# Penis size or Height- what matters more to women **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 30, 2019, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861 "2019-07-30T05:31:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 11
**Author:** ![epbrown01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@epbrown01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/epbrown01)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/201 "2019-08-03T01:53:12Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Don’t worry, he’ll tell her. Yep - it’s one of the opening lines to “Thrift Shop” by Macklemore, for example. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/202 "2019-08-03T02:34:48Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > There are plenty of guys with ED, yet who are in totally fulfilling sexual relationships. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need an erection to have an orgasm or ejaculation. And if PIV or PIA are impossible, there are certainly alternatives. > > And yes, there are guys (especially many F-to-M trans) who don’t have a penis at all. And that doesn’t have to be a problem. ♪ Isn’t it awfully un-PC to have a penis? Isn’t it frightfully against the zeitgeist to have a dong? ♪ ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/203 "2019-08-03T03:01:22Z")
> [@shocky2002](#): > > Maybe its an age thing? I get the sense that most of yall are much older than me… as a millennial i can say that girls my age are obsessed with this stuff Wait a second. My sons are both milennials. Their mother and I have nursed them through a number of broken hearts, but neither one has ever said, “She didn’t like my _penis_!” I have a daughter, as well. She’s unmarried, but I’ve never heard her say, “Nice guy, but oh, that _penis_.” ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/204 "2019-08-03T03:15:23Z")
> [@FairyChatMom](#): > > Late to answer this, but, no, I never cared what a guy had in his pants - ever. Car keys? Wallet? Cell phone? How did you screen out the homeless? :😕: ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/205 "2019-08-03T03:24:12Z")
> [@Kent\_Clark](#): > > Wait a second. My sons are both milennials. Their mother and I have nursed them through a number of broken hearts, but neither one has ever said, “She didn’t like my _penis_!” > > I have a daughter, as well. She’s unmarried, but I’ve never heard her say, “Nice guy, but oh, that _penis_.” Yeah, my kids are millennials, too. And they have a lot of obsessions. Neither my son nor my daughter is obsessed with dick, though. Well, my daughter is bi, and looking for a chick right now, so i think she’s expecting “no penis”. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/206 "2019-08-03T04:10:00Z")
> [@Kobal2](#): > > (IOW, it’s the grown-up version of pulling on Becky’s braids at recess cuz’ you fancy her. Because of course just _telling her_ about feelings and stuff feels a lot more uncomfortable, and might lead to _gulp_ intimacy. Which guys are taught less than zero about, nor generally know how to handle. So, you pull on the braids instead, since that leads to a much less vulnerable space. > I’ll readily admit that, even though I’m getting better at it these days (or maybe I’ve just gained more levels in “ain’t givin’ a fuck”), I still often feel the urge to defuse Awww moments or react to compliments by deadpanning stupid stuff like “wanna fuck now ?” or “I also have a giant cock btw”) Hey. Are you Stanley from the 3rd grade? ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 8:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/207 "2019-08-03T08:37:32Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > There are plenty of guys with ED, yet who are in totally fulfilling sexual relationships. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need an erection to have an orgasm or ejaculation. And if PIV or PIA are impossible, there are certainly alternatives. True. And there are an amazing number of people who have never heard of or thought of the alternatives. I really wish we had real sex education in this country, with a dose of healthy relationship education. > [@](#): > > And yes, there are guys (especially many F-to-M trans) who don’t have a penis at all. And that doesn’t have to be a problem. Well… it certainly puts them at a disadvantage. As you note, it can be worked around, but it’s not ideal. There is a significant percentage of the population that would not be willing to do that. ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 8:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/208 "2019-08-03T08:57:43Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > Yeah, my kids are millennials, too. And they have a lot of obsessions. Neither my son nor my daughter is obsessed with dick, though. Well, my daughter is bi, and looking for a chick right now, so i think she’s expecting “no penis”. Surprise penis is the worst. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Hey. Are you Stanley from the 3rd grade? _narrowing eyes_ Why you wanna know ? You with the revenuers ? ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/209 "2019-08-03T17:43:59Z")
A cute little politically incorrect joke that cracked us up in middle school: An Indian came into town every Saturday and stood on a busy corner. Every woman that walked by, he would catch her eye and say ‘Chance?’ - A friend observed this and said to him, “I thought Indians always said ‘How’ - why are you saying ‘Chance’?” And the Indian said, ‘Know how. Want chance.’ ---
**Author:** ![Trancephalic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trancephalic/32/380_2.png) [@Trancephalic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trancephalic)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/210 "2019-08-03T18:53:55Z")
> [@salinqmind](#): > > A cute little politically incorrect joke that cracked us up in middle school: > > An Indian came into town every Saturday and stood on a busy corner. Every woman that walked by, he would catch her eye and say ‘Chance?’ - A friend observed this and said to him, “I thought Indians always said ‘How’ - why are you saying ‘Chance’?” And the Indian said, ‘Know how. Want chance.’ I don’t get it. ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/211 "2019-08-03T20:38:06Z")
Indians in movies said ‘how’ (as a greeting). In the joke, saying ‘chance?’ instead, to passing women, is implying that he is asking them for a chance for a sexual encounter. The Indian knows ‘how’ to do sex, he wants to find a woman who will give him a chance to do sex. Ask enough and he will get lucky and get a chance to do that which he already knows HOW to do. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/212 "2019-08-03T21:13:23Z")
> [@salinqmind](#): > > Indians in movies said ‘how’ (as a greeting). In the joke, saying ‘chance?’ instead, to passing women, is implying that he is asking them for a chance for a sexual encounter. The Indian knows ‘how’ to do sex, he wants to find a woman who will give him a chance to do sex. Ask enough and he will get lucky and get a chance to do that which he already knows HOW to do. You have got to be kidding me. In what world will people understand this joke? ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/213 "2019-08-03T21:31:58Z")
I got it on the first read. I dunno, maybe it’s an older-people thing, the stereotyped Indian “How” was from decades ago. ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/214 "2019-08-03T21:33:54Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > You have got to be kidding me. In what world will people understand this joke? > [@salinqmind](#): > > A cute little politically incorrect joke that cracked us up in middle school: Sums it up - ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/215 "2019-08-03T21:51:44Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > I got it on the first read. > > I dunno, maybe it’s an older-people thing, the stereotyped Indian “How” was from decades ago. I know the “how” thing. What I don’t get is that “how” and “Chance” have anything to do with propositioning sex. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/216 "2019-08-03T22:06:56Z")
> [@Kobal2](#): > > Surprise penis is the worst. > > _narrowing eyes_ Why you wanna know ? You with the revenuers ? Stanley from 3rd grade was in love with me (Becky). He did all kinds of inappropriate things to catch my attention. The playground was his proving ground. He caused me all manner of grief. He’d whack me on the arm. Or throw grass on me. Or chase me with a bug in his hand. I finally popped him in the face, hard. Broke his glasses and he made a bloody mess. After that, I did the chasing. Stanley was never the same.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Trancephalic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trancephalic/32/380_2.png) [@Trancephalic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trancephalic)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/217 "2019-08-03T22:14:12Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > You have got to be kidding me. In what world will people understand this joke? Native Americans who don’t use “how” that way. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Pantastic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3bc359/32.png) [@Pantastic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pantastic)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/218 "2019-08-03T22:30:33Z")
> [@drewder](#): > > It’s not something I’d ever do but I have to think for all the complaints men wouldn’t send them if they didn’t ever get a positive response. Sure they would keep sending unsolicited dick picks. Maybe they enjoy showing off their cock, maybe they feel powerful doing it, maybe they think ‘it will work this time’, maybe they aren’t interested in dating so it’s an easy ‘she’ll either jump on this or stop responding’ message, or something else. “They must get positive responses because they keep doing it!” is not the result of good reasoning. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/219 "2019-08-03T22:44:30Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > You have got to be kidding me. In what world will people understand this joke? I got it right away. Didn’t laugh. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2019, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861/220 "2019-08-03T23:17:14Z")
> [@drewder](#): > > It’s not something I’d ever do but I have to think for all the complaints men wouldn’t send them if they didn’t ever get a positive response. Remember flashers? You know, the guys who would hang out in wooded areas, wearing trench coats with nothing underneath, and expose their junk to passers-by. At least that used to be a stereotype back when I was a tiny whale. I haven’t really heard much talk of them for a while. God only knows what motivated those guys. But I assume they’re the same ones who have now moved on to unsolicited dick pics. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861.md?page=10) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-size-or-height-what-matters-more-to-women/837861.md?page=12)