# (Perhaps Surprising) Things That Make a Guy Sexy To You **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 1, 2001, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775 "2001-10-01T15:44:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![January](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b19c9b/32.png) [@January](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/January)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 7:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/121 "2001-10-04T07:24:18Z")
**Vix** is SO right… butterfly… UNF! Their bodies are absolutely perfect. I can’t think well enough to make my own list, but perhaps I’ll return… muahaha. ---
**Author:** ![meyer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ccd318/32.png) [@meyer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/meyer)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/122 "2001-10-04T08:12:38Z")
Strong Hands Walking around the house barefoot - (especially if said feet have a little bit of hair on the toes) Love of Animals A love of his family (especially his mother, for some reason) Ability to take a situation into his own hands Not to proud to admit that I know more about something than he does, and lets me teach him/tell him about it. Musical talent, especially singing, piano, and guitar ---
**Author:** ![Juniper200](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@Juniper200](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Juniper200)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/123 "2001-10-04T13:42:21Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Arden Ranger_ > **But that reminds me. Well defined collar bones. I just want to nibble all along those.** And here’s a “A-MEN” from the choir, sister. I don’t like freaky-sticking-out collar bones, but a guy with a nice chest and shoulders who gets those two perfect hollows on either side… ::delicious shudder:: Also love: Largeish nose Distinctive eyes. Color isn’t really an issue; they just have to call attention to themselves. Strong hands Laugh lines “Floopy” hair [This](http://www.rollingstone.com/photos/bigphoto.asp?gid=5585&s=1&e=9&seq=1&cf=31) photo of one John Linnell should serve as a good example. Smooth skin on chest and back, light olive a plus. Must stop thinking along these lines at work. I’ll be written up if anyone sees the look in my eyes. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/124 "2001-10-04T14:12:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Robot Arm \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Geobabe \* > > …we wouldn’t even be having this discussion because I’d have you tied to my bed right now. > > I’m in a good mood, no reason we can’t do both. \*\* And you say you’re no good at flirting. ---
**Author:** ![Tygr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/df788c/32.png) [@Tygr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tygr)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/125 "2001-10-04T15:02:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Persephone \* > \*\*Ooooooh **Arden…** > > **Tygr** mentioned you _and_ me in the same post… > > You thinkin’ what I’m thinkin’? > > 😃 \*\* > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Arden Ranger \* > \*\*Dirty minds think alike! 😃 \*\* oh, _ **man** _… I can feel that vortex forming even now… So, how sexy is it when a guy’s brain gets so short-circuited by _your_ sex-appeal that he’s left stammering and gaping…? Because I can demonstrate… [sub](…or does that only work if you’re English?)[/sub] Yes, Lady Persephone, there’s a _reason_ why you both were mentioned in the same post. Because one can’t really participate in a thread that discusses what is sexy without your names coming up. And “Both” is most-assuredly the correct answer, dear Arden. ---
**Author:** ![sidle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ee59a6/32.png) [@sidle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sidle)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/126 "2001-10-04T15:05:28Z")
A sexy man to me is about contradictions. Multi-faceted. Camping one day and black tie the next. Full of surprises. My own personal slice of heaven is little-old-man responsible about his money, but still overtips waiters. Comes home from work and changes out of a wool blazer and into basketball shorts. Lively and needs tons of sleep. Can be found flipping between the Simpsons and the History Channel. Reads nonfiction historical account books only, except for comic books. Sweet. Crotchety. Super-affectionate. Stern. Opinionated. Open-minded. Messy and fastidious. Adores me. Needs time alone. Cranky when tired. Friendly to everyone. Intelligent as HELL but ALWAYS into stupid humor. All this, and infinitely nibbleable too!!! MMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm… ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/127 "2001-10-04T15:13:01Z")
Y’all just reminded me of a scene from my college days… standing in the hall backstage waiting to go out for the band concert, all the women in black dresses and the guys in tuxedoes. The guys are totally clueless about the effect they’re having on the women, they’re just standing there talking, when one of the women butts in with “Do you guys have any idea how outstanding you all look right now?” The deer-in-headlights-struck-with-a-clue look on all their faces was priceless. ---
**Author:** ![Doobieous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/da6949/32.png) [@Doobieous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doobieous)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2001, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/128 "2001-10-04T23:15:41Z")
Here’s a gay man’s opinion :). - Strong shoulders and a fairly thick neck. The traps dont have to be huge, but i like seeing them slope up from the deltoids (on waifish guys, the traps dont show much). - meaty arms. Not over done, but i like big arms. There’s this guy at the gym who has these wonderfully thick arms. He doesnt look like he overdoes it, but you can tell he lifts. Yummy. - Big muscled calves. Me no likee chicken legs. The calves have got to be thick and muscled. i love when you can see the two muscles in the calf also. - Thick meaty thighs. Nuff said. - Big firm ass. Oh lord :). Oddly, i dont care that much if the abs are defined or not. I actually like when guys have a little fat…just enough to smooth out the muscles so they dont look corrugated or veiny. Theres this one guy i see around school who looks stocky and big, but not really fat. He has this big ass, and thick heavy legs. Even though he’s as hairy as an ape, i really dont care all that much (i prefer the smooth guys). I just HAVE to look at him. Also: - Short spiky hair. I find it incredibly sexy when a man has spiked hair, or short hair in general. - Stunning eyes and eyebrows that slope up, and then take an slight angle downward. I love when those types of eyebrows get raised in this “come hither/inquisitive” look. - Devlish smiles. Oh how i love when a man smiles and it looks oh so not innocent. Combine that with stunning eyes and the eyebrows i just decribed ;). - Men in uniform. God damn do i love military men. I dont know if it’s because since dad is a cop, i kind of grew up around them, but there’s this one motorcycle cop in town who i HAVE to look at everytime i see him. I find him incredibly hot. Firefighters also get me too. I think the attraction is the sheer masculinity that they posess. Ok, i think i have to go now… ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/129 "2001-10-05T01:41:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Geobabe \* > And you say you’re no good at flirting. I’m not, but if you keep trying something long enough you’re bound to get lucky at least once. Do a search on “monkeys, Infinite number of.” ---
**Author:** ![Nightsong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nightsong/32/3083_2.png) [@Nightsong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nightsong)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/130 "2001-10-05T02:08:57Z")
Ooo. Lots of tidbits others have mentioned, so I’m not going to list everything that makes a guy sexy to me but… [li]Strong hands, that are just a little bit calloused. (The feel of something slightly rough and warm grazing over bare skin… yum.)[/li][li]A good researcher. (This has **many** applications…) :D[/li][li]Flexible. (No no, not _that_ way. As in: willing to adapt plans to fit a situation, or do something at a whim.)[/li][li]Imaginative. (Like being able to research things effectively, this has many uses…)[/li][li]Strongly built, but not overweight, and not overmuscled. (I don’t wanna get squashed! And, I think the overmuscled look is disgusting.)[/li][li]Likes Iron Chief and Junkyard Wars, even if I have to introduce them to him.[/li][li]A gentleman.[/li] Overall, it’s lots of little stuff that add up. (Now to figure out a quick and cheap way for a person without a car to travel out-of-state to visit a Certain Someone who’s met these requirements, and has for awhile.) * * * \<\< Ni! \>\> ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/131 "2001-10-05T03:43:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Robot Arm \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Geobabe \* > > And you say you’re no good at flirting. > > I’m not, but if you keep trying something long enough you’re bound to get lucky at least once. Do a search on “monkeys, Infinite number of.” \*\* Lemme help you out a little here. **Ladies:** This fella here is smart, sweet, funny, exceptionally gifted with words, quirky, a genuinely nice guy, gainfully employed, not entirely unattractive and drives a nice car (with a stick, I might add–big plus in my book), and SINGLE! Why, you might ask, if he’s so great, have I not snapped him up? Besides the fact that he lives in Boston (just kidding, that has nothing to do with it)…we did go on a couple of dates, and well, sometimes you go out with somebody and you like 'em just fine, but it just doesn’t quite click. But he and I have become great friends, I love him dearly, and I think there’s got to be some nice lady out there who will appreciate those fabulous qualities AND click. **Geobabe** says check it out. ---
**Author:** ![Nacho4Sara](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Nacho4Sara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nacho4Sara)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/132 "2001-10-05T04:13:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Guys that can do the raise-one-eyebrow thing, and who know WHEN to use it. > > I adore sarcastic and cynical men. Men who are gonna grow up to be curmudgeons. > > I love the ‘rode hard and put up wet’ look. Think Lance Henrikson. > > I’m quirky about certain habits. A guy that chews on his bottom lip when he’s thinking just makes me swoon. Okay, BobKitty just perfectly described the man I am so crazy for right now. We’ve been friends-with-an-intense-sexual-vibe for a long time, and I’m wondering if we’re ever going to get anywhere (and if I’m brave enough to make the first move). But add a killer brain, incredible poetry skills, beautiful brown eyes and a sexy smirk and you described him perfectly. Argh! I need to take a jog or something. My addition (that applies to this guy as well) - okay, so I love hairy guys. Not quite Robin Williams, but you get the idea. So picture this hairy, hairy guy…and then imagine the spots that aren’t hairy. Those delicious hairfree, pale, soft spots. The inside of his lower arm. The area along his side, a few inches down from the underarm. The underside of his knee. And that wonderful bare spot right below the belly button, before the happy trail begins its descent. Nothing like having my hands in a thatch of chest hair and my lips on one of those wondeful bare spots. Just today the aforementioned dreamboat did this stretch/yawn thing, and his shirt came up and exposed this lovely bare spot just before his happy trail (his shorts were low-slung.) I couldn’t concentrate in my next class because of that. Goodness gracious! It was the first thing I pictured when I saw this thread title! You heard it here first: a few more weeks and I am just going to attack this guy. I can’t go on like this! ---
**Author:** ![TN\_hippie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TN\_hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TN_hippie)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/133 "2001-10-05T04:18:24Z")
I gotta ask you gals a question. A lot of women (all ages, races, lifestyles) compliment my long curly hair. Which of the following is true: 1. It’s just pretty hair; it doesn’t add to my sex appeal. 2. It’s pretty hair and it detracts from my sex appeal. 3. Women compliment hair; it means nothing. 4. It’s sexy. No matter what your responses, I’m keeping it because it’s me and I like it. But I am curious. (and of course I’m hoping for #4…but be honest) ---
**Author:** ![RocketHorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@RocketHorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RocketHorse)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/134 "2001-10-05T04:22:56Z")
Here’s what does it for me shaply hands with long fingernails outgoing and witty personality piercings tattoos (not everywhere though) an accent (European preferably) chess skills that are better than mine awesome yo-yo tricks am i asking too much? ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/135 "2001-10-05T04:30:13Z")
Very nice of you to say, Geobabe, and every word of it true. You even left out my great taste in music and the fact that I can juggle. But I’m still not much of a flirt. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/136 "2001-10-05T04:42:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Robot Arm \* > \*\*Very nice of you to say, Geobabe, and every word of it true. You even left out my great taste in music and the fact that I can juggle. But I’m still not much of a flirt. \*\* Sorry, I was in a hurry. If by any chance, you happen to get any emails because of this, just be your usual witty, charming self. That’s all you need to do. ---
**Author:** ![hardygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@hardygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hardygrrl)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 10:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/137 "2001-10-05T10:01:29Z")
A great sense of humor, especially a man who isn’t afraid to be silly. Intelligence A wide variety of interests _Now the shallow stuff_ Strong hands Pretty eyes A well shaped mouth A scruffy/alternative/punk rock look. The Ken doll look doesn’t do it for me. This explains my fetishes for Jeff Hardy/Rob Van Dam/Kurt Cobain… 🙂 [sub]One of the sexiest guys I know personally cemented my lust for him by sending me a pic of him after a game. He was all sweaty, shirt sticking to him…purr…[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/138 "2001-10-05T19:22:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by scredle \* > A sexy man to me is about contradictions. Multi-faceted. Camping one day and black tie the next. Well, I top out at tailored 3-piece suits, but I _do_ like dressing up for occasions that are worth getting dressed up for. And I _love_ camping…the idea of a Doper camping trip has been crossing my mind lately. 🙂 > [@](#): > > My own personal slice of heaven is little-old-man responsible about his money, but still overtips waiters. That’s me. > [@](#): > > Comes home from work and changes out of a wool blazer and into basketball shorts. Bicycle shorts, but same idea. > [@](#): > > Lively and needs tons of sleep. Yup. > [@](#): > > Can be found flipping between the Simpsons and the History Channel. If I watched enough TV, it would be like that. > [@](#): > > Reads nonfiction historical account books only, except for comic books. Bruce Catton’s Civil War books one day, Terry Pratchett’s sci-fi/humor the next. Mysteries, science books, comic books, and who knows what else in between. > [@](#): > > Sweet. Crotchety. Super-affectionate. Stern. Opinionated. Open-minded. Messy and fastidious. Needs time alone. Cranky when tired. Friendly to everyone. Intelligent as HELL but ALWAYS into stupid humor. Yes, yes, yes,…,yes. My wife can vouch for all the above, especially the ‘crotchety’, ‘opinionated’, ‘cranky when tired’, and ‘always into stupid humor’. 🙂 > [@](#): > > All this, and infinitely nibbleable too!!! A matter of taste, of course, but if my wife _doesn’t_ confirm this, she’s in _deep_ trouble! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/139 "2001-10-05T19:46:01Z")
Okay, after 1500 posts or so, I’m obviously going to have to do something to get mentioned in one of them flirting threads, so here goes… I got: The physical: Graying hair (started going gray at 19, but now that I’m 40, it can’t really be called premature any more…). Calves. Biceps. Legs and a butt. Chest hair. Wide shoulders. Narrow hips. Collarbones. Muscular without being huge. Long, dark eyelashes. Small scar on chin (dog bite whilst a toddler). Did I mention glasses? The little, oval ones like the guy in the wheelchair in Dark Angel? Those. The social: Good with kids. Non-terminal shyness (hey, wait, that was matt\_mcl… eh. whatever. Flirting’s flirting.) The activities: Parallel parking ability. In a van, yet. I own lots of leather work gloves and know when to use them. The intellectual: I have been known to write well… but sarcastically. Cooking skills (also a homebrewer/vintner/cordial maker, but nobody mentioned those…). Intelligence, if I do say so myself. Suit-wearing skills. Musical skills (got a BA in music, learning to play the recorder & bodhran, and singing in a choir). Martial artist. Swordsman. Have handled & used guns, but don’t own any. Downsides: Allergic to cats. Allergic to dogs (and afraid of them, too; see above re: scar on chin). Manage to stay fairly neat and tidy even while doing heavy work. Don’t follow sports. Mild pot-belly even though in fairly decent shape. Indeterminate because nobody’s mentioned it: Facial hair optional. Gee, nobody said that a good Game Master is sexy as hell. Dang. ---
**Author:** ![Arden\_Ranger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b487fb/32.png) [@Arden\_Ranger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arden_Ranger)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2001, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775/140 "2001-10-05T21:07:08Z")
Damn! How could I have missed that? Good game masters are sexy as hell. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/perhaps-surprising-things-that-make-a-guy-sexy-to-you/84775.md?page=8)