# Partner has a tiny dick? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 30, 2003, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244 "2003-03-30T18:18:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/61 "2003-03-31T14:07:44Z")
Girls, I almost never suggest this in a relationship, but if the guy is a little small or average… lie. I don’t have much to compare with as they never had showers after gym in my highschool and I’ll be damned if I am comparing myself to a 10" porn star. So, when with a woman for the first time, clothes drop she says, “Oh!” me:“what?” “well… (embarassed)” “hmm?”“well, I just never saw one that big.” I know it is stupid and shallow and I have no idea if she was lying, but hell with whatever size his dick is, if a woman says that his ego won’t be able to fit in the room. He will perfrom like you won’t believe. Stroke his ego along with other things. Unfortunately guys can be pretty sensitive about this and a little encouragment helps. If he is very small he already knows. According to several ex’s, most guys, even those a bit above average, secretly think they are kind of small. Probably too much porn. As for breasts… I love 'em all but when they are smaller than an AA cup it just doesn’t do it for me and larger than L can really get in the way. The most important thing though is that they are sensitive. Who care what size they are if they aren’t a source of pleasure for the woman? ---
**Author:** ![anewthought](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@anewthought](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anewthought)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/62 "2003-03-31T14:30:57Z")
There have been several scientific studies done. Agreed average penis size for white males: 6” long from tip to pubic area (From tip of penis to where it actually connects to the body) 4.8” wide in center so measure around the shaft in middle. Do what you will with this info 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Branwen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@Branwen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Branwen)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/63 "2003-03-31T14:33:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by flight \* > \*\*Girls, I almost never suggest this in a relationship, but if the guy is a little small or average… lie. > \*\* I have to agree. Once my ex opened a Playboy and asked why my breasts didn’t look like the ones on the models.:rolleyes: It was a hurtful thing to do, and IMHO telling a man he has a small penis would be no better. I’ve had one partner who was small and one who was very large. The only difference betwixt the two was that the larger one was occasionally painful. ---
**Author:** ![Mooney252](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7c8e57/32.png) [@Mooney252](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mooney252)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/64 "2003-03-31T14:47:44Z")
> [@](#): > > 4.8” wide in center so measure around the shaft in middle. Anewthought – I’m going to have to pay more attention to the “penis enlargement” spam! Are you sure that you didn’t mean 4.8" **circumference** in the middle? ---
**Author:** ![dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorkusmalorkusmafia/32/7266_2.png) [@dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorkusmalorkusmafia)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/65 "2003-03-31T15:34:59Z")
LOL, I use the internet to judge penile length. From what I have “seen” from chatting with people online, 10 inches sounds about right and as thick as a soda can. 😉 I have also seen many micropenises (I believe that is the proper medical term) in both real life and in pictures. Hell, there is even a yahoo group that is a picture exchange for said style of penis. The smallest I have seen (I laughed at it later. Yes, size does matter) was about 2/3 the size of my pinky in length and in girth. He even claimed to be a top. I can’t imagine that ever being satisfying. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/66 "2003-03-31T17:39:04Z")
> [@](#): > > For example, I’m a pasty, sickly white shade, but one guy said my skin was like alabaster Yup, isn’t that great? I hate my midriff, but Tom _loves_ it to the point where he said if I were to lose it, he would be supportive but very unhappy. That’s nice to hear 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lady\_of\_the\_Lake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@Lady\_of\_the\_Lake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lady_of_the_Lake)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/67 "2003-03-31T18:04:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Angel of the Lord \* > \*\* And he thought my vagina was icky. \*\* Ouch. That would hurt feelings. It’s important to be honest, yet…if you can’t say anything nice, maybe just hold back on the insults regarding a penis that’s much too small? My girlfriends have complained equally about a penis being ‘too large’ and causing pain, and ‘too small’ and therefore not arousing one enough. But, really, I have to wonder how much of it is the man not attending to a woman’s arousal/needs? I have never found a man to be ‘too small’… ---
**Author:** ![Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ac8455/32.png) [@Bippy\_the\_Beardless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bippy_the_Beardless)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/68 "2003-03-31T18:45:13Z")
I susspect it is very unlikely that many straight men have seen many other penises, and sertainly very few or none in the errect state. So straight men generally don’t know their relative size (except in the extremes). Of course they get told by S.O.'s but most are wise enough to not take that as the unadulterated truth. So except for the extremely tiny straight men probably don’t know how they “stand up” to the competition. Due to lack of self confidence, I always assumed myself to be a little below average, but since taking up nudism, I have noticed that at least in comparing the un-pumped state I actually seem to have more to offer than most. Unpumped size seems to range from invisible (\<1 inch) to over 7 inches, (and no I don’t go out of my way to observe other men’s dangle, but such extremes sort of poke you in the eye 😉 ) Cheers, Bippy ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/69 "2003-03-31T19:51:39Z")
To paraphrase QtM - “It’s not the meat, it’s the turgidity.” ---
**Author:** ![White\_Lightning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@White\_Lightning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/White_Lightning)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/70 "2003-03-31T21:11:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by flight \* > According to several ex’s, most guys, even those a bit above average, secretly think they are kind of small. I’ve been told this as well. I think that when it comes down to it I’m near or slightly above average, but every girl you’ll ever go to bed with will always have had that one lover of mythical proportion… it’s hard not to let it get to your head. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/71 "2003-03-31T21:16:04Z")
I’d also hazard a guess that most hetero women don’t deal with more than one erect penis at a time - at least not for long periods in their lives. I submit that when a woman is head-over-heels crazy about a guy, his perfectly average penis looks larger than others she has encountered, and when she’s not, it looks average or perhaps a bit lacking. That only works within perhaps one standard deviation of penis-size, of course, and wouldn’t make a smaller-than-pinky-length penis look big. ---
**Author:** ![IrishRideGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b4bc9f/32.png) [@IrishRideGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IrishRideGirl)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/72 "2003-03-31T22:10:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by yosemitebabe \* > \*\*I must confess, I just couldn’t comprehend the existence of a penis which is as small and as thin as a pinkie finger. I’ve seen more than my fair share of penises over the years. (Now, don’t look at me like that…) After _years_ of Life Drawing (lots and LOTS of nude artists’ models) and working in the health field (lots of nudity there too) I’ve _never_ seen a penis that is that small. Smaller than porn stars, sure, but not pinkie finger small. I can’t even imagine such a thing. Though, to be fair, I doubt that any man with a pinkie-finger-sized penis would ever want to be an artists’ model! > > So I looked on Google. I thought it would be a futile gesture, because I figured all I’d get would be “enlarge your penis” ads. But I did find something. I cannot link to it here, of course. But look up the phrase (with quotes) “ricotta has a small penis” and you’ll find some pictures of a _small_ penis. (It’s a joke site, you can put your own name in and it’ll say that _you_ have a small penis. What will people think of next?) I wonder if there is some sort of medical problem there; I’ve never seen anything that small. > > I’ve never _personally_ never seen a penis that was so small as to be a turn-off, (I’ve seen 'em smallish, but they still looked normal). But the penis in that web site—good grief. That’s _small_. :eek: \*\* The medical term is miocropenis. Yes, they do exist. I dated a man when I was in my early 20’s who was an inch and a half when he was hard. ---
**Author:** ![Ol\_Gaffer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Ol\_Gaffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ol_Gaffer)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/73 "2003-03-31T22:21:09Z")
A question for those of who have been intimate with a man with a small penis. Did he bring the subject up before the festivities started or was this something you found out as the underwear was dropped? ---
**Author:** ![syncrolecyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f08c70/32.png) [@syncrolecyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/syncrolecyne)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/74 "2003-03-31T22:33:09Z")
Never judge a penis unless you’ve seen it in several stages of turgidity… I remember the first time I was ‘exposed’ to a member of the opposite sex. At first I was so nervous, and maybe a little chilly, and when I looked down, the thing looked like it disappeared. After a minute of hiding it away under the covers, I got my nerve back, and it filled out to a presentable size. But if she had caught sight of it at first, she would have probably laughed me out of the room. Also, and this is a side bar. Do women notice testicle/scrotum size? (I know there are other threads on the aesthetics of the sack) ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2003, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/75 "2003-03-31T23:33:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bup \* > **I submit that when a woman is head-over-heels crazy about a guy, his perfectly average penis looks larger than others she has encountered, and when she’s not, it looks average or perhaps a bit lacking.** Well, of course, because things always seem bigger when you see them up close. ---
**Author:** ![Searching\_For\_Truth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@Searching\_For\_Truth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Searching_For_Truth)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/76 "2003-04-01T02:11:50Z")
**Ol’Gaffer** , I can not imagine a guy bringing up the fact that he has a smaller-than-average package before hopping into bed with a girl. Or, in that case, at ALL. “So before we get this party started, I should warn you…” “What’s that? Do you like to play rough?” ::giggles:: “Um, no…just that well…” ::drops pants:: ::girlish scream of surprise:: ---
**Author:** ![Ol\_Gaffer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Ol\_Gaffer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ol_Gaffer)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/77 "2003-04-01T04:02:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Searching For Truth \* > **Ol’Gaffer** , I can not imagine a guy bringing up the fact that he has a smaller-than-average package before hopping into bed with a girl. Or, in that case, at ALL. > > “So before we get this party started, I should warn you…” > “What’s that? Do you like to play rough?” ::giggles:: > “Um, no…just that well…” ::drops pants:: > ::girlish scream of surprise:: Exactly. I mean there doesn’t seem to be any good time to do it, so when do you (I mean “you” in the collective group of guys with small wieners and not “you” specifically **Searching For Truth** )? If a guy doesn’t say anything is he just hoping that she won’t notice? If you are smaller than average I could understand keeping mum, but if you have a micropenis, perhaps an open dialogue would preclude the aforementioned giggle stifling episode. ---
**Author:** ![Kraig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/977dab/32.png) [@Kraig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kraig)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/78 "2003-04-01T04:17:56Z")
There is no normal code in a matter such as this. Let’s turn the table… You have just got home from another shopping spree, again, [that’s a whole nuther thread]. You just can’t wait to model the new jeans, or whatever pair of britches you have just purchased, for him to see! You walk out prancin’ & ask “Do these make my ass look fat?” I’d rather take your mother out to dinner and dancin’ than answer that question! No matter what I say about your ass in the new pants, you aint gonna like the remark reguardless if your butt is big or not! To sum it up, if ya need to laugh, go to the bathroom and bury your face in a towel and wail away! ---
**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/79 "2003-04-01T04:30:38Z")
> [@](#): > > And he thought my vagina was icky. What did he say when he regained consciousness? 😉 Seriously, that was an awful thing for him to say. Guys like that don’t deserve to get any. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Tof](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@The\_Tof](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Tof)\ **Post date:** [April 1, 2003, 5:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/80 "2003-04-01T05:04:42Z")
OK… I’m not like micropenis small. But I’ve often wished for an extra couple of inches. I just, um, did a little informal measuring so I could post accurately. I’ll say I’m longer than my middle finger and thicker than my thumb. So that’s at least OK. Although I think if I actually took out the tape I probably wouldn’t measure up to the “average” quotes listed above. My boy hides like a turtle though when not excited. Practically disappears even. My sexual experience is limited. The two women I’ve had sex with have referrenced their last guy and said that he was so big it hurt. They were glad to have something that “fit better” and didn’t hurt. I’m not sure if they were just yanking my crank or what. (Well, I’m marrying one, so she’s gonna be stuck with it. But she swears its fine.) I will tell you though, both times I felt a little better about getting onboard for a second ride after they swore it was fine and not too small. So I suppose the moral is… a little white lie may help boost the ol’ confidence and increase performance. Thats where the real fun lies anyway. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244.md?page=5)