Just my two cent’s worth to add to the body of experience here (I’m running out the door, don’t have time to read it all).
My wife went on Paxil. It killed whatever little libido she had, and made her emotionally “blank”. Things were not great between us, but she just couldn’t care if she tried. I urged her to switch to something else, and she ended up on Celexa. Her libido is better, and she’s more human. On the upside, she was depressed and prone to panic before drugs. Now she is much more even-keeled, and is doing things she never would have imagined doing before.
One of my sons is on Zoloft. He’s 11, and I worry about the effects of long-term usage during his puberty. But he’s no longer prone to violent fits of uncontrolled rage. My wife and I wonder if he’s simply growing up, and whether he can go off medication.
I was on Zoloft for a while. Starting up on it gave me flu-like symptoms, and I had them again when I went off of it. While I was on Zoloft, my libido dropped from being in a constant state of heat to being kind of bored with women, and sexuality in general. It took foreplay to get me exited, which I did readily. It’s just that mental side of sexual attraction just wasn’t happening. It’s like I had a hard time fantasizing, or having any other abstract thoughts for that matter. I also had a problem with delayed ejaculation (thankfully, I was able to get an erection easily). Since I never had a problem with premature ejaculation in the first place, this was not really welcome. My wife and I would hump along, she’d be finished, and after a while would ask me if was going to come anytime soon. Since I no longer could get off on the thought of what we were doing, I had to WORK to focus on my genitals, almost willing the plumbing to work. Also, masturbation became impossible.
The shrink added Wellbutrin. This helped somewhat with the side effects, but it made my ears ring and left me a little light-headed.
I got of both Zoloft and Wellbutrin, and onto Serzone. Serzone had been good to me side effect-wise, but I suspect that it may have had a role in me putting on 10-15 pounds recently.
In terms of the upsides, it has changed a lot. For one thing, I no longer calmly contemplate novel ways of commiting suicide 2-3 times a week. I also don’t take complaints as personal criticism. I am more apt to defend my rights when people are stepping on my toes.