# Phrases/terms that aggravate the hell out of you **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 26, 2020, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894 "2020-10-26T02:04:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 23
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/442 "2020-12-17T14:22:13Z")
> [@jerseymule](#): > > Lately I am hearing people, when interviewed by news reporters, starting their sentences with “Yeah-no.” Not to be confused with “y’know” as in “you know.” But like saying “yes, no.” Without a pause between the two words, equal emphasis on both syllables. Annoying, but the intent is clear enough: > Yes, I agree with you that {whatever you just said} is out there. And no, I don’t approve of it. Here’s my comment about it. Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah … ---
**Author:** ![I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/i_love_me_vol.i/32/521_2.png) [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Love_Me_Vol.I)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/443 "2020-12-17T15:47:16Z")
> [@mtnmatt](#): > > The recent NBA draft meant reading/hearing a lot of another new term that annoys me - a prospect has “handle,” meaning that they are skilled at ball handling. That’s not that new. I usually hear it as “she’s got a good handle.” It’s a little like “he’s got hops” ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/444 "2020-12-17T16:24:10Z")
I don’t think I will EVER not hate the term, “The Ask.” It’s used in my company all the damn time, and used to refer to what someone is asking for. “What’s the Ask, here?” It’s one of the douchiest things I hear all day, and I hear a ton of douchey stuff. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/445 "2020-12-17T17:23:08Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > I don’t think I will EVER not hate the term, “The Ask.” I am going to **amplify** this! 🙂 “ **At the end of the day** …” is also up there for work vernacular that is way overused and irritating. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/446 "2020-12-17T18:21:38Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > I don’t think I will EVER not hate the term, “The Ask.” It’s used in my company all the damn time, and used to refer to what someone is asking for. “What’s the Ask, here?” It’s one of the douchiest things I hear all day, and I hear a ton of douchey stuff. The reason “ask” has turned into a noun is that it’s one syllable. “Request”, “demand”, “proposal” are all multi-syllable. There’s a general tendency in conversation to prefer to short terms over longer terms. ---
**Author:** ![Scarlax](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scarlax/32/2927_2.png) [@Scarlax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scarlax)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/447 "2020-12-17T19:58:18Z")
“Resiliency.” The word you are looking for is “resilience.” ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/448 "2020-12-17T20:29:18Z")
Seems to me a perfectly croulent word if you are joining the Mild Resiliency, the adjunct to the Rebel Alliance. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/449 "2020-12-17T20:32:03Z")
> [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](#): > > It’s a little like “he’s got hops” I have no idea what that means. A beer thing? ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/450 "2020-12-17T20:43:25Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I have no idea what that means. A beer thing? I read that to mean he has the shits, but I’m gross like that (i.e., “He’s got the trots.”). Maybe it means he has energy? ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Winston\_OBoogie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.winston_oboogie/32/2945_2.png) [@Dr.Winston\_OBoogie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Winston_OBoogie)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/451 "2020-12-17T21:50:36Z")
> [@tripthicket](#): > > As a veteran, ‘Thank you for your service.’ A meaningless phrase. Bitch, you don’t know me or what I did or didn’t do during my service. It’s all subjective anyway (contrast spitting on returning Vietnam soldiers vs the frickin’ yellow ribbons everywhere for the first Gulf war). You wanna feel good, buy a kitten. You wanna show appreciation for my service, tell your representatives to take better care of the veterans they voted to put in harm’s way for dubious purposes. [hijack] Several years ago, I was with my son outside of a grocery store selling Boy Scout (at that time) popcorn. One of the options they have is you can purchase a popcorn donation “for the troops”. Well, not many people are going to hand over $50 for that, so everyone always puts out a bucket for small donations. Well, one veteran was entering the store. He saw the bucket, and it touched a nerve. He was ranting a bit (not unhinged, similar to your message) about people not understanding the Services; at one point he said “I’ve never had someone thank me for my haircut”. Well, when I saw him again leaving the store, I made sure to thank him for his haircut, which made him laugh. [/hijack] ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Winston\_OBoogie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.winston_oboogie/32/2945_2.png) [@Dr.Winston\_OBoogie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Winston_OBoogie)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/452 "2020-12-17T22:17:15Z")
Back on topic here. “Product A is 3 times less than Product B” - are you saying that I get negative calories from Product A? How about a more mathematically correct statement of “one third of Product B”, or “two thirds less than Product B”? ---
**Author:** ![gnarator](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gnarator/32/8266_2.png) [@gnarator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnarator)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/453 "2020-12-17T22:32:03Z")
I got “the ask” yesterday, as in, “can you tell me what the ask is here?” I replied, “The sure, I the will.” ---
**Author:** ![velomont](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@velomont](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velomont)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/454 "2020-12-17T23:03:49Z")
One that always bugs me is, in the context of a vehicle crash news report, " lost control", such as “when the driver lost control at the intersection and collided with the building at the corner”. No, the driver didn’t “lose control”, the driving gods didn’t take control, evil spirits didn’t possess the car; he/she was simply driving too fast, wasn’t paying attention etc etc. ---
**Author:** ![Sherrerd](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sherrerd/32/8_2.png) [@Sherrerd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sherrerd)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/455 "2020-12-17T23:41:10Z")
> [@gnarator](#): > > I got “the ask” yesterday, as in, “can you tell me what the ask is here?” > I replied, “The sure, I the will.” I like that reply. An additional irritation with “the ask” is that some percentage of the population has spent their entire lives pronouncing “ask” as “ax.” This can lead to some potentially odd locutions: _Who is going to convey the ax to Mr. Grumbly?_ or _It’s about time I got up the courage for that huge ax_ or _My ax seemed to alarm Brianna._ I can’t wait for someone to start some new trend that will bury The Ask (or The Ax, as may be). ---
**Author:** ![gnarator](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gnarator/32/8266_2.png) [@gnarator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnarator)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/456 "2020-12-17T23:42:59Z")
> [@Sherrerd](#): > > I like that reply. Most people laughed. Manager didn’t think it was funny, though. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/457 "2020-12-17T23:45:49Z")
> [@gnarator](#): > > I got “the ask” yesterday, as in, “can you tell me what the ask is here?” > I replied, “The sure, I the will.” > [@gnarator](#): > > Manager didn’t think it was funny, though. Manager: “Can you tell me what the humorous is here?” ---
**Author:** ![Sherrerd](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sherrerd/32/8_2.png) [@Sherrerd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sherrerd)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/458 "2020-12-17T23:48:04Z")
> [@gnarator](#): > > > [@Sherrerd](#): > > > > I like that reply. > > Most people laughed. Manager didn’t think it was funny, though. It’s a sad fact of many people’s working lives that they have humorless managers. Also: good one, digs! ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanubv.2/32/3260_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUBv.2)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2020, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/459 "2020-12-17T23:49:40Z")
“Normalcy”. I have a vague feeling this came into usage after the 9/11 attacks. What the fuck was wrong with “normality”? Whether or not they’re both acceptable “normalcy” makes me angry. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2020, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/460 "2020-12-18T01:30:44Z")
Yeah, it’s been in use for a long time. WWII and after WWI I think. It is overused right now, with so many things not considered normal. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanubv.2/32/3260_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUBv.2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUBv.2)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2020, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894/461 "2020-12-18T01:36:31Z")
Interesting. I honestly don’t remember ever having heard / seen it until. . . suddenly I was hearing it all the time. For me, it’s less the overuse then the use period. I get why we’re all speaking about things getting back to normal but “normalcy” rankles. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894.md?page=22) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/phrases-terms-that-aggravate-the-hell-out-of-you/923894.md?page=24)