# Pet Peeves only you have **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 7, 2018, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001 "2018-04-07T21:32:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![pkbites](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pkbites/32/204_2.png) [@pkbites](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pkbites)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/101 "2018-04-10T04:48:35Z")
> [@UncleMoose](#): > > Where are you located? You don’t know where the Magikal Land O’ Cheeze is? For shame! XXXI > [@GargoyleWB](#): > > Can a humble citizen make a request 🙂 > > My pet peeve is misaligned headlights that blast me in my mirrors, making it genuinely hazardous to be driving. The culprit is usually a pick-up truck that someone has jacked up-- unmodified factory vehicles are usually just fine. > > Can you police folk start flooding these with citations? But those modifications aren’t always illegal and many times they aren’t. There are modification parameters the law allows. ---
**Author:** ![Marine\_One](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/marine_one/32/3461_2.png) [@Marine\_One](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marine_One)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 11:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/102 "2018-04-10T11:43:48Z")
When they put the stupid strike zone box on the screen for TV baseball games. Arrggg! The ump will tell me if it’s a strike or not. Oh, and the super large graphic that they put between the runner on first and the base that shows how far away he us. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 11:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/103 "2018-04-10T11:58:32Z")
> [@Marine\_One](#): > > When they put the stupid strike zone box on the screen for TV baseball games. > Arrggg! The ump will tell me if it’s a strike or not. > > Oh, and the super large graphic that they put between the runner on first and the base that shows how far away he us. But aren’t you interested in whether the ump is calling an accurate strike zone? ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/104 "2018-04-10T12:44:12Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > I don’t like the phrase “please advise” in an email (that’s the only place I’ve ever seen it). I think one of my past clients used it in a very passive-aggressive way and it has made me cringe for years. > > Why not “what do you think?” Or “how can you help?” or “what can we do about this?” Or “can you fix it?” “Please advise” sounds so snarky. I mean, to be fair this IS how I use ‘please advise’. It’s sandwiched between ‘what do you think’ and ‘please explain’ which is flat out aggressive, rather than passive aggressive. I tend to only use it when someone is being wilfully obtuse, though, so there’s that. Ethics rules tend to make lawyers a bit passive aggressive anyway as you can’t really tell other side they are being obtuse on purpose. My pet peeve is calling me by my last name, thinking it’s my first name, in e-mail. I get that I have a last name that can be used as a first name, but my name is in three different places on my e-mail, sometimes four. Can you not?!? Argh! ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/105 "2018-04-10T12:52:54Z")
> [@pkbites](#): > > …But I’m eaten there and love the privacy the selected tables offer. One certainly ought to expect privacy for that. > [@](#): > > Very intimate dinning. Indeed! What bugs me about the intrusive waiter phenomenon is when you and your dining companion(s) is/are clearly engrossed deeply in conversation, as shown by leaning forward, making intense eye contact, speaking quietly (possibly accompanied by drawing cryptic figures on napkins) and the waiter stands next to the table until you look up. And if you don’t look up, the waiter still stands there. Or interrupts. ---
**Author:** ![Jennshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Jennshark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennshark)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/106 "2018-04-10T13:23:05Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > One certainly ought to expect privacy for that.Indeed! > > What bugs me about the intrusive waiter phenomenon is when you and your dining companion(s) is/are clearly engrossed deeply in conversation, as shown by leaning forward, making intense eye contact, speaking quietly (possibly accompanied by drawing cryptic figures on napkins) and the waiter stands next to the table until you look up. And if you don’t look up, the waiter still stands there. Or interrupts. And being touched by a server. I’m a pretty touch-y person myself (with friends who welcome it), but there’s something about a server resting their hand on my shoulder that squicks me out. ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/107 "2018-04-10T13:32:26Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > My daughter cuts tomatoes across the grain instead of the other way 'round. > > I hate it, it shits me to tears. > > But my solution is to get a fresh tomato, and cut it the way I like! > > 😃 I didn’t know tomatoes had a grain. What do you mean? Sent from my SM-G930V using Tapatalk ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/108 "2018-04-10T14:19:32Z")
> [@pkbites](#): > > I love, Love, LOVE issuing citations to the retards (yes, **RETARDS!** Bite me!) who do this and have yet to have 1 single person not get convicted on the zillion cites I’ve issued for it. Don’t be a jerk. You make it clear here that you know you’re being offensive, and you double-down on it. Don’t. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/109 "2018-04-10T14:23:04Z")
> [@MacLir](#): > > Carmel is a mountain in Israel! And Calvary _isn’t_ soldiers on horses. ---
**Author:** ![pkbites](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pkbites/32/204_2.png) [@pkbites](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pkbites)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/110 "2018-04-10T14:40:45Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > Don’t be a jerk. You make it clear here that you know you’re being offensive, and you double-down on it. Don’t. What took you so long? Funny that in 3 pages nobody else on this thread objected. Pet peeve: The words “idiot”, “imbecile” and “moron” are also proper terms for people with diminished mental capacities, yet are freequently peppered in threads without the reprisal the infamous “R” word gets. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/111 "2018-04-10T14:44:35Z")
No, the stuff made from sweetened milk is pronounced “dulce de leche”. One of mine that I know isn’t unique, but must be pretty rare, is mangling of Latin plurals. A lot of people can’t seem to wrap their brains around the concept that the rules of Latin are consistent. Like, if a word ends in -us in the singular, then for the plural, you replace the -us with -i. So, for instance, “alumnus” turns into “alumni” (oh, and by the way, Radcliffe, Bryn Mawr, and Vassar don’t have any alumni; they have alumnae). And “radius” turns into “radii”. That doesn’t mean that Latin has a rule that “plurals end in -ii”; it’s still the same rule as always. The ending of “radii” is still just -i. The other i is part of the root. Words that don’t have an i at the end of the root don’t get a doubled i just because. And none of this applies to words that don’t end in -us to begin with; those use a different rule (thus, for instance, the plural of “penis” is “penes”, not “penii”, which would be the plural of “penius”, whatever that is). And I get that a lot of people don’t want to learn the grammar rules for a half-dead ancient language, no matter how simple they are. That’s fine. If you don’t want to bother with the Latin rules, then just use the English ones. Someone (of either gender) who’s graduated from a school is an “alumn”, and a group of them are “alumns”. More than one penis are “penises”. We are speaking English, after all. Just, if you don’t know how to use the Latin rules correctly, then don’t use them at all. ---
**Author:** ![Soylent\_Juicy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@Soylent\_Juicy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soylent_Juicy)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/112 "2018-04-10T15:07:19Z")
> [@Cub\_Mistress](#): > > my particular pet peeve is “RIP.” It just strikes me as someone being to lazy to write “rest in peace.” This is my pet peeve too. You see it all over Facebook when someone passes and it grates my nerves. I’ve always hated the phrase “touch base”. I don’t know why, it just irritates me. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/113 "2018-04-10T15:35:10Z")
> [@Scribble](#): > > I didn’t know tomatoes had a grain. What do you mean? > > Sent from my SM-G930V using Tapatalk I assume they mean being cut vertically vs horizontally. So, if you stand a tomato up so that the stem end is either on top or on the bottom, if you cut vertically vs horizontally, you get a different type of cut. I don’t know what is “right,” but I’ve typically cut vertically from this orientation. [Here is the horizontal slice](http://www.alamy.com/stock-photo-one-red-ripe-juicy-beef-tomato-cut-into-six-slices-with-knife-on-white-27993910.html). [Here is someone slicing vertically.](https://www.123rf.com/photo_17090871_preparing-vegetarian-meal-cutting-tomato-into-slices.html?fromid=M2tiS1dxNTdWNVVxN1IwZVcwVTJ6dz09) ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/114 "2018-04-10T15:38:09Z")
Oh, I got one. “Grammar” spelled as “grammer.” Hasn’t happened in this thread, so far as I know, but it drives me crazy. That said, I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who has this peeve. ---
**Author:** ![leschulz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/977dab/32.png) [@leschulz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leschulz)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/115 "2018-04-10T16:29:00Z")
Here’s one, people who pronounce the “t” in “often”. Surprisingly, they don’t feel the need to do so with “listen” or “hasten”. Also, people who pronounce “caramel” as “care-a-mel” rather than “car-mel” drive me nuts - very pretentious! 🙂 I have to admit, I’ve become a lot less picky on language rules since I began reading World Wide Words. Most of our English rules come from 19th century people trying to force Latin rules onto a language that has evolved from many others. I have much more of a “live and let live” attitude now, realizing that the language evolves over time and just accepting it. I do miss the loss of irregular past tense words like “shone”, “ground”, “lit”, and “dove”, but now just accept that “shined”, “grinded”, “lighted”, and “dived” are likely going to win the day. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/116 "2018-04-10T17:08:52Z")
Oh, I got one that probably is a very limited peeve. _Habanero_ pronounced or spelled as _habañero_. I keep yelling “there’s no enye in the word!” ---
**Author:** ![Aspenglow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspenglow/32/76_2.png) [@Aspenglow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspenglow)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/117 "2018-04-10T17:16:55Z")
I get skeeved at the feeling of soap bubbles creeping up the back of my forearms when I do dishes. I absolutely cannot stand it. For this reason, I always add dish soap to the washing sink after I’ve filled it with the water, so it won’t make big pillowy mounds of bubbles. If you chew on a rubber band in my presence, I am secretly wishing I could smash your face. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_Tightlips](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/57b2e6/32.png) [@Joey\_Tightlips](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_Tightlips)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/118 "2018-04-10T17:18:45Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Oh, I got one that probably is a very limited peeve. _Habanero_ pronounced or spelled as _habañero_. I keep yelling “there’s no enye in the word!” Wow. I would have bet 10 to 1 that it was an “ñ” in habanero and lost. Ignorance fought! My peeve is that about 5 years ago some basketball analyst starting referring to the taller center and forward positions as just “bigs”. And now, they ALL do it ALL the time. They’ll say things like, “_The Kansas **bigs** are getting all the loose rebounds today_” or “_Loyola has no answer for the Michigan **bigs** _”. It’s almost ruined March Madness for me. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/119 "2018-04-10T18:16:06Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Oh, I got one that probably is a very limited peeve. _Habanero_ pronounced or spelled as _habañero_. I keep yelling “there’s no enye in the word!” That per se is not extremely annoying to me, but it is annoying when they think that _you’re_ the one who’s wrong to pronounce it without an enye. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001/120 "2018-04-10T18:22:03Z")
> [@leschulz](#): > > Here’s one, people who pronounce the “t” in “often”. Surprisingly, they don’t feel the need to do so with “listen” or “hasten”. That doesn’t bother me one way or another, but pronouncing schedule as “shed-ule” is like fingernails on a chalkboard for me. For some reason, it sounds hideous. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/pet-peeves-only-you-have/812001.md?page=7)