# Played footsie with friends wife under table. What does it mean? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 15, 2011, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738 "2011-10-15T13:58:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![asiansilvertoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a698b9/32.png) [@asiansilvertoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/asiansilvertoes)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/1 "2011-10-15T13:58:25Z")
My wife and I are both thirty. We go over to another couples house for dinner on friday nights. They are bothe 39 and have two kids, a boy, 10, and a girl, 8. They are an asian family, the husband is an asian from america, and wife is a fobby korean. The husband is strict and the wife is very playful. I have had a crush on the wife for a while. She is tall, skinny, and very playful, and she is always barefoot inside. She’s very playful, always laughing, and she always playful hits when were talking or put her hand on my shoulder. Several times in the kitchen, when I am getting something next to her, I will put my foot on hers, seemingly accidentally, both barefoot, and she always moves it away. Well last friday night, there were about ten people having dinner there total, and she ended up sitting next to me at the table. My wife on my left and the korean wife on my right. I would lean my knee over so that it was touching hers, and after maybe 5 seconds she would move it away. That happened maybe ten times. Later she moved across from me at the table after someone left. I put my foot on hers and she didn’t move it away. I rubbed he foot with mine and she just kept talking to me like everything was normal. When my wife got up to use bathroom, the korean wife put bothe her feet on mine, and rubbed her foot on my calf (I was wearing shorts) and said I was warm. I reached down and squeezed her big toe with my hand and she didn’t move her foot. When my wife came back she moved her feet away. Later, she did it again when my wife went to bathroom again. Also I went to get something from the kitchen and the korean wife came in and as I walked past her I ran my hand across her stomach, she touched my hand but didn’t say anything, and we played more footsi under the table after. She talked to me the whole time and never acted uncomfortable at all. I really liked it. What does it mean? Is she flirting with me? What should I do? I’m looking forward to seeing her again and increasing the touching a little quick shoulder rub or some thing. Tell me what you think. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/2 "2011-10-15T14:01:43Z")
I think I saw a movie about this once. It starred Kurt Russell. Things are about to get exciting. ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/3 "2011-10-15T14:06:04Z")
What’s a fobby korean? ---
**Author:** ![asiansilvertoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a698b9/32.png) [@asiansilvertoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/asiansilvertoes)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/4 "2011-10-15T14:10:01Z")
FOB, means fresh of boat, referring to someone who has recently come to america, particularly from asia. So in this case, she still has korean accent, and behaves korean culturally. Hence, she is fobby. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/5 "2011-10-15T14:28:55Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > FOB, means fresh of boat, referring to someone who has recently come to america, particularly from asia. So in this case, she still has korean accent, and behaves korean culturally. Hence, she is fobby. That’s a pretty nasty way to talk about another man’s wife you’re trying to fuck. ---
**Author:** ![PeskiPiksi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e495f1/32.png) [@PeskiPiksi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PeskiPiksi)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/6 "2011-10-15T14:36:48Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > Tell me what you think. I think your wife will be a very happy woman the day she divorces you. ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/7 "2011-10-15T14:42:20Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > Is she flirting with me? What should I do? I’m looking forward to seeing her again and increasing the touching a little quick shoulder rub or some thing. Tell me what you think. I think both your wife and your friend would be better off without you in their lives. Maybe that’s just me, though. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/8 "2011-10-15T14:53:19Z")
I think you need to read [this](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Great_Switcheroo). ---
**Author:** ![choie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/choie/32/7829_2.png) [@choie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/choie)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/9 "2011-10-15T14:55:00Z")
One thing I’m not certain about from reading your post: is she very playful? ---
**Author:** ![asiansilvertoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a698b9/32.png) [@asiansilvertoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/asiansilvertoes)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/10 "2011-10-15T14:58:55Z")
yes, she’s very playful. ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/11 "2011-10-15T15:00:56Z")
I think we’re being **played** by asiansilvertoes here…he joined this morning just to post this? Maybe there’s a whoosh I’m not getting here. ---
**Author:** ![Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/848f3c/32.png) [@Fuzzy\_Dunlop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fuzzy_Dunlop)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/12 "2011-10-15T15:07:13Z")
> [@choie](#): > > One thing I’m not certain about from reading your post: is she very playful? You’re like some kind of sherlock holmes. I don`t know how you managed to piece something like that out of that short description **asiansilvertoes** gave us. ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/13 "2011-10-15T15:09:52Z")
> [@chiroptera](#): > > I think we’re being **played** by asiansilvertoes here…he joined this morning just to post this? > Maybe there’s a whoosh I’m not getting here. Either that or one of the “agony aunt” advice columnist’s pages and Cecil’s got mixed up by Google, and thus we’re attracting all of these awesomely complex “omg sex/relationship situation - what does it mean?!!!1” breathless posts by newly-joined posters. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/14 "2011-10-15T15:10:38Z")
How playful is she? ---
**Author:** ![Lancia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lancia/32/17174_2.png) [@Lancia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lancia)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/15 "2011-10-15T15:16:59Z")
So, you wanna fuck your friend’s wife. Sounds like she’s all for it. A) You have no respect for your friend. B) You have no respect for yourself as a husband. C) Finally, and worst of all, you have no respect for your wife. She deserves better than you. So go for it! Because I agree with this: > [@chiroptera](#): > > I think both your wife and your friend would be better off without you in their lives. > Maybe that’s just me, though. Nope, not just you. ---
**Author:** ![Rhythmdvl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@Rhythmdvl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhythmdvl)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/16 "2011-10-15T15:37:09Z")
I think you should start carrying a pocket watch. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/17 "2011-10-15T15:41:32Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > How playful is she? And is she playful in a fobby way or in a regular way? ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/18 "2011-10-15T15:47:23Z")
> [@Rhythmdvl](#): > > I think you should start carrying a pocket watch. > [@Acsenray](#): > > And is she playful in a fobby way or in a regular way? I think I just got \*\*Rhythmdvl’\*\*s obscure comment. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/19 "2011-10-15T16:17:17Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > Also I went to get something from the kitchen and the korean wife came in and as I walked past her I ran my hand across her stomach, she touched my hand but didn’t say anything, and we played more footsi under the table after. She talked to me the whole time and never acted uncomfortable at all. I really liked it. What does it mean? Is she flirting with me? What should I do? I’m looking forward to seeing her again and increasing the touching a little quick shoulder rub or some thing. Tell me what you think. I think you should not try the little quick shoulder rub; it may be seen as too intimate. Stick with the stomach gropes. hh ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2011, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/20 "2011-10-15T17:18:16Z")
I think you’re a scumbag. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738.md?page=2)