many people have already listed the benefits of swallowing for the guy, and there is a big one for me, too: If I have your load in my mouth, I’m tasting it and feeling it already and if I spit it out instead of just sucking it down it is a much less pleasant experience for me. Instead of hitting the back of my throat and going down the hatch, it gets to hit every taste bud on the way out. Sticks to my teeth, too (what is up with that?). All of the above is just my POV, we are all different, I’m not saying my feelings are the only ones that are valid, etc. ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/70 "2006-06-13T16:53:16Z")
No wonder Calvin always had that smirk on his face. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 5:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/71 "2006-06-13T17:11:35Z")
You gals are real givers. I am completely enlightened by this thread. Maybe I’ll throw him a bone tonight. 😃_still not swallowing anything_ ---
**Author:** ![cardsfan1975](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f9b8f/32.png) [@cardsfan1975](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cardsfan1975)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/72 "2006-06-13T18:20:38Z")
[QUOTE=Indygrrl] You gals are real givers. I am completely enlightened by this thread. Maybe I’ll throw him a bone tonight. 😃_still not swallowing anything_ [/QUOTE] Wouldn’t he be the one throwing you a bone? 😉 cf’75 ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/73 "2006-06-13T19:25:23Z")
I love giving head - it’s sort of a mixed bag when it comes to swallowing tho. I don’t mind swallowing, but I really kind of get off on having the fella come on my, uh, chest. Ahem I’ve never had anyone complain. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/74 "2006-06-13T22:10:15Z")
[QUOTE=Misnomer] That immediately made me think of the song “[Read About Love](http://lyrics.rare-lyrics.com/R/Richard-Thompson/Read-About-Love.html)” by Richard Thompson – [/QUOTE] Damn post stealers are getting thick on the ground around here. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2006, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/75 "2006-06-13T22:48:03Z")
[QUOTE=Frank] Damn post stealers are getting thick on the ground around here. 😛 [/QUOTE] I didn’t think anyone else knew that song! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2006, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/76 "2006-06-14T02:46:32Z")
[QUOTE=Misnomer] I didn’t think anyone else knew that song! 🆒 [/QUOTE] Oh, I’m a big Richard Thompson fan. He’s one of only two musicians I’ve gone to see in concert. This is one helluva hijack, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2006, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/77 "2006-06-14T03:15:52Z")
[QUOTE=Frank] Oh, I’m a big Richard Thompson fan. He’s one of only two musicians I’ve gone to see in concert. [/QUOTE] Well now I feel bad for stealing your post: I only know that one song of his, and it’s from a compilation CD issued by the old _Musician_ magazine. The song came to my mind immediately, but I had to go look up the artist’s name! > [@](#): > > This is one helluva hijack, isn’t it? Just think of it as this thread’s refractory period. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![dre2xl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/34f0e0/32.png) [@dre2xl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dre2xl)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2006, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/78 "2006-06-14T04:54:00Z")
I don’t get the “it takes only a second to swallow”/“it’s less fuss to swallow than to spit” people. Whatever your personal tastes regarding semen, the act of swallowing is very, very important psychologically. That’s why virtually no one takes the masticate & spit approach to dieting. ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2006, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/79 "2006-06-14T11:57:48Z")
That’s the school I’m in, though, **dre2xl**. Once it’s in my mouth, swallowing is the quickest way to get it _out_ of my mouth. It’s not the greatest tasting stuff in the world, and it does burn my throat a bit – but a sip of water takes care of that. That’s me, though. Everybody should do what they can do. If you can’t stand having the stuff in your mouth (it’s going to make you puke or gag), then finish the guy off with your hand; or hop on top real quick and ride him to the finish line. It may not be The Ultimate Experience for him, but surely any blowjob is better than no blowjob. If having the stuff in your mouth doesn’t bother you, but swallowing makes you gag, then finish him with your mouth and spit the stuff out _discreetly._ Obviously it’s going to make a guy feel creepy if you run to the bathroom immediately, hunched over and retching, spit loudly into the basin, and start tossing the cupboards looking for Listerine. It would make most women feel bad, too, if I guy did that immediately after cunnilingus. Keep a box of Kleenex and a bottle of water by the bed so you don’t have to make a big fuss about spitting. If a woman is careful, the guy won’t even notice. Spit into the Kleenex, while making a wiping motion over your mouth, then take a sip of water and say, “Yum!” – he may even think you’ve swallowed! It ain’t rocket science. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2006, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304/80 "2006-06-27T17:58:36Z")
A UK company is offering hope for women who don’t like the taste of cum: a pill, taken twice a day, that changes the taste of semen to “a refreshing apple-like flavour.” 😃 The company is currently seeking sexually-active couples to test the pill. [Here’s the (safe for work) press release](http://www.responsesource.com/releases/rel_display.php?relid=26040&hilite=). [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-swallowing/360304.md?page=5)