# People who think that homosexuality is a result of strained relationship with opposite-sex parent. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [November 1, 2009, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978 "2009-11-01T20:59:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Death\_of\_Rats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a6a055/32.png) [@Death\_of\_Rats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Death_of_Rats)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/21 "2009-11-02T15:06:21Z")
> [@vivalostwages](#): > > Well, according to James Dobson, men just need to take their boys into the showers with them and show them their wangs so they’ll understand what a real hetero man is. Granted, I am not gay but if I had to see James Dobson naked in the shower that would kill any chance of me ever wanting to see another naked man. Possibly myself included in that. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Amazing](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/6de8d8/32.png) [@Captain\_Amazing](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Amazing)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/22 "2009-11-02T15:58:45Z")
> [@Death\_of\_Rats](#): > > Granted, I am not gay but if I had to see James Dobson naked in the shower that would kill any chance of me ever wanting to see another naked man. Possibly myself included in that. I am gay, and seeing James Dobson in the shower would kill any chance of me ever wanting to see another naked man. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/23 "2009-11-02T17:03:22Z")
> [@Captain\_Amazing](#): > > I am gay, and seeing James Dobson in the shower would kill any chance of me ever wanting to see another naked man. So the cure works! ---
**Author:** ![gonzomax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e8c25b/32.png) [@gonzomax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gonzomax)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/24 "2009-11-02T17:32:53Z")
Is that what they mean by "scared straight’? ---
**Author:** ![Plynck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Plynck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Plynck)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/25 "2009-11-02T21:18:08Z")
> [@The\_Bith\_Shuffle](#): > > Dear people who think that homosexuality is the result of a strained relationship with one’s opposite sex parent, > > You’re wrong. Correct. It has to do with whether your mother kept her shoes on during conception. ---
**Author:** ![Lobohan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lobohan/32/79_2.png) [@Lobohan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobohan)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/26 "2009-11-02T21:34:50Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > But I don’t invoke the Holocaust in expressing my opinion. You know who else didn’t invoke the Holocaust? Oh wait, shit, nvrmnd. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/27 "2009-11-02T22:11:39Z")
> [@Captain\_Amazing](#): > > The theory went that homosexual men had distant, unaffectionate fathers and doting, overprotective mothers (which led to one of the stereotypes of gays as “momma’s-boys”) , but I never heard a theory that said that homosexuality was linked with a strained relationship with the opposite-sex parent. I’d heard it as the opposite-sex parent. Something about a distant opposite-sex parent meant the child couldn’t form bonds with members of the opposite sex and therefore grew up to become _fabulous!_ I think the big holes in the theory started to become more and more obvious with more and more single parents out there. So one absentee parent, but no correlating queerness. Eg/ my buddy was only ever raised by his mom, never had a father figure in his life, but never caught the gay. My sister and I grew up close to both parents who were actively involved in everything we did. She gay, I’m not (although I did wear metallic blue nail polish on my toenails once.) ---
**Author:** ![The\_Bith\_Shuffle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ce73a5/32.png) [@The\_Bith\_Shuffle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Bith_Shuffle)\ **Post date:** [November 2, 2009, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/28 "2009-11-02T22:44:13Z")
> [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](#): > > I think the big holes in the theory started to become more and more obvious with more and more single parents out there. I think the holes becomes more and more clear as one’s frontal lobes start to develop. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/29 "2009-11-03T08:25:26Z")
> [@boytyperanma](#): > > No i think the logic is if a boy has to endure seeing his father naked he’ll never want to see a naked man again. my dad naked /ewww … so, is that why my father refused to let me help him pee when he was bedridden? He was afraid he’d turn me into a lesbian? I’m reasonably sure that it wouldn’t have worked, but if it had, would it have been terribly tasteless to place the toaster by his gravesite? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/30 "2009-11-03T15:08:17Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Never having been fucked in the ass, I can’t say for sure, but I imagine it might be painful the first few times. 😛 Having been fucked in the ass exactly once . . . it was uncomfortable, but not at all painful. ---
**Author:** ![F.U.Shakespeare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aca169/32.png) [@F.U.Shakespeare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F.U.Shakespeare)\ **Post date:** [November 3, 2009, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/31 "2009-11-03T15:44:27Z")
If a strained relationship with one’s mother makes a guy gay, I should be gayer than Liberace times Christmas. ---
**Author:** ![Lucky\_13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucky_13/32/13209_2.png) [@Lucky\_13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky_13)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2009, 11:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/32 "2009-11-04T11:06:44Z")
I’ve had a strained relationship with my dad for much of my life, but have never slept with a woman. Well, OK, I kissed one female friend back in college as a joke. Does that count? ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2009, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/33 "2009-11-04T12:36:13Z")
> [@Lucky\_13](#): > > I’ve had a strained relationship with my dad for much of my life, but have never slept with a woman. Well, OK, I kissed one female friend back in college as a joke. Does that count? Absolutely, you queer! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2009, 12:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/34 "2009-11-04T12:45:41Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > I learn something ever day here. I didn’t know there was a wrong way – aside from the obvious stuff like broom sticks and gerbils. 😛 It’s just like using a step-bit on a sheet of stainless steel. You don’t want to go jamming the bit into the pilot hole as hard as you can right off the bat, you may sustain serious injury. You want to use lots of cooling oil and press firmly, yet slowly into the pilot hole until the opening slowly widens. Once you’ve put the bit into the proper depth, move the bit in and out a little to release the burrs. When that’s done then you can go at it with gusto. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2009, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/35 "2009-11-04T12:52:30Z")
How do you get the gerbils to cooperate with the gentle start part? Is there like special training available? Drugs? ---
**Author:** ![Lucky\_13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucky_13/32/13209_2.png) [@Lucky\_13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky_13)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2009, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/36 "2009-11-05T05:55:44Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Absolutely, you queer! 😛 I’m here! I’m (2%) queer! Get used to it! 😉 (wanders off singing “I Kissed a Girl”) 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2009, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/37 "2009-11-05T06:00:17Z")
I didn’t know you could be 2% queer, Is there 1% available? How about skim queer? ---
**Author:** ![salinqmind](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ec8ea/32.png) [@salinqmind](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/salinqmind)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2009, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/38 "2009-11-05T15:29:31Z")
> [@F.U.Shakespeare](#): > > If a strained relationship with one’s mother makes a guy gay, I should be gayer than Liberace times Christmas. Does this apply to women, turning gay because of strained relationship with fathers? With strained relationships with mother AND father, I should be a) gay, b) a whore, c) a gay whore, or d) a serial killer. Or any combination. ---
**Author:** ![firstname](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7ab992/32.png) [@firstname](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/firstname)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2009, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/39 "2009-11-05T15:57:23Z")
> [@salinqmind](#): > > With strained relationships with mother AND father, I should be a) gay, b) a whore, c) a gay whore, or d) a serial killer. Or any combination. e) bi ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2009, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/people-who-think-that-homosexuality-is-a-result-of-strained-relationship-with-opposite-sex-parent/515978/40 "2009-11-05T16:44:38Z")
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