# pain of embarrassment ... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 9, 2000, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pain-of-embarrassment/13976 "2000-02-09T10:11:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Kyla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eada6e/32.png) [@Kyla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kyla)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2000, 9:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pain-of-embarrassment/13976/21 "2000-02-12T09:17:00Z")
> [@](#): > > I was shy, but I got over it. Funny thing, if you pretend that you have self-confidence, you develop it. Poysyn, I think you’re my alter-ego! I tell this to people all the time. A while ago, I told a friend that I used to be really shy, and she seemed surprised, and asked me how I had become so outgoing. That started _me_, because I guess I still consider myself to be pretty shy, just a good faker. I still don’t talk about personal stuff very much. I’m happy to have debates and discussions, but I am very self-conscious. I don’t feel embarrassed about it, but I know it’s there, and I know it comes from the paranoia I developed during junior high. Junior high is evil. * * * ~Harborina “This is my sandbox. I’m not allowed to go in the deep end. That’s where I saw the leprechauns.” ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2000, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pain-of-embarrassment/13976/22 "2000-02-12T11:05:00Z")
Kiva, I didn’t say a thing about antidepressants, and I wasn’t accusing you of having psychotic tendencies. Uh…let me come back tomorrow and clarify what I meant; I’m fading. Anyway, use that insurance, get therapy, and godspeed. * * * Remember, I’m pulling for you; we’re all in this together. —Red Green ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2000, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pain-of-embarrassment/13976/23 "2000-02-12T21:28:00Z")
> [@](#): > > I told a friend that I used to be really shy, and she seemed surprised, and asked me how I had become so outgoing. That started me, because I guess I still consider myself to be > pretty shy, just a good faker. Ah, I can relate. Once, a group of my friends talking about me (while I was there, don’t you hate that) decided that I was most definitely an “extroverted introvert” I suppose its true, because I’ve always actually enjoyed being alone, but when I am with people that interest me, I can be outgoing. These days, I actually don’t get to much time to myself, and sometimes I do miss it. I am actually considering taking a nice solo vacation, something most people wouldn’t consider enjoyable. But to me, it would be ideal. You see, when I’m alone I’m able to think a lot more, and I’ve always loved to just simply think. And I’ve always tried to associate with people somewhat similar to that, they don’t need to be exactly like me, but I’ve always appreciated people who know not only how to socialize, but also how to relax and shut up. I’ve never understood the type of person who can’t be in the same room with someone else without talking incessantly. Don’t get me wrong, I love to have long conversations about all kinds of interesting stuff, but just not all the time. Nothing bothers me more then the kind of pointless small-talk where people just spout nonsense that neither of them care about whatsoever. ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2000, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pain-of-embarrassment/13976/24 "2000-02-19T22:23:00Z")
Hah! I just read this thread again and realized that this is MPSIMS!!! 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pain-of-embarrassment/13976.md?page=1)