# Pet Peeve: Control Freaks **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 30, 2009, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779 "2009-07-30T15:46:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2009, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/41 "2009-08-01T02:41:50Z")
> [@silvermist](#): > > And so as not to be “mean” lol, it is generally accepted as a norm that people don’t wear black when the weather is warm because black retains heat. I also know this to be true and don’t wear black if i can help it. Exsqueeze me? Baking powder? Since when is it “generally accepted as a norm” that people don’t wear black in warm weather. Or where? I’ve never heard of such a thing. And if it were true, why do they make short-sleeved shirts in black? (Yes, I know about black retaining heat if you’re actually out in the sun, but I’ve never heard that that should affect general wardrobe choices.) ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/42 "2009-08-03T06:04:32Z")
You can have my black when you take it from my cold dead hands. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/43 "2009-08-03T15:33:15Z")
What kind of jerks do you work with and how on earth do they remember what clothes you wore six weeks ago? It sounds like your co-workers are a bunch of bored third graders. I wouldn’t consider it a moral issue, though. More of a working-with-asshats issue. ---
**Author:** ![lisacurl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/41988e/32.png) [@lisacurl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lisacurl)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/44 "2009-08-03T15:44:43Z")
> [@silvermist](#): > > Thank you Markxxx and some others for being supportive. I guess that’s what I was looking for when I came to the boards, but I’ve also learned something that I need to digest before I attempt to put it into words. I will return after giving this more thought. > > And so as not to be “mean” lol, it is generally accepted as a norm that people don’t wear black when the weather is warm because black retains heat. I also know this to be true and don’t wear black if i can help it. I couldn’t help it in this instance because I was tired out from working too much and didn’t get my laundry done. > > Also, all of you who are incensed because I mistakenly cited the FA, you can relax, I was just mistaken, not trying to raise your hackles. > > It was also a mistake to look for a legal defense to a moral issue. But I still have more to sort out before I say anything further because, as I say, this is a learning experience for me and I must firmly grasp what has come to light before I can pass it on. Oh hells bells, I live in Baton Rouge, about the second to last fly button of the Devil’s crotch as far as Hell’s heat and humidity goes, and I’m wearing black tights right now. If anyone wants to tell me what they think I should be wearing at work, then, if they are very lucky, they are going to get a blank quizzical look, like, “Wow, are you really being so rude as to comment on someone else’s appearance?” If they push it, I’ll say that to them directly. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/45 "2009-08-03T15:46:08Z")
I’m still waiting to hear what learning **silvermist** has had! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2009, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/46 "2009-08-03T16:19:53Z")
Your coworkers are jerks and seriously need to create some drama in their lives if they are talking about your stupid black blouse six weeks later. I am wearing a black blouse AND a black and white skirt today; I’d be shocked if anyone said anything. And if they did the most they might say is “A black shirt, aren’t you hot?” and I’d say, “Nope” and that’d be the end of it. ---
**Author:** ![Dallas\_Jones](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dallas_jones/32/3277_2.png) [@Dallas\_Jones](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dallas_Jones)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2009, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/47 "2009-08-04T02:14:19Z")
> [@silvermist](#): > > The First Amendment gives us the right to make our own personal choices, but how many times have you had friends or coworkers call you into account for doing something, wearing something or liking someone that they don’t feel you should. > > They not only do it, but are persistent about it as though if they don’t give up you will be forced to change your mind. They even enlist others, take polls to increase their numbers and power to pressure you. > > I think people should just mind their own damn business. I really wish you would check with me before making a post here. I could help you touch it up so well. Really, I’m just trying to help. ---
**Author:** ![Carl\_Corey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Carl\_Corey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carl_Corey)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2009, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/48 "2009-08-04T16:23:45Z")
**lisacurl** , that was a great description. I laughed. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Woodhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Miss\_Woodhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Woodhouse)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2009, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779/49 "2009-08-04T19:54:23Z")
> [@](#): > > Wait, a soldier can’t sleep in my bed after parking his tank on my property? > There goes that fantasy. No, the government just can’t make you put the guy up for the night. If you want to put the guy up out of the goodness of your heart, you are well within your legal rights to do so. Carry on with the fantasy. As for the OP, people like that get on my nerves as well. My choice, shut up. Don’t mother hen me. I don’t let my parents go into big long lectures about my life and choices, I’m certainly not going to listen to the dork at work. And it’s a shirt! who carries on about a shirt for 6 weeks? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeve-control-freaks/504779.md?page=2)