# penis... too big? TMI **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 2, 2003, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794 "2003-07-02T16:03:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/21 "2003-07-02T18:20:49Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Mith \* > \*\*Well, last night I saw IT. I think it might be too big… > Anyways, I’m actually scared to have sex with him after seeing IT. \*\* **Esmerelda** , is that **you**?😉 Just kidding, but when we started out years ago, she couldn’t let me in all the way, because it hurt her, and afterward she had some spotting. I felt _terrible_, but we kept at it, and found alternative ways, one of which was rear entry ( **not** through “the poop chute”! She lays on her side and takes me from behind into her _pant_ love canal). Another way is the aformentioned “you” on top in what **we** like to call “Ride Your Pony”, after the old dance tune. Hope that helped you. It didn’t help me worth a shit, 'cause now I’m sporting major wood and I’m all alone. 😃 Quasi ---
**Author:** ![Tomcat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Tomcat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tomcat)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/22 "2003-07-02T18:44:28Z")
I’m not quite that big, but I am a bit larger than most. Wifecat’s favorite position is her lying on her back and me on my side facing her. She lifts the leg closest to me and I scoot in (so her hip is in my stomach and her leg is over my side with her heel touching my butt). In this position I can thrust all I want and she doesn’t get hurt, plus she can use a vibe. We can still kiss and have eye ontact and all that, so it is our favorite choice. Another one is using the edge of the couch or bed with me on my knees on the floor. She can position herself an inch or three back from the edge to control how deep I penetrate. This one is good for those porn nights because the view is great. As others have said, both on our stomachs works well too, but I still have to watch how deep I go. I’d still use a little extra lube just because there is more surface area now and because the girth can cause your outer labia (and hair) to be pulled in accidentally. Magnum condoms do feel better for us larger types. I find normal condoms squeeze the head too much thus reducing feeling. If it is the length that is hurting you, you can try the donuts suggested above. I delivered medical supplies for awhile and one of the items were those hand-strengthening rubber donuts. A pharmacist told me that they are prescribed for petite vaginas too. Slip it on and it will reduce the penetration by a good inch, plus the donut will hit your clitoris, which could be a good thing. Lastly, using a vibe or a finger or two to start will help. When something is inserted, push out against it (like trying to give birth I guess). I’ve read that helps expand things a little. -Tcat ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/23 "2003-07-02T18:54:53Z")
Wait wait wait! 6 inches is average size? This is while _erect_? ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/24 "2003-07-02T19:21:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gorgon Heap \* > \*\*Wait wait wait! 6 inches is average size? This is while _erect_? \*\* I certainly hope so. ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/25 "2003-07-02T19:24:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by mipiace \* > \*\*Sadly you will get used to it and if you don’t stay together your next lover will seem…less impressive. \*\* It’ll suck to be the next guy you have sex with, Mith.😛 ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/26 "2003-07-02T19:27:09Z")
[Accessorize.](http://www.wishlist.com.au/Product/ProductDetail.asp?SKUID=7539&CHID=2814&PCHID=2805) ---
**Author:** ![samarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4da419/32.png) [@samarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samarm)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/27 "2003-07-02T19:41:10Z")
> [@](#): > > we measured it 7.5 L and 5.5 around… and I heard a vagina is only 4 inches deep He he… measuring the erect penis… its a funny mental image! I don’t know where you got the 4 inches from… more like double that I would say. Or it could just be the women I have dated. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/28 "2003-07-02T19:47:02Z")
**lieu** , you never fail to amaze me. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Quasimodem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodem)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/29 "2003-07-02T20:10:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by lieu \* > \*\*[Accessorize.](http://www.wishlist.com.au/Product/ProductDetail.asp?SKUID=7539&CHID=2814&PCHID=2805) \*\* Hooboy! 😃 **Lieu**! I was gonna comment on the donut thingie, because I’ve tried that and all the air went outta my pecker when I thought about that trucker who put a lugnut on **his** on a bet and it had to be cut off in an ER. Urban Legend, you say? Well hell, yeah, maybe so. But it sure scared the hell outta **me**! 🙂 Q ---
**Author:** ![Jpeg\_Jones](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/4bbf92/32.png) [@Jpeg\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jpeg_Jones)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/30 "2003-07-02T21:32:14Z")
(from [lieu’s link](http://www.wishlist.com.au/Product/ProductDetail.asp?SKUID=7539&CHID=2814&PCHID=2805)) [ul][_]surprise sounds within each ring delight baby[_]easy to grasp rings double as rattles or bracelets[/ul]This mental image alone must be worth the $32.95. I’m buying three! ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/31 "2003-07-02T21:42:11Z")
Accessorizing might not be a good idea…my husband is built along the same lines and any additions are not fun. I wanted to keep it current, so I visited a little shop and purchased a few accessories but regreted my choices almost immediately… Ow, ow, ow! French ticklers do not tickle! ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/32 "2003-07-02T22:10:55Z")
What happens if you get pregnant? Believe me a baby is quite a lot bigger than that 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d26b3c/32.png) [@Mr.Blue\_Sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Blue_Sky)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/33 "2003-07-02T22:52:51Z")
Marsha Warfield (Roz from _Night Court_) once had a joke in her stand up act about a guy she was dating who was well-endowed and she was apprehensive about sex with him: Him: “But, the vagina can stretch to accomodate a baby.” Marsha: “True, but that doesn’t mean I want to have one one every time I see you.” ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/34 "2003-07-02T23:25:01Z")
Yeah, folks - last I heard, childbirth wasn’t quite as fun as the conception act that got you there. I’m surprised that you guys are all reccomending woman-on-top - personally, with a guy who’s on the large side, he feels a lot bigger to me when I’m on top. Sure, you have more control, but that “smacking the cervix and wiggling the entire reproductive system around” feeling is less than fun. Any position with your legs together, on the other hand, makes his penetration much shallower while still feeling good to him. Your mileage may vary. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/35 "2003-07-02T23:29:22Z")
… sorry. I’m still shocked over the whole 6-inch thing. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/36 "2003-07-02T23:45:33Z")
**Gorgon** , I hate to have to be the one to tell you this, but those stories in Penthouse Letters are not _entirely_ accurate… ---
**Author:** ![papergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aca169/32.png) [@papergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/papergirl)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2003, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/37 "2003-07-03T00:11:00Z")
Hmmm…you know, I’m not good at visualizing, because every time someone describes a good position, I just can_not_ figure it out. (Thank you, **Tomcat** , I shall send **todd33rpm** over here posthaste to read your suggestion.) I think we need a manual of some sort… Anyway. Do be aware of the whole cervix-bumping thing, okay? Even if it’s not very painful in the moment, it can cause some surprisingly strong cramping afterward. Like I said, I don’t have cramps anymore unless things get really rowdy, but I used to have them regularly. And a somewhat hijacky story: I went to the gyno, and during the exam I mentioned the whole cramps-after-sex issue. My new gyno, a woman with a great sense of humor, asked if my new partner was “a big guy.” Yup, sez I, he is. “He’s probably just stirring things up a little, then,” she said, “Here. Lemme bump your cervix, and you tell me if this feels familiar…” Sure enough, it did, although he manages to bump it with considerably more…finesse. (Somehow, this story never fails to crack me up, go figure.) Okay, I’ll hush now. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2003, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/38 "2003-07-03T00:26:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tomcat \* > **Slip it on and it will reduce the penetration by a good inch, plus the donut will hit your clitoris, which could be a good thing.** Something like this p’raps? > [@](#): > > omgomgomgyesyesyesyesssssssss You wicked lovely tasty Dunkin’ Muthah, yes yes yesssssssssss TIME TO MAKE THE DONUTSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!! 😃 (more serious tone here) I once- and one need only do this once in life to NEVER forget the lesson- was entering a woman from behind and was a bit…ah…rambunctious. I hit her cervix and she cried out in pain and that was the END of that. It gave me an awful feeling to see the same look on her face that men get when taking a hard kick to the testicles. She went gray. ☹ I was just devastated for her pain. Cartooniverse ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2003, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/39 "2003-07-03T00:27:28Z")
Y’know, with the average being just shy of 6" (15cm for the rest of the planet), a 7.5"(19cm) means a whole 25% longer than the norm. It can look really, really big. OTOH the circumference is not that much greater than normal, As mentioned before, it’s not impossible if there is much gentleness and relaxation, and the right approach, and lots of trust and care. FWIW as mentioned the vagina is NOT that small but, more importantly, it’s not a fixed, inflexible structure: it can stretch quite a bit, before hitting the pain threshold. Besides, contrary to popular belief, we guys do NOT have/need to ram the whole thing in to have a good time or get the job done. Honestly, we don’t. ---
**Author:** ![AbbySthrnAccent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eb9ed0/32.png) [@AbbySthrnAccent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AbbySthrnAccent)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2003, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794/40 "2003-07-03T02:33:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by X~Slayer(ALE) \* > \*\*7 and a half inches and 5 and halk around…hmmmm > > If that was perfectly round it would have a 1.75 inch diameter. > > **Mith** , my dear. The Vagina can accommodate 10 centimeters for birthing. \*\* > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by handy_ > \*\*What happens if you get pregnant? Believe me a baby is quite a lot bigger than that 🙂 \*\* She is concerned about his size because she fears it will hurt and she doesn’t want to hurt while having sex. Newsflash guys… Giving birth hurts. Alot. Long before you get to 10 centimeters. Telling her not to worry because it can’t be worse that birth is, IMHO, thoughtless and shows your ignorance about the female body, not hers. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/penis-too-big-tmi/185794.md?page=3)