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Yeah it was basically… just answering the other poster’s question about which I meant exactly.
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I think I did know that actually.
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Okay, so WHY would we learn this? Or is that a question that I’ll probably never know the exact reason to since apparently it’s something that was seen and learned that way, only way to find out why would be to find an older relative that does it also and ask them, right?
Why wouldn’t you learn it? It’s what you see around you, and your brain is always absorbing information. When you’re small, you don’t sit around thinking about how you want to eat and drink. You see other people do it (mostly family members) and you start to figure out how to do it the way they are doing it. That’s going to include the essentials and it’ll also include some personal quirks like sticking out your pinky finger. Isn’t that what some of the etiquette books say you’re supposed to do?
[QUOTE=Marley23;14607771 That’s going to include the essentials and it’ll also include some personal quirks like sticking out your pinky finger. Isn’t that what some of the etiquette books say you’re supposed to do?[/QUOTE]
No clue what etiquette books say, all I know is that I do it and so does my mom. I have no idea why we do it, like I said it wasn’t physically taught to me.
I meant why as in why would it be passed down? Unless maybe that was why, because someone somewhere read it in an etiquette book and they did teach it to their child and therefore started the whole thing by their children just watching and learning by seeing.
I’m not sure, but this seems like two separate questions mixed together.
If you mean why would this be behavior that we’d want to learn, then the answer is probably the same reason you learn every other behavioral trait you have - because you were exposed to it and unknowingly latched on to it. I used my father’s laugh as an analogy before, because I thought it was similar. I haven’t actively tried to replicate him, but it happened. Without knowing it I must have just unconsciously thought ‘this is how you laugh’.
One thing I noticed is that I always put my shirt on head first, then put my arms through. My dad and my brother both do this. A friend once asked why I don’t put arms through first, because it’d be easier that way, and I just didn’t know! People seem very consistent with this too. Some will do one arm first, then the other, or both at the same time, but generally they will have a ‘routine’. I think it’s the same, it’s a learned behavioral trait that we don’t really consciously pay attention to. But this is a bit of a tangent.
If you mean why would we do this at all - putting your pinky out when drinking tea is/used to be considered posh. (Why it’s considered posh would be a whole different question!) It could be a unconscious way of just being polite.
FTSF: yeah I guess it was sort of mixed together. I guess you wouldn’t exactly know this by internet, but I think what I mean (sorry, I’m getting sleepy so my mind doesn’t want to work correctly) is something like why would someone (some family) do something that is considered ‘posh’ when they themselves are not ‘posh’?
But then, I believe you’re right, that that would start a whole different question.
**Dos Equis XX Beer - The Most Interesting Man In The World ** doesn’t stick out his pinky.
I’ve looked it up a little, the last thing I remember reading was that it originated from when sugar was incredibly expensive and was taken and put into teas with the pinky finger, so as to not hurt the sugar (get it wet, whatever) people kept their pinkies up.
That’s what I had read anyways, I didn’t know about Rome.
I’m still have a problem with your voice not being passed down through genes, I was thinking about this while I was going to sleep and I dawned on me that it just has to have some kind of gene-related thing.
Hear me out. I have three half brothers. Our oldest brother sounds exactly like our father. (Can’t say that he spent a lot of time with our father because our father was in the Army then, and was with his mom most of the time, wasn’t until Josh was nearly 14 when he really lived with out father). The middle brother -my second oldest- sounds exactly like one of our Uncles. He didn’t live with him for an period of time, long or short. (the third I don’t know who he sounds like).
Me. I sound exactly like my mom. I answer the phone and people we’ve know for ever think I’m her, and sometimes they even think my mom is me. (yes, that one could very easily be argued that I spent more time with my mom).
And also, with thinking about this. I was thinking this: It must have something, just something to do with genes for when you look at different kinds of animals.
Cats for instance: All Siamese cats have the same sound, same with Ocicats (they are a variation of Abyssinian’s and Siamese, yet they sound like Ocicats not Abby’s and not Siamese) Manx cat all sound like Manx cats, and on and on and on.
I have one cat that’s a torti/calico she makes a few sounds that sound exactly like a Siamese, and I know she’s never been around a Siamese (least not long enough to pick something up since she was found at less than 4 weeks) [that’s just an example]
But cats aren’t the only ones, dogs have the same thing. You know it when you hear a Bloodhound, when you hear a little Chihuahua, when you hear a great big Great Dane. Even if all these dogs are raised together the Chihuahua will never sound like the Great Dane, nor will the Great Dane ever sound like the Bloodhound. So can’t it be argued (debated like now?) that these sounds, these ‘voices’ are being passed down from genes?
I have a son (2 1/2 months old) whose pinky finger sticks out while the rest of the fingers and thumb are closed, I’ve seen many times. This happens occassionally and not all the time, but it has happened enough times to make me wonder if this is supposed to be a normal thing for newborns to do. Not sure if it is one or both pinky fingers. I have to check on that, but I think it might be both. Is this supposed to be normal in newborns or is it genetically linked? It seemed a little strange to me, I noticed it subconsciously many times before and now wanted to see where this originated from. The baby’s father has this trait esp more noticeable when holding a cup with a handle and on other occassions I’ve subconciously seen before but cant completely recall since I didnt bother about them for the most part. So I must think this is a genetic thing that got passed down since the baby couldnt have learned it yet by watching the father. The baby could bearly hold his attention for too long being so young at this time.