# Parents: did you screw up your kids? If not, why not, and if so, how? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 4, 2011, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/parents-did-you-screw-up-your-kids-if-not-why-not-and-if-so-how/580695 "2011-05-04T14:44:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2011, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/parents-did-you-screw-up-your-kids-if-not-why-not-and-if-so-how/580695/21 "2011-05-05T16:31:03Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > There is no question that I screwed her up good. Yet, she is still made of awesome. I can only wonder how much more awesome she would be if she had a mom who knew what the _hell_ she was doing. Yes. What she said. People compliment me on my kids sometimes, and I always have this reaction like “what the hell are you complimenting ME for? Anything good about my kids is definitely despite my influence, and not because of it.” ---
**Author:** ![Voyager](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voyager/32/133_2.png) [@Voyager](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Voyager)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2011, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/parents-did-you-screw-up-your-kids-if-not-why-not-and-if-so-how/580695/22 "2011-05-05T16:45:01Z")
> [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > Now the 64 million dollar question: nature or nurture? Were we just lucky with exceptionally good kids or was there something we did to make them that way? Damfino! I vote nature, because I know adopted kids who turned out to be a mess despite having really wonderful parents. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/parents-did-you-screw-up-your-kids-if-not-why-not-and-if-so-how/580695.md?page=1)