# past flings **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 6, 2010, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857 "2010-01-06T03:32:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/1 "2010-01-06T03:32:01Z")
Do you ever wonder about past lovers and do you wonder if they think about you? ---
**Author:** ![C3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/c3/32/3108_2.png) [@C3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C3)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/2 "2010-01-06T03:47:34Z")
I thought that was the point of Facebook. ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/3 "2010-01-06T03:49:57Z")
Every now and again. One even looked me up on Facebook recently, it was… interesting. ---
**Author:** ![Terraplane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@Terraplane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terraplane)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/4 "2010-01-06T03:50:42Z")
I wonder about some of them from time to time and there are a couple that I hope remember me as fondly as I do them. Had we met at different times and in different circumstances things might have turned into a lot more than they did. Or maybe less than they did, I suppose. There also might be a couple that I just wish I could take an amnesia pill for and forget that they ever even existed. ---
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/5 "2010-01-06T03:53:15Z")
Not all of us ar ten years old. I’m talking about stuff 20 years ago or more. ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/6 "2010-01-06T03:59:38Z")
Yes, of course. I have been in relationships with some fantastic women and I do not regret the time I shared with them. I would not go back to any of them and I do not have an interest in being friends with them either. My wife is truly awesome, our relationship is fun and flirty, she’s my perfect partner. That said, I have fond memories of the women I dated before I was married. I do wish them well. ---
**Author:** ![Terraplane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@Terraplane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terraplane)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/7 "2010-01-06T04:14:33Z")
> [@Claude\_Remains](#): > > Not all of us ar ten years old. What the hell did anybody say that deserved this response? Facebook? The ladies I work with range in age from late 40’s to early 60’s and they all have one. ---
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/8 "2010-01-06T04:16:59Z")
On occasion, yes. I often wonder if I cross his mind, and what kind of an impression the time we spent with each other left. ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/9 "2010-01-06T04:29:39Z")
Out of about a hundred interactions with the opposite sex (spread out over 25 years of dating), many of which ended awkwardly if not badly, there are maybe half a dozen guys I DO think about and wonder how they made out in life. There is The One Guy I fell for when I was in my early 20’s, and not a week goes by that I don’t think of him. When he moved away, he took a piece of my heart. ---
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/10 "2010-01-06T04:43:24Z")
> [@Terraplane](#): > > What the hell did anybody say that deserved this response? Facebook? The ladies I work with range in age from late 40’s to early 60’s and they all have one. Post #2. ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/11 "2010-01-06T04:45:30Z")
All the time. And yes, several ex-boyfriends/ex-FWB’s/ex-flings are my F’book friends! ---
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/12 "2010-01-06T04:50:06Z")
> [@C3](#): > > I thought that was the point of Facebook. Every woman on earth is into this self aborbing bullshit? ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/13 "2010-01-06T05:00:10Z")
And some men, too, even. Appalling, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/14 "2010-01-06T05:07:05Z")
My wife, against my better judgement, convinced me to set up a facebook account. It sits there, abandoned and unmonitored by me, yet I get the occasional friend request from an ex. I am not interested in my personal past. It is the future with my wife I am focused on. ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_Robson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gary_robson/32/3448_2.png) [@Gary\_Robson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_Robson)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/15 "2010-01-06T05:08:37Z")
> [@Claude\_Remains](#): > > Every woman on earth is into this self aborbing bullshit? [moderating] This is MPSIMS. Please tone it down a notch. Thank you. [/moderating] ---
**Author:** ![Claude\_Remains](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@Claude\_Remains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claude_Remains)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/16 "2010-01-06T05:11:00Z")
> [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > And some men, too, even. Appalling, isn’t it? Nice to know you are a self absorbed Internet “MAN” ---
**Author:** ![Terraplane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@Terraplane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terraplane)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/17 "2010-01-06T05:12:18Z")
Not everybody on Facebook is there to get the most friends or have the biggest Farmville lot. There are lots of people that just like having a way to reconnect with people they used to know. Maybe even the old flings they reminisce on from time to time. I can understand not being into it, I don’t use it myself, but I think you’re being overly hostile to something that’s just a tool. If you want to be a dramatic attention whore you can do that, sure, but if you just want to communicate with real life friends and family or people you’ve lost touch with it’s good for that too. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/18 "2010-01-06T05:14:26Z")
> [@Claude\_Remains](#): > > Nice to know you are a self absorbed Internet “MAN” Actually, I’m a self-absorbed Internet woman. But thanks, anyway. ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/19 "2010-01-06T05:14:30Z")
> [@Claude\_Remains](#): > > Every woman on earth is into this self aborbing bullshit? Keeping in contact with people via correspondence? Yes, of course, it’s pretty common for women to be into that kind of stuff. Why do you think there is a multibillion dollar greeting card industry. Do you think it’s men sending all those greeting cards? It’s funny that you have some strange notion of what Facebook is. It allows you to remain in contact with friends you might lose contact with otherwise. But I guess that’s self-absorbed in a narrow little world. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![mswas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e99b99/32.png) [@mswas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mswas)\ **Post date:** [January 6, 2010, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857/20 "2010-01-06T05:15:35Z")
> [@Claude\_Remains](#): > > Nice to know you are a self absorbed Internet “MAN” He says in his post on a social networking community message board where he asked a Facebook style question… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/past-flings/523857.md?page=2)