# Papa, Can You Hear Me?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
**Created:** [December 4, 2001, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775 "2001-12-04T03:37:58Z")
**Posts on this page:** 12
**Page:** 2
### Author:  [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/21 "2001-12-04T13:56:28Z")
jayjay, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. If you need to talk, I’m here…
I’m sending hugs…
☹
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### Author:  [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 2:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/22 "2001-12-04T14:17:59Z")
I’m so sorry, jayjay. I can’t think of anything else to say…
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### Author:  [@Verrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Verrain)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/23 "2001-12-04T14:23:27Z")
My thoughts and prayers are with you as well, **jayjay**.
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### Author:  [@chique](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chique)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/24 "2001-12-04T14:39:23Z")
Oh, my, jayjay…I am so, so sorry ☹
Let me know if there’s anything I can do, hon.
{{{{{{{{{jayjay}}}}}}}}}}
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### Author:  [@Zappo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zappo)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/25 "2001-12-04T14:52:39Z")
**jayjay** , I am sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please, if there’s anything I can do for you or yours just let me know.
What everybody said is totally true. Don’t be afraid to let your emotions come to the surface. Cry, yell, scream, beat up a mattress or whatever if you feel like doing it. Just don’t hold it in. You’re definitely entitled to be mad and frustrated. Just know that those feelings won’t last forever. After awhile the mad feelings and sorrow will burn off and you will be left with memories of the good times and fun things you and your father shared. Those won’t disappear and they’ll be a part of you forever.
If you do decide you can make it to the Dopefest on the 22nd, I think we’d be proud to raise a toast to your dad.
Sal
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### Author:  [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/26 "2001-12-04T15:09:18Z")
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I have no wisdom or consolation to offer. All I can do is give you a hug and some wordless affection. I hope that once you get through the pain, you can cherish the memories of your father;s love.
And the Yentl reference…very nice.
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### Author:  [@Why\_A\_Duck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Why_A_Duck)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/27 "2001-12-04T15:13:26Z")
**jayjay** , only time is going to make things better, but know that you and your family are in our thoughts. My dad died right before the holidays 16 years back, we knew it was coming (the big C), but that didn’t make it any easier. So sorry for your loss.
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### Author:  [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/28 "2001-12-04T15:20:04Z")
> [@](#):
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> {{{Homebrew}}} (careful…I’m a hugger)
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> jayjay
So am I …
{{{{{{jayjay}}}}}}
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### Author:  [@Billdo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Billdo)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/29 "2001-12-04T15:28:54Z")
I’m sorry to hear of your loss. Best wishes to you and your family in this difficult time.
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### Author:  [@DeadlyAccurate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeadlyAccurate)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/30 "2001-12-04T15:51:17Z")
Nothing more to say than that I’m terribly sorry for your loss.
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### Author:  [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)
#### Post date: [December 4, 2001, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/31 "2001-12-04T16:40:14Z")
jayjay,
so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please take care of yourself and let us know how you are doing, ok?
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### Author:  [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)
#### Post date: [December 5, 2001, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/papa-can-you-hear-me/96775/32 "2001-12-05T01:40:51Z")
Thank you all. I’m sorry it’s taken so long to post a reply, but we had to make the arrangements today and then went to my aunt’s house where my mom’s brothers and sisters gathered for her. We just got back.
I was proud of her today. She insisted on going into the showroom to pick out my father’s casket rather than having my brother or I do it. She’s starting to show more strength, even though she’s still having bouts of mild hysteria. We got her to eat a little.
Tomorrow is the viewing. It’s not something I’m looking forward to. We’re going about an hour before the official viewing, for a private family viewing. I don’t know how she’s going to react.
Thank you again. I’ll keep things updated.
jayjay
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