# our little life / is rounded with a sleep. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 23, 2003, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951 "2003-05-23T02:14:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2003, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/41 "2003-05-23T22:39:53Z")
**matt\_mcl** , you are the living proof that your father did quite well in his life. There are no words at my disposal that could possibly ease the time to come for you. Saying goodbye to a loved one who is about to leave this earth is the hardest fucking thing in the world. It’s never easy. Find peace in the fact that you are able to make your ammends, to say goodbye, to not have him taken away from you instantly by some freak accident. It’s a small comfort, but it’s more than some people get, at times. I wish you and your family lots of strength in the time ahead, **matt**. And I hope your father’s last days will be peaceful, and painless. I’m so sorry. ☹ [sub]It hits very close to home for me, dealing with my father’s cancer currently as well. Luckily, he seems to be doing OK during the radiation so far (6 out of 30 treatments over and done with), and the outlook is good. He’s not in danger of dying anytime soon, but with cancer, you can never help but think what surprise is next, you know?[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![modro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6de8d8/32.png) [@modro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/modro)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2003, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/42 "2003-05-23T22:59:04Z")
**matt\_mcl** , I am so sorry to hear. You probably don’t know me well at all, but I do offer my most sincere condolences to you. Although it seems a bit wrong to say, in a way, you should be thankful. You are at least getting a chance to say your goodbyes, and tell your dad that you love him. A lot of people, myself included, never had that chance with a loved one. I wish you, your family, and most of all, your father peace. Take care, -modro ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/43 "2003-05-24T00:09:35Z")
I’m sorry, matt. I hope things get better for you. ---
**Author:** ![Heloise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e36b37/32.png) [@Heloise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heloise)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/44 "2003-05-24T00:24:13Z")
My heart and thoughts are with you and your family. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/45 "2003-05-24T00:47:47Z")
**Matt** , you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and Cory’s as well. I hope your dad goes West peacefully. I hope that you and yours can find peace where you stand, as well. ---
**Author:** ![Fionn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Fionn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fionn)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/46 "2003-05-24T01:00:04Z")
I’m so sorry, **matt** ---
**Author:** ![koeeoaddi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/koeeoaddi/32/408_2.png) [@koeeoaddi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/koeeoaddi)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/47 "2003-05-24T02:30:07Z")
Peace and comfort, **Matt**. I’m very sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/48 "2003-05-24T02:36:04Z")
I’m sorry to hear about your dad, **matt**. I’ve seen you talk about him on the boards before, and he sounded like quite a guy. Heck, he raised you, didn’t he? Clearly, he had a lot on the ball. ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/49 "2003-05-24T02:38:07Z")
**Matt** , I’ve been there, too. One of the last things I talked about with my dad was the fishing trips we had taken together. He said that he had left a few for me, and I told him I’d catch the ones he missed. His ashes went into the Mississippi River near an island where we used to fish. I usually go to that place on opening day, and I haven’t been skunked yet. Thanks, Dad. I miss you. Peace be, **Matt**. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/50 "2003-05-24T02:49:31Z")
My condolences to you and your family, matt. Was hoping for other news. ---
**Author:** ![Flamsterette\_X](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/41988e/32.png) [@Flamsterette\_X](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flamsterette_X)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/51 "2003-05-24T05:28:35Z")
I’m sorry, Matt. ☹ There’s nothing more I can say. F\_X ---
**Author:** ![Dragonblink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Dragonblink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragonblink)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/52 "2003-05-24T05:37:26Z")
**Matt** , I’m so sorry. I’m glad that you were able to set some things right. My deepest condolences to you and yours. ---
**Author:** ![Juniper200](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@Juniper200](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Juniper200)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/53 "2003-05-24T06:14:42Z")
I’m so very, very sorry, Matt. I’ll keep the [family name deleted at the request of the OP] in my thoughts. My wish for you is that someday, when you look back on these last days, you have no great regrets. (I hope that came out in the spirit in which it was intended.) Be well. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/54 "2003-05-24T15:03:03Z")
for life is not a paragraph and death I think is no parenthesis [sub]not Shakespeare, I know, but cummings works just as well, I think.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![detop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bcef8e/32.png) [@detop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/detop)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/55 "2003-05-24T15:14:43Z")
My condolences **matt** , if you need me, you know where to find me. I have been through this and its no fun, but it will get better with time. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ecccb3/32.png) [@Lord\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Jim)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/56 "2003-05-24T16:11:19Z")
I’m so sorry, **Matt**. My condolences to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Magic8ball](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Miss\_Magic8ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Magic8ball)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/57 "2003-05-24T16:17:19Z")
You have my sincerest condolences, **matt** , jusy remember the good times. ---
**Author:** ![eunoia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eunoia/32/97_2.png) [@eunoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eunoia)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/58 "2003-05-24T19:05:45Z")
“Be cheerful, sir.” The only thing we’re put on Earth to do is love and be loved, you don’t need to worry about anything else. Best wishes to you and yours, here’s hoping you spot the moments of intense beauty amidst all the intensity. ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2003, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/59 "2003-05-24T19:53:34Z")
You have my sympathies. {{ **matt** }} ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2003, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951/60 "2003-05-26T02:36:37Z")
My father died at 5:30 this afternoon, on his and Mom’s 24th wedding anniversary, in a hospital two blocks north of where they were married. It was so swift. My mother and I were at their house for a quick rest when my aunt called us to come quickly. By the time we got there, he was gone. He just went very smoothly and painlessly. Thank you to everyone who’s expressed their good will. Matt [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/our-little-life-is-rounded-with-a-sleep/176951.md?page=4)