# Pet Peeves only you have **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 7, 2018, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001 "2018-04-07T21:32:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 11
**Author:** ![pnschofield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/43a26b/32.png) [@pnschofield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pnschofield)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/201 "2018-04-13T18:17:58Z")
> [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > - TERRORISM to describe any old sort of public violence. If the sole intent of the perp is just violence, then it’s just violence. Terrorism is a tactic used to advance a larger political agenda of a group. It’s intent is to demonstrate the impotence of a governing power to defend its supporters or itself. Some random dickhead who wants to shoot up a nightclub or school is just that: a dickhead. For those acts to rise to the level of Terrorism, they would have to be part of an organized campaign with a publicly stated mission. A bunch of bravado & threats beforehand “It’s coming!”, the action, and then some nose-thumbing, “Yep, that was us. Try and stop us, bitches!” Granting the label of terrorist to the random dickhead gives him way too much credit. How would you characterize the Oklahoma City bombing? ---
**Author:** ![pnschofield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/43a26b/32.png) [@pnschofield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pnschofield)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/202 "2018-04-13T18:27:03Z")
> [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > Granting the label of terrorist to the random dickhead gives him way too much credit. Is it “credit” that they incited terror using violence? ---
**Author:** ![divemaster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/divemaster/32/78_2.png) [@divemaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/divemaster)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/203 "2018-04-13T20:22:24Z")
I only read the first 2 pages, so these may have been mentioned: 1. People who arrive late for movies. I’m not sure WHY it bothers me, but when folks show up late for a movie and have missed the first 10 minutes or so, it really irks me. Not the disruption of finding a seat (most movies I go to have plenty of seats available), but just the idea that they’ve missed important plot points and won’t be up to speed. Most of the time there’s really important stuff in the first 10-15 minutes (the movie has to hook you, right?), and folks just come in like they don’t even care. I have to fight the urge to go over and tell them what they missed. 2. People who reply to a thread without reading it and announce their post as such. Just ignorant. And likely repetitive of more erudite posters. ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/204 "2018-04-13T20:29:36Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > In TV dramas (I watch mostly police/detective/mystery stuff) as soon as someone comes home from work, s/he immediately opens a bottle of red wine, pours, and proceeds to drink from a long-stemmed glass. When eating dinner, whether homemade or take-out, again with the red wine in the stemmed wine glass. Tune in randomly to any drama where people are in the kitchen, whether eating, cooking, or going over the details of the murder, and they will be drinking red wine from stemmed glasses. No passably good wine–i.e. anything better than dumping a half shot of 190-proof grain alcohol in a cup of Welch’s grape juice–can be fully appreciated when drunk from a tumbler, mug, or collectible jelly glass. Wineglasses are tapered at the top to funnel the aroma towards your nose, the senses of taste and smell being intimately connected. I agree the stem isn’t needed, but although stemless wineglasses are are easy enough to get, stemware is seen by many as more traditionally appropriate. On the subject of restaurants, servers, and wine: If we order a bottle, we’ll pour it into our glasses, thank you very much. The server doesn’t need to rush over and top up our glasses after the first couple of sips. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/205 "2018-04-13T21:47:18Z")
> [@pnschofield](#): > > How would you characterize the Oklahoma City bombing? I’m not going to do your critical thinking for you, but here’s the process: read the post you just cited, decide what you know about the incident in question, apply definition of “terrorist” or “dickhead” as appropriate. > [@pnschofield](#): > > Is it “credit” that they incited terror using violence? If you have to ask, then it’s really not worth discussing it with you. ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/206 "2018-04-13T23:02:32Z")
> [@seal\_cleaner](#): > > Misuse of “alleged” (“The man was allegedly shot…”) No NO. And it’s not an “alleged suspect,” just a suspect. > . Similarly, when the newsreader says the suspect is being “held on $2M bond”. No, there is no bond. If the defendant could have raised the $2M for cash bail or the $200K for a bail bond, he wouldn’t be sitting in jail. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/207 "2018-04-13T23:10:36Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > It’s to avoid a glottal stop. > > Or rather, two glottal stops in a row. When you say it out loud, sure. What use is seeing it in print? ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2018, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/208 "2018-04-13T23:31:49Z")
> [@DrDeth](#): > > When you say it out loud, sure. What use is seeing it in print? Having different language rules between speech and print, beyond syntactic cues to encode cadence and emphasis, is madness. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2018, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/209 "2018-04-14T00:02:23Z")
I finally have a pet peeve that I _know_ no one has but me. It’s when I’m out in public and I’m approaching a door and someone (actually, it’s always a guy) sees me and he hurries to ask me if I need a hand with the door and I politely tell him “no thank you” and he decides that either I’m not telling the truth or my answer didn’t matter and gives me that “help” anyway. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2018, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/210 "2018-04-14T00:12:41Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > I finally have a pet peeve that I _know_ no one has but me. It’s when I’m out in public and I’m approaching a door and someone (actually, it’s always a guy) sees me and he hurries to ask me if I need a hand with the door and I politely tell him “no thank you” and he decides that either I’m not telling the truth or my answer didn’t matter and gives me that “help” anyway. :mad: Actually, I should be so headstrong. I have no idea if anyone else has this pet peeve or not. A better way to say it would have been, “I don’t _think_ anyone else has this pet peeve.” ---
**Author:** ![HelenGawn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a88e4f/32.png) [@HelenGawn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HelenGawn)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2018, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/211 "2018-04-14T03:45:53Z")
The trash cans at the cafe where I work have a little tab at one corner labeled, tellingly, “cinch tab.” I have carefully demonstrated to everyone who has ever worked there how to pull the top of bag taut and twist it under this tab. When you do this, the bag does not slide into the can like a five-year-old’s sock. In three years, no one else has ever done it. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2018, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/212 "2018-04-14T17:16:42Z")
> [@DrDeth](#): > > When you say it out loud, sure. What use is seeing it in print? When I read it, I can still “hear” it in my head. And it sounds idiotic. ---
**Author:** ![Doug\_K](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b5ac83/32.png) [@Doug\_K](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doug_K)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2018, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/213 "2018-04-14T19:08:07Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > The elevator thing: the person on the top floor who “sends it down” and the person on the first floor who “brings it down” - both by pushing a button - are accomplishing the same thing, yes? > > So the courtesy is that I pushed the button so you won’t have to? > > I may be wrong, but I believe that modern elevators are programmed to return to the first floor when not in use. > mmm Not only that, but the next one needing to use the elevator may not be on the first floor, in which case you’ve just put unnecessary wear and tear on the elevator. What if someone above you now has to wait for it to go all the way down and then come back up? ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2018, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/214 "2018-04-16T14:09:42Z")
I’m certainly not the only person in the world with this pet peeve, but I’m the only person in this town with it. The town where I live operates on what I call “Viburnum Time.” Viburnum Time is not the same time that governs your life or mine. In Viburnum, “Be here at noon for lunch” means “Leave the house around 12:30, the oven will be turned on around 2ish, there _might_ be food on your plate by 3.” As an example, last week my goat farmer friend and I made plans for me to help him slaughter and dress a useless doe. He said “be here at 11.” So I got there at 11. We sat and had coffee, talked, watched his favorite heavy metal band on YouTube, talked, had more coffee… this went on for two and a half hours. At 1:30 we pulled the trigger (literally) on killing the doe. Similar to “Viburnum Time” is another local pet peeve of mine - when I’m waiting in line at the convenience store, and the customer and clerk are friends and they catch up over the transaction. Never mind the people waiting in line behind the customer, if it takes ten minutes of gabbing to complete the transaction, then they’ll talk for ten minutes. Drives me up the fucking wall. ---
**Author:** ![Asuka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dec6dc/32.png) [@Asuka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asuka)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2018, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/215 "2018-04-16T19:23:19Z")
People whom you see are on their phones 24/7 and are constantly texting others all the time even when driving or watching a movie, but then you send them an important text and they reply four hours later. ---
**Author:** ![Lowdown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c57346/32.png) [@Lowdown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lowdown)\ **Post date:** [April 16, 2018, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/216 "2018-04-16T20:33:05Z")
When I’m reading through online reviews for an item on Amazon or wherever, and I come across the inevitable two-star review because the reviewer thought it would be bigger/smaller. The goddamn dimensions are right in the description! Right there! Displayed in front of your stupid face! It says six inches high by ten inches wide! Bonus points for if the size is in the name of the item, like **10.5" Cast Iron Skillet**. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2018, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/217 "2018-04-17T05:01:41Z")
“So, this Ten And A Half Inch Cast Iron Skillet wasn’t Teflon at _all,_ and I need at least a twelve inch pan because Bacon Should Never Be Folded AM I RIGHT?!?” – Oh, and I have a coworker who must be from Viburnum. If he wants to go out to a bar, I always pick a night where I don’t need to be anywhere. And I’ve been known to bring a book along! Because I know I’ll be waiting for anywhere from twenty minutes to an hour at the bar. But I’ve come to accept it, and by now the bartender is used to me reading. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2018, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/218 "2018-04-17T12:09:23Z")
It took me a long time to learn how to show up for parties hosted by friends from other countries (in grad school, I mostly hung out with the international students). I finally figured out that if “the party starts at 6”, that I should just keep on doing whatever I was doing, and if I happened to glance at my watch and notice that it was past 6, that meant that I should get to a good stopping point in whatever it was, and then head over. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2018, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/219 "2018-04-17T13:30:54Z")
I’ve mentioned several times on these boards about my absolutely abhorrence for those little wooden paddles people eat ice cream with. They make me shudder. If I see someone using them, I either have to move or stop what I’m doing and get them a real spoon. ---
**Author:** ![Channing\_Idaho\_Banks](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/channing_idaho_banks/32/250_2.png) [@Channing\_Idaho\_Banks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Channing_Idaho_Banks)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2018, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/222 "2018-04-17T14:16:19Z")
> [@Inigo\_Montoya](#): > > … > > Don’t even get me started on sorting the silverware… dying to know whether you feel strongly that silverware should be sorted, or shouldn’t be sorted. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001.md?page=10) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001.md?page=12)