# Oral Sex Techniques **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 23, 1999, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540 "1999-06-23T23:18:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 1999, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/21 "1999-06-26T05:00:00Z")
Louie, is oral sex really third base? I think we need to add more bases. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 1999, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/22 "1999-06-26T05:24:00Z")
Wanting to please my Lady, I watched lesbian porn thinking that a wonan would know best how to please another woman.Prehaps viewing gay porn would do for you as lisbo did for me! good luck I wish more women were so anxious to please her man, & man their ladies I envy your man. Horray for you, rgds, Carl ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 1999, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/23 "1999-06-26T19:09:00Z")
> [@](#): > > I think we need to add more bases. Okay. [Making Out : 1st Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck-1.html) [Sexual Touching : 2nd Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck1-a.html) [Oral Sex : Third Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck1-b.html) (for girls giving it to guys) [Oral Sex : Third Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck1-d.html) (for guys giving it to girls) You might want to read this one as well, ladies. [Sexual Intercourse : Home Base 😉](http://www.carnal.net/html/qa-h.html) (great tips for guys and girls to have better and long lasting sex) Hope everyone’s happy now. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 1999, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/24 "1999-06-26T19:09:00Z")
> [@](#): > > I think we need to add more bases. Okay. [Making Out : 1st Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck-1.html) [Sexual Touching : 2nd Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck1-a.html) [Oral Sex : Third Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck1-b.html) (for girls giving it to guys) [Oral Sex : Third Base](http://www.carnal.net/html/ck1-d.html) (for guys giving it to girls) You might want to read this one as well, ladies. [Sexual Intercourse : Home Base 😉](http://www.carnal.net/html/qa-h.html) (great tips for guys and girls to have better and long lasting sex) Hope everyone’s happy now. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 1999, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/25 "1999-06-26T21:11:00Z")
Well Carl, it is true that only a woman can give another woman the best blowjob and the same with guys. Guys give guys the best blow. This is kinda published stuff, not from personal experience… But I don’t agree with you on watching porn because porn has no emotional content and it has another goal, which is unsuitable for personal relationships. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 1999, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/26 "1999-06-28T03:47:00Z")
Come off it, Laura. Nobody’s dick is THAT big and nobody’s mouth is THAT small. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 1999, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/27 "1999-06-28T06:15:00Z")
\<\\> [Homer Simpson voice] Mmmm … trolling. ---
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**Diane** said: > [@](#): > > For the truly brave, you can actually put a finger carefully (use spit on your finger) into his bum and massage his prostate. It is the quarter-size hard area about 1 to 2 inches inside his anus. Make sure your fingernails are trimmed first. * * * “I wept because I had no shoes, then I met a man with no feet. So I took his shoes” - Dave Barry ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 1999, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/29 "1999-06-28T23:01:00Z")
For a mature, informative, comprehensive discussion of the topic, I’d like to direct anyone interested to: [http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/fellatio.html](http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/fellatio.html) or [http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/cunnfaq.html](http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/cunnfaq.html) depending on who the lucky one is. In fact, a browse of [sexuality.org](http://sexuality.org) should answer most of the sex questions that eventually end up here. -Quadell ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 1999, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540/30 "1999-07-01T04:49:00Z")
> [@](#): > > You should also pay attention to an area that usually gets missed but an area that makes guys wild. Note that this is not a universal pleaser. A GF tried doing this to me once, and my reaction was something like: “Um, just what do you think you’re doing?” She said she’d heard that “guys like that”, but until seeing this thread, I thought she was just confused. ---
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Handy said: > [@](#): > > I don’t agree with you on watching porn because porn has no emotional content and it has another goal, which is unsuitable for personal relationships. 1. Aren’t you the same person who offered to "_come over and show ya how to do it?_ 😉 2. Porn’s goal is to make us horny, yes, but it can also be a good “teacher” of sex techniques, which is EXACTLY what Laura was asking for. 3. What’s wrong about getting horny with the person I love? Is it “unsuitable” for our personal relationship? These are the best pieces of advice I’ve seen in a long time! Keep it up! (no pun intended 😉 ) ---
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> [@](#): > > Note that this is not a universal pleaser. A GF tried doing this to me once, and my reaction was something like: “Um, just what do you think you’re doing?” > > She said she’d heard that “guys like that”, but until seeing this thread, I thought she was just confused. ## If done right. . . . 😉 \>^,^\< KITTEN He who walk through airport door sideways going to Bangkok. - Confucius ---
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> [@](#): > > 1. Porn’s goal is to make us horny, yes, but it can also be a good “teacher” of sex techniques, which is EXACTLY what Laura was asking for. Porn is probably a good teacher of sex positions and oral sex on men, but remember that porn is generally made for men. I’ve never seen a porno in which a man (or a woman, for that matter) was doing anything to a woman that I’d want to have done to me. Their cunnilingus techniques are absolutely awful, for one thing. Most of that and the manual stimulation of women looks nothing short of painful! So while porno is a good teacher for women, I can actually tell the difference between a man who has learned most of his sexual technique from porno as opposed to men who learned by actually (gasp!) ASKING the women what they want. ---
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Mmm…Laura. ---
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For you gals with small mouths: the hand-job/blow-job combination works wonders. And yes, swallowing is a nice finish…but if you just can’t, please be discrete and just sort of let it go where it will. Now, a question for the ladies: when I am stimulating the female genitalia (orally or manually) there is initially an erectile response of the clitoris, followed by a softening (and often seeming disappearance!) of the delightful little organ. My question is this: do you prefer continued stimulation of the clitoris(if I can find it) or is it time to move on to other things? I’ve gotten mixed reactions. Help me out, here; I aim to please. The difference between: 1. Love 2. True Love 3. Showing Off 4. Spitting 5. Swallowing 6. Gargling ---
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As a friend of mine used to say: “You wouldn’t rake your teeth over the Magna Carta, would you?” ---
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Actually, a little bit of gentle biting is kinda cool. Key word here is GENTLE. There once was a fellow from Tripoli Who liked to make love rather nippily. Complained one young lass (While rubbing her ass): “Less teethily, please, and more lippily!” ---
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I think one of the best techniques is learning how to get your partner to receive unconditional head. That goes for learning how to do receive it yourself. Some have a hard time lying back and being selfish. My partner likes to sit on my face–that’s meant to be only half funny. The technique is that while I hold fairly still, my tongue is rather the energizer bunny. She, with her hands on the head board or wall, will move around as she wishes, shifting this way and that way, up and down to control the contact. You can learn quite a bit by how she moves. ---
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You aren’t necessarily incompetent if you don’t fellate to orgasm, either. There is nothing wrong with fellation as a warm-up. Some guys like to get very aggressive with the thrusts when near climax, and simply feel inhabited when in such close proximity to such a delicate face. This may not be a complaint about your technique but rather a sign that he does not want to hurt you. ---
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> [@](#): > > My question is this: do you prefer continued stimulation of the clitoris(if I can find it) or is it time to move on to other things? I’ve gotten mixed reactions. Help me out, here; I aim to please. This depends entirely on the woman. Some women can’t take direct stimulation of it, some love it. I guess it’s my turn to share! ;D First, is she still aroused? I find sometimes a man may forget a woman, well, isn’t a man. We don’t turn on immediately–we _love_ suspense. Just playing with the clit for a few minutes may bore her if she wasn’t ready. If it’s not erect, she may have lost a little interest. Then, there’s also the possibility she already reached orgasm, and is in a physical refractory period (blissfully short for women!). Some women can still be touched during this period, others may not. Basically, ask her…it may not seem the most romantic thing, but she’ll appreciate it! * * * “Me fail English? That’s unpossible!” “English? Who needs that? I’m never going to England.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oral-sex-techniques/6540.md?page=3)