# Partner has a tiny dick? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 30, 2003, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244 "2003-03-30T18:18:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Nvme77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Nvme77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nvme77)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/101 "2003-04-07T03:58:45Z")
Sad, sad story…for him, anyways. No, really back in the day I was somewhat of a promiscuous girl and had had my fair share of all types and sizes. However, I met one guy that I decided I would wait to really develop a good relationship with him before doing the deed. Well, he had one big penis myth trait- this guy was 6’3 so I was pretty confident I would get my fill (groan). So the fatefull night arrives and as he goes to get it in I am like hello is it there(mentally, of course) and yes he worked it all that he could like he would wow me with his technique and I am having a mental discourse with myself regarding the situation. I was like he is trying to park a bike in the garage! And I reasoned that if I let him continue, then I was misleading him and no better than the one night stand I was trying to not portray. So I started to cry at the total injustice of going without only to be cheated and he stopped and asked me what was wrong. I ran into the walk in closet, got dressed and came out to apologize to him profusely, saying it was all my fault and that I still hadn’t gotten over some made up boyfriend. Well he sat in my bed in total wonderment and was like, “Man why does this always happen to me?” ---
**Author:** ![Stephi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecd19e/32.png) [@Stephi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stephi)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/102 "2003-04-07T04:01:15Z")
Have you ever done something and instantly regretted it? That is what this thread is. The only excuse I can give you is that my partner of 8 years told me that he was leaving me for another woman only a week before. I plead temporary insanity! I throw myself on the mecy of the court! So anyhoo, I’m sure the man I was with knew he was small, and didn’t have to be told. And it would have been rude of me to do so. 🙂 And, I feel complelled to say this, a fascinating discussion did come out of my awful OP, so maybe um…good things happen to temporarily insane people? ---
**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/103 "2003-04-07T04:12:18Z")
> [@](#): > > Have you ever done something and instantly regretted it? Well, there was the time I asked for a Moe Howard haircut from my hairstylist. > [@](#): > > The only excuse I can give you is that my partner of 8 years told me that he was leaving me for another woman only a week before. I have to admit, the correlation crossed my mind, but I didn’t want to mention it for fear of offending you or hurting your feelings. > [@](#): > > I plead temporary insanity! I throw myself on the mecy of the court! \ I find you guilty! [Monty Python] Put her in…the comfy chair! [/Monty Python] ---
**Author:** ![Shaolinrabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Shaolinrabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shaolinrabbit)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/104 "2003-04-07T04:54:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by yosemitebabe \* > \*\*I must confess, I just couldn’t comprehend the existence of a penis which is as small and as thin as a pinkie finger. I’ve seen more than my fair share of penises over the years. (Now, don’t look at me like that…) After _years_ of Life Drawing (lots and LOTS of nude artists’ models) and working in the health field (lots of nudity there too) I’ve _never_ seen a penis that is that small. Smaller than porn stars, sure, but not pinkie finger small. > > I can’t even imagine such a thing. Though, to be fair, I doubt that any man with a pinkie-finger-sized penis would ever want to be an artists’ model! > [. . .] > I’ve never seen anything that small. > I’ve never _personally_ never seen a penis that was so small as to be a turn-off, (I’ve seen 'em smallish, but they still looked normal). But the penis in that web site—good grief. That’s _small_. :eek: \*\* I was actually just checking to see if my wife came in here 😉 (Yippee, it is as big as I think :D) Then I saw **YB** ’s post, and I wanted to say that if any of the 33,000 dopers out there is a male with a penis this small, don’t take it personally. Just because she’s seen a relative sample of the enitire male population and _never_ witnessed anything so small in her life doesn’t mean you’re too small. **yosemitebabe** , I laughed myself hoarse. OMG! :o ---
**Author:** ![Omorka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/50afbb/32.png) [@Omorka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omorka)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2003, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/105 "2003-04-07T05:01:49Z")
To misquote a Spider Robinson line, “I see fingers and a tongue from here. Everything else is gravy.” I mean, you can buy a 10-inch penis substitute if you really need one. Lesbians manage to get off quite nicely with or without such devices. A dick is nice, but for all that, it’s not really neccessary unless you’re trying to conceive. I’ve had one longer-than-average guy and two who are average or slightly shorter. I’ve found that tightening my Kegels more than made up the difference. That might not work for a micropenis, but for a fellow who’s just a bit short, it shouldn’t be an issue. Besides, a eunuch could reach the clitoris. 3 inches is enough to hit most G-spots. Unless you can _only_ get off on the sensitive spot behind the cervix (does that have a hip, trendy sexological name yet? the C-spot?), width is more important than length for penetrative vaginal sex anyway - and technique and a willingness to take feedback are more important than either. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/106 "2003-04-08T21:40:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by gobear \* > I much prefer to go with w guy who’s small to average than to try to take on **Cockzilla**. BWHAHAHAHAHAHA…oh my god…“Cockzilla?” BHWAHAHAHA…oh man, that sounds like the name of a porno! 😛 For the record, having NO experience in um, measuring, I have NO idea what size is supposed to be average, big, or small. So any size would probably be considered “big” by me, since the ones I’ve seen in porn pics scare the bejeezus out of me and make me run screaming for the hills. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2003, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/107 "2003-04-08T21:50:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zette \* > \*\*I wonder how common this is- I’m talking REALLY small here _(like finger size)_. I know I’ve “encountered” one in my lifetime and was stunned. Thoughts? Experiences? Is this a physical abnormality or just the way it is sometimes? \*\* I dated a guy like this too. I wasn’t particularly concerned; however, he would always go on and on about how _HUGE_ he was. I wasn’t about to lie and agree with him. I always used to say “It’s fine.” which didn’t really make him jump up and down with glee, but I didn’t know what else to do. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2003, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/108 "2003-04-09T01:47:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Angel of the Lord \* > **(we were both virgins) […] And he thought my vagina was icky.** Hate to say this, but if a virgin guy doesn’t get a good lesson in what to expect ahead of time, a vagina can be scary or even repulsive the first time he sees/touches it. As a virgin guy at age 20, no one had told me beforehand that an aroused vagina was supposed to be damp. When I finally got to touch a vagina for the first time, the particular young lady who had given me the honor was very damp indeed. I didn’t say “ewww!” to her or anything, but I was thinking it, especially at first. It took me two days of introspection to come to grips (so to speak) with the reality of what a vagina was **really** like, as opposed to what I’d previously **surmised** it would be like, before I finally understood how good such a thing would feel if my penis were inside it. Of course, by the time I saw her again, she’d lost interest in me, and I never did get to go past 3rd base with her – so those of you who are of the opinion that guys who react as though a vagina is “icky” deserve to be lonely can feel vindicated. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![smiling\_bandit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@smiling\_bandit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smiling_bandit)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/109 "2003-04-10T12:01:20Z")
I also notice there is kind of a difference in the level of arousal. veuing really, really interested makes men a bit more… ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/110 "2003-04-10T14:28:18Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Searching for Truth_ > **Angel of the Lord, how do you know it runs in the family? Just curious. I personally can’t imagine asking my mom something like that (or her telling me.)** We had an extremely awkward conversation after about the fifteen millionth time I tried to wear a tampon. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by tracer_ > **Hate to say this, but if a virgin guy doesn’t get a good lesson in what to expect ahead of time, a vagina can be scary or even repulsive the first time he sees/touches it.(snip)** You see, though, you just _don’t_ bring it up during intimate moments. In your post, you said that you didn’t say “ewww” or anything. He did. Additionally, he had no problems placing his member in there, or asking me to pleasure his member. When it came to touching my member, however, that was an entirely different story (the subject of oral never came up). ---
**Author:** ![IrishRideGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b4bc9f/32.png) [@IrishRideGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IrishRideGirl)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/111 "2003-04-10T15:48:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ol’Gaffer \* > \*\*So, **IrishRideGirl** , were his testicles proportionate? Or did he have enormous balls and a tiny penis? \*\* Ping Pong ball size. I guess that is kind of proportionate. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/112 "2003-04-10T16:13:50Z")
Sure, it just thrills a guy to be asked if he does watch repair with his dick. ---
**Author:** ![dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dorkusmalorkusmafia/32/7266_2.png) [@dorkusmalorkusmafia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dorkusmalorkusmafia)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/113 "2003-04-10T16:16:54Z")
alice\_in\_wonderland and Zette, I also dated a guy who had a smaller penis who was constantly bragging about how big it was. He had a picture taken of his dick up close and it did indeed look large until you realized that his face in the far background was merely a pinpoint speck. It is amazing what perspective can do to one’s naught bits. Anyway, in real life, it was about as big around as one of those jumbo crayolas but not nearly as long. He had small balls too and when he wasn’t hard, it looked like his penis was a third testicle. I still wonder how that happened. ---
**Author:** ![modro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6de8d8/32.png) [@modro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/modro)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/114 "2003-04-10T20:02:33Z")
I’d have to say that myself, size is not an issue. In all honesty, I actually tend to prefer guys with endowments on the smaller side, and mainly for the reasons that **gobear** mentioned. I’ve fooled around with guys who were quite small (~3.5 inches erect) and it wasn’t really an impediment or anything. Actually it was quite nice being able to do anything orally with that much ease. Plus they tend to think that I am friggin huge. And, as with **matt\_mcl** I’ve had a few of the “You want to put THAT where???” guys who were, for me, too large. I’d have to say too large is more of an impediment. I think that most men, actually underestimate their size in comparison to other guys. I always considered _myself_ small, prior to me actually gaining any sexual experience, simply because when not erect, it _is_ pretty small. I always figured that since I had seen a lot of other guys who were larger when flaccid, that it would only make sense that they would be larger when erect too. Which in a lot of cases I’ve noticed, isn’t really the case. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/115 "2003-04-10T20:34:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Angel of the Lord \* > > > [@](#): > > > > _Originally posted by tracer_ > > Hate to say this, but if a virgin guy doesn’t get a good lesson in what to expect ahead of time, a vagina can be scary or even repulsive the first time he sees/touches it. > > **You see, though, you just _don’t_ bring it up during intimate moments. In your post, you said that you didn’t say “ewww” or anything. He did.** What I neglected to mention was that I **did** say, “This is so alien to me.” Which wasn’t too bad, I guess, considering it **was** my first time at 3rd base, but still I’m sure it kinda sounded funny. Oh, and I still fingered her to (what I presume was) orgasm, though. > [@](#): > > \*\*Additionally, he had no problems placing his member in there, or asking me to pleasure his member. When it came to touching my member, however, that was an entirely different story (the subject of oral never came up). \*\* The subject of oral **did** come up with her. She brought it up, by asking, “Do you want to eat me?” My first thought was, “You mean **drink** you, don’t you?” (Did I mention she was very very damp, and that I hadn’t expected dampness?) Fortunately, I held my tongue, so to speak, and instead replied with, “That depends, do you want to eat me?”, which made her lose interest. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/116 "2003-04-10T23:01:46Z")
What I don’t get is why there are so many topics on big penises & small penises & never one on the right size penis. ---
**Author:** ![Elza\_B](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Elza\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elza_B)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/117 "2003-04-10T23:19:38Z")
**Angel of the Lord** , I understand the pain part, too. I have endometriosis, which can make sex painful sometimes - for me, it’s mostly when I’m not totally into it and not aroused as much as I usually am. I really thought there was just something wrong with me that it hurt, but I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one. Unfortunately, with endo, you can also suffer from pain even just by getting aroused, so I’ve sort of learned to just get past it and enjoy the sex. And **handy** , I’m of the opinion that my SO is the perfect size - he’s not too big, but not too small, either. And with my condition, that’s a good thing. He’s never boasted about the size of his dick, but I always tease him that I knew we were meant for each other because his penis is the perfect size. Luckily, the pleasure outweighs the pain for the most part and what I’d really like is for my condition to improve so I can enjoy it fully. Ava ---
**Author:** ![modro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/6de8d8/32.png) [@modro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/modro)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2003, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/118 "2003-04-10T23:22:00Z")
**handy** , I think that is because the “right size” is different for everyone. I myself, would have to say, the right size for me, would be in the 5-7 range, not that I would be dissapointed with bigger or smaller. I am rather curious as to what most women consider the “right size” though. Oh, and as per the OP, I don’t think it should be mentioned. The size of one’s penis is one of those things that is not really feasible to change, and making a point of it would be as innappropriate as pointing out anything else that may embarass the person. Such as saying, “Wow, you have a big ass” or something. If it is an issue for you, I would avoid mentioning it, and just show some discretion. he probably already knows and saying something won’t make it bigger. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [April 11, 2003, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/119 "2003-04-11T20:29:28Z")
I kind of figure I’m average in size. The **Wifestrocity** ’s hymen was never torn away fully during her first bout with intercourse, and pretty much ever ‘bout’ of sex she endures is highly painful. Soon after we married, I asked her about having the rest of the hymen removed so that she wasn’t in terrible pain during our intimate moments. She flatly refused, claiming that she wasn’t interested in going through anything painful just so I could have more sex with her. And, she never did. So, it’s not always the size of the man that makes for pain. ☹ Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [April 12, 2003, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244/120 "2003-04-12T17:30:47Z")
Um … so, **Cartooniverse** , why’d’ja marry her then? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/partner-has-a-tiny-dick/165244.md?page=7)