# Out of the closet at work **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 17, 2003, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235 "2003-01-17T15:48:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Slainte](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@Slainte](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slainte)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2003, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/21 "2003-01-17T22:14:19Z")
šŸ™‚ Congratulations, **Homebrew**. The World is indeed slowly becoming a better place. The company I work for (_large_ and known the World over) started offering same-sex partner health coverage about a year and a half ago. I think itā€™s wonderful, and a small sign of progress. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2003, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/22 "2003-01-17T22:39:22Z")
I have a question, and I donā€™t know if this is going to come out sounding right, so bear with me. You work in a small, conservative town, with a Christian CEO, and no one asked why you have painted nails at work? ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2003, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/23 "2003-01-17T22:44:46Z")
**ivylass** : The fingernail painting is what prompted someone to ask. Iā€™ve since discovered that several people _suspected_, but the fingernails was seen as confirmation. **World Eater** : Metallic blue. ---
**Author:** ![Tomcat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Tomcat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tomcat)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2003, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/24 "2003-01-17T23:01:11Z")
Congrats! The world is becoming a better place on some accountsā€¦but Iā€™d still be the perfect worker for the next few weeks, just in case. Take care- -Tcat ---
**Author:** ![kevja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/aeb1de/32.png) [@kevja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kevja)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2003, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/25 "2003-01-17T23:12:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MrVisible \* > \*\*Good to hear it went so well, **Homebrew**. Now you can look forward to the inevitable shy, awkward questions from the straight folks at work. Those are always fun. > > Humans are, for the most part, pretty darn cool. \*\* ditto to all of the above. And you may get a confession or two. Iā€™m not sure why, but several times that Iā€™ve come out to hets, they seem to want to tell me some deep dark secret about themselves. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2003, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/26 "2003-01-17T23:48:51Z")
Holy shit, YOUā€™RE GAY?!?!?!! :eek: j/k šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![lel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8797f3/32.png) [@lel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lel)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/27 "2003-01-18T05:05:03Z")
Metallic blue fingernails ā€“ are they pretty? What kind of a bottom coat and topcoat are you using? What brand? Do they last? Can we see your nail polish? Oh yes, a stupid question on my part ā€“ what does metallic blue nail polish have to do with sexual orientation? Is there something that Iā€™m not aware of? Also, itā€™s great that things have gone so well for you so far ā€“ may they continue to go smoothly! ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/28 "2003-01-18T05:23:09Z")
I donā€™t know how serious you were, but here you go: The brand name is Pure Ice by Bari Cosmetics. The color is #775 Frosted Ice Celestial. I just put on two coats without a separate bottom coat. The paint is fairly tough, but I do have to do some touch up every couple of days. I then strip them on Friday and start fresh sometime over the weekend. Nail polish has nothing to do with orientation except that very few straight men wear nail polish. Iā€™m somewhat fey, so add in nail polish with the other OGTs, itā€™s just the final piece of the puzzle. ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/29 "2003-01-18T05:39:27Z")
Now an important question for Homebrew: Boxers, briefs, or bare? šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![Emperor\_Penguin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c2a13f/32.png) [@Emperor\_Penguin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emperor_Penguin)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/30 "2003-01-18T06:19:42Z")
Comgrats **Homebrew**. Coming out at work is never easy. At my old job I only came out directly to the coworkers that I was friends with, and who I worked with directly. I wasnā€™t too concerned if word got around, but I never directly told anybody else. I have a weird hangup about telling people that I am gay. I donā€™t know why, but unless I know a person fairly well, I really donā€™t like to mention it one way or another, unless Iā€™m asked directly. I always feel like Iā€™m making a big deal out of something that doesnā€™t really matter. ---
**Author:** ![Flymaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c4cdca/32.png) [@Flymaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flymaster)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/31 "2003-01-18T06:26:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Homebrew \* > \*\*You lived here!? When and how long? Iā€™ve met few people who even know where here is and few still from here. \*\* I only know where there is because of that bigass drum of mercury those kids found a few years backā€¦how are they doing? And congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![SnugTheJoiner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e8c25b/32.png) [@SnugTheJoiner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnugTheJoiner)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 8:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/32 "2003-01-18T08:52:42Z")
Congratulations! You came out at work and no one had a stroke! (Yes, it IS a little disappointing, isnā€™t it?) ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/33 "2003-01-18T11:25:58Z")
[Josie Cotton] ā€œJohnny, are youā€¦_you_ knowā€¦ā€ [/Josie] WTG, **Homebrew**! šŸ™‚ > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Chef Troy \* > I have some friends who might be called ā€œfag hagsā€ except they donā€™t like the term. > > They prefer ā€œfruit fly.ā€ Is that because they like a banana? šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![DaToad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@DaToad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaToad)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/34 "2003-01-18T13:18:43Z")
**Homebrew** I lived there from 1983-1986. I lived off of Pleasant Run Road about a mile north of the interstate. I used to hang out at Docā€™s, Fat Jacks, and the CW place over near the fairgrounds in Arkansas. Are any of them still there? Gotta tell ya, I liked it there. It was one of the best places Iā€™ve lived. ---
**Author:** ![Diff\_T](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@Diff\_T](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diff_T)\ **Post date:** [January 18, 2003, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/35 "2003-01-18T14:40:49Z")
Well, Homebrew, Iā€™ve recently noticed and have enjoyed your posts. Ever since my ā€˜Short Manā€™ thread, where I was an ass to you. (I had read one of his posts way out of context). Iā€™m happy things are goin good for you at work!! I donā€™t know where this woman gets off calling you ā€œweirdā€ because you paint your nails. She probably does it, or has friends that do! The fact that she linked you being gay to your nail painting seems a little ignorant. Why do you have to be gay to do something like that? BUT, as you claimed in my thread, I can be pretty sensitive. The worldā€™s taking babysteps twards improvment. I think it really shows too, as far as there being no problems for you at work. This shows progress. Itā€™s kickass you got all of it off your chest, and the outcome was good! Congratulations šŸ™‚ šŸ™‚ šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2003, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/36 "2003-01-19T03:59:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DaToad \* > **I used to hang out at Docā€™s, Fat Jacks, and the CW place over near the fairgrounds in Arkansas.** If you havenā€™t been back since '86, itā€™s changed since youā€™ve been here ā€“ we even have some chain restaurants now, like Applebeeā€™s and Outback Steakhouse now! Docā€™s is gone, but Fat Jackā€™s lives and what was The Pines Country Club closed for a couple of years but was reborn as The Electric Cowboy. However, Fat Jackā€™s has burned down and been rebuilt a few times. Everyone suspects that it burns, convientently, whenever Jack canā€™t get the building permits to expand. ---
**Author:** ![SwimmingRiddles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/43a26b/32.png) [@SwimmingRiddles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SwimmingRiddles)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2003, 6:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/37 "2003-01-19T06:35:31Z")
Be careful, Homebrew. Hell hath no fury like a hag scorned. This from the girl who just got back from spending the weekend with my best friend and his boyfriend. We were Pug puppy-sitting for a friend of ours (another queen). The dog came with his own wardrobe. It donā€™t get much more gayer than that. Congrats, hon. (for claification, were you the one sneaking The Advocate into the breakroom? If so, how did that go?) As with anything else in life, listen to the Fag Hags and ignore the bigots. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2003, 7:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/38 "2003-01-19T07:04:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Hastur \* > Now an important question for Homebrew: > > Boxers, briefs, or bare? > > šŸ˜ƒ Oh, honey, you misunderstood. He doesnā€™t like putting menā€™s underwear _on_, he likes taking it _off_. Heā€™s _gay_, not a cross-dresser. _THAT_ could have been a big misunderstandingā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [January 19, 2003, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/39 "2003-01-19T20:58:18Z")
> [@](#): > > I donā€™t know where this woman gets off calling you ā€œweirdā€ because you paint your nails. She probably does it, or has friends that do! I called my wife weird for painting her nails. . . once. ---
**Author:** ![Daowajan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3bc359/32.png) [@Daowajan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daowajan)\ **Post date:** [January 20, 2003, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235/40 "2003-01-20T06:43:39Z")
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYY! in other words, thatā€™s pretty šŸ†’. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/out-of-the-closet-at-work/149235.md?page=3)