# Partner has a tiny dick? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 30, 2003, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244 "2003-03-30T18:18:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/41 "2003-03-31T02:20:23Z")
I just wanted to point out that I read **SilkyThreat** ’s username as ‘Silky Throat’ the first time around and that it made me choke on my milk. In context and all. ::coughs:: Nevermind. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/42 "2003-03-31T02:35:41Z")
The biggest disaster. You are having anal sex, doggy style: “Put it in!” _anguished wail_ “It IS in!” This actually happened to a close friend (as the bottom, let me hasten to clarify). ---
**Author:** ![monica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a183cd/32.png) [@monica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monica)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/43 "2003-03-31T02:35:56Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by NoClueBoy_ > FTR, I’m average sized. Or, at least from what I’ve gleaned over the years from different sources, I think I am… What IS the Straight Dope™ on that, anyways? > [@](#): > > _As the master says…_ > White males had an average flaccid penis length of 4.0 inches, whereas the average black male’s detumescent member measured 4.3 inches. But when erect, the average white penis was 6.2 inches long, whereas the average black’s was 6.3 inches–still longer, but not by much. (Average circumference for whites was 3.7 inches; for blacks, 3.8.) ---
**Author:** ![DAVEW0071](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e19b73/32.png) [@DAVEW0071](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DAVEW0071)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/44 "2003-03-31T02:48:00Z")
**HER:** Who do you think you’re going to satisfy with that little thing? **HIM: _ME!!_** Seriously, has anyone considered that the woman’s technique may also come into play in a situation like this? There are other ways to be sexually satisfied, and they’re all good. It’s about mutual satisfaction, and it’s a two-way street. A smaller-than-average erection can be “compensated for” in many ways, unless all the woman’s looking for is a large penis. Which doesn’t say a lot for the woman, IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![yosemite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/3ab097/32.png) [@yosemite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yosemite)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/45 "2003-03-31T03:26:20Z")
I must confess, I just couldn’t comprehend the existence of a penis which is as small and as thin as a pinkie finger. I’ve seen more than my fair share of penises over the years. (Now, don’t look at me like that…) After _years_ of Life Drawing (lots and LOTS of nude artists’ models) and working in the health field (lots of nudity there too) I’ve _never_ seen a penis that is that small. Smaller than porn stars, sure, but not pinkie finger small. I can’t even imagine such a thing. Though, to be fair, I doubt that any man with a pinkie-finger-sized penis would ever want to be an artists’ model! So I looked on Google. I thought it would be a futile gesture, because I figured all I’d get would be “enlarge your penis” ads. But I did find something. I cannot link to it here, of course. But look up the phrase (with quotes) “ricotta has a small penis” and you’ll find some pictures of a _small_ penis. (It’s a joke site, you can put your own name in and it’ll say that _you_ have a small penis. What will people think of next?) I wonder if there is some sort of medical problem there; I’ve never seen anything that small. I’ve never _personally_ never seen a penis that was so small as to be a turn-off, (I’ve seen 'em smallish, but they still looked normal). But the penis in that web site—good grief. That’s _small_. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/46 "2003-03-31T04:01:56Z")
As far as surgical options go, there are two of which I am aware. One is liposuction on the pubic mound and the other is severing the suspensory ligaments that hold the penis in place. Neither actually increases the size of the penis. The former just shows more of the shaft as being out in front of the pubic mound and the latter releases 1-2 inches. Cutting the ligaments can lead to erectile problems; the penis will not stand up at the same angle it used to. For girth increase, it is possible to inject fat into the shaft. The fat can become displaced and lead to lumpiness. FTR, I have indulged in none of the above and have no plans to. While most men including me would, I belive, prefer to be larger I’m pretty OK with what I have and my new boyfriend is too. ---
**Author:** ![Koffing](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/898d66/32.png) [@Koffing](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koffing)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/47 "2003-03-31T04:06:35Z")
It… it’s retracted! They retract!? ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/48 "2003-03-31T04:29:24Z")
Never compared full turgidity with any other guys. Never got any complaints from women. _Did_ get a few compliments. Then I met Jennifer. The first time we bumped uglies, _I_ was the one wondering if it was in yet. Woman coulda made John Holmes feel like a needledink bugfucker. Can’t imagine what my life would’ve been like if that was what it felt like all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Persephone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@Persephone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Persephone)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/49 "2003-03-31T04:39:35Z")
Attitude has soooooo much to do with things here. Expressing disappointment to your partner with the size of said partner’s penis size is, IMHO, just really bad form. There’s ways around it without making him feel like crap. Intercourse is great. I like it a lot. But, it’s the overall sexual experience that really counts (again, just MHO). There’s other ways to satisfy that have nothing to do with size. Hell, even average-sized or larger men have their off nights, you know? You just learn to work with what you’ve got (and I don’t just mean penises here–I mean yourself and your partner), and sex will be a lot more satisfying for all involved. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/50 "2003-03-31T04:40:07Z")
Wow, I’m beginning to think I’m the only woman who doesn’t care about penis size. And **Dave** is right, it takes both partners to have great sex. You can’t just lie there and expect fireworks. Hell, not even a sparkler. In any case, if I were to have a partner with a less-than-monstrous member, I would find a way to make us both happy. Sorry for those in the “bigger is better” camp, but in my experience, (which is admittedly limited) that’s the way it goes. If you’ll excuse me, I’ll go wallow in my sexually mature superiority now. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/51 "2003-03-31T04:41:26Z")
Damn, **Persephone** stole my thunder! Scooped again! ---
**Author:** ![beergeek279](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@beergeek279](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beergeek279)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/52 "2003-03-31T05:17:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rysdad \* > \*\*Never compared full turgidity with any other guys. Never got any complaints from women. _Did_ get a few compliments. Then I met Jennifer. The first time we bumped uglies, _I_ was the one wondering if it was in yet. > > Woman coulda made John Holmes feel like a needledink bugfucker. > > Can’t imagine what my life would’ve been like if that was what it felt like all the time. \*\* That’s something that doesn’t seem to get brought up quite as much. For some of the women complaining about penis size, maybe it’s not that the snake is too small, but rather that the cave is a bit too wide. ---
**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 5:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/53 "2003-03-31T05:35:07Z")
Heh. The phrase “Like throwing a sausage down a hallway” comes to mind for some reason 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/54 "2003-03-31T05:47:34Z")
FWIW, I’m more of a cubbyhole than a corridor. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crankyasanoldman/32/11670_2.png) [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrankyAsAnOldMan)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/55 "2003-03-31T06:31:56Z")
I have no doubt that two creative partners could have plenty of pleasurable fun despite the endowments of either party. I think about how partners have handled my imperfections. The smart one have complimented the other stuff, or found ways to make me think a minus is actually a plus. For example, I’m a pasty, sickly white shade, but one guy said my skin was like alabaster. Smart boy-- it got me in the sack, and I’ve thought of that compliment for years. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/56 "2003-03-31T06:59:40Z")
For what it’s worth, I _do_ want to know how I compare to other guys but being a virgin and not into exhibitionism, I haven’t a clue. Whenever I finally get to that point and I’m comfortable enough with the girl, yeah… I’d be interested in her telling me how I stacked up so long as it wasn’t accompanied by giggling. ---
**Author:** ![Seamonkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ba9def/32.png) [@Seamonkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seamonkey)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/57 "2003-03-31T07:14:46Z")
I dated a guy once I would estimate to be the size of an average 6 year old, and this would be when he was hard. All I know is this guy had skillz!! I am sure he was fully aware of his shortcomings, so to speak, and definately made up for it in other ways. Although I was shocked and disappointed the first time around, I ended up enjoying myself everytime. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 9:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/58 "2003-03-31T09:24:09Z")
I’m very tight down there. This runs in the family (on my mom’s side anyway). Even tampons used to bother me. So, under the hypothesis that I were to find myself in bed with a man who was not my SO, and saw that his equipment was tiny, my first reaction would be “oh, thank GOD, it won’t hurt.” If I were to find it unsatisfying, I’d say something afterwards (at least, if I intending the relationship to be lasting). In my experience, though, size doesn’t necessarily correllate to pleasure. Out of the two guys I’ve been with, the one with less of an endowment is by _far_ the better in the sack. Not only did sex with my ex hurt, he didn’t know what he was doing (we were both virgins). Besides, the pain was way too much. And he thought my vagina was icky. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/59 "2003-03-31T12:27:31Z")
I don’t think my part is tiny, but I figure the meaningful competition is not other people with cocks, but from fascinating lesbians instead. And it doesn’t seem to be a problem for them 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/60 "2003-03-31T13:38:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CrankyAsAnOldMan \* > \*\*For example, I’m a pasty, sickly white shade, but one guy said my skin was like alabaster. Smart boy-- it got me in the sack, and I’ve thought of that compliment for years. \*\* [slight hijack] Omigod, **Cranky** , didn’t it make you feel like a goddess?! Each time my ex described my fair-as-fair-can-get skin as ‘alabaster,’ I puddled. So nice. Glad I’m not the only girl to fall for that one. 😉 [/slight hijack] **Angel of the Lord** , how do you know it runs in the family? Just curious. I personally can’t imagine asking my mom something like that (or her telling me.) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244.md?page=4)