# Played footsie with friends wife under table. What does it mean? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 15, 2011, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738 "2011-10-15T13:58:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Jinx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Jinx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jinx)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/81 "2011-10-19T01:52:56Z")
Foremost, I think Cecil needs to add an advice column to his Boards! 🙂 Beyond this, I think the OP answers its own question. Just a matter of where your conscience and upbringing stand. You’re gonna hate yourself if this goes any further…when you wake up from this fool’s paradise of a fantasy very, very alone. By the way, isn’t her husband like a black belt or something? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Jinx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Jinx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jinx)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/82 "2011-10-19T01:54:55Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > I think I might not mind my wife playing footsie with the husband, or kissing him on the cheek, or tickle, or full body massage nude. None of those are really too out there, or crazy. I mean I probably wouldnt want her to suck his dick and let him fuck her brains out. But, I’d be ok with a little flirting on her part, it would actually turn me on and make me want to fuck my wife all night long. 🙂 Better start taking those cold showers, dude, and do some serious soul searching. ---
**Author:** ![Jenaroph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e8c25b/32.png) [@Jenaroph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jenaroph)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/83 "2011-10-19T02:08:32Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > I think I might not mind my wife playing footsie with the husband, or kissing him on the cheek, or tickle, or full body massage nude. None of those are really too out there, or crazy. I mean I probably wouldnt want her to suck his dick and let him fuck her brains out. But, I’d be ok with a little flirting on her part, it would actually turn me on and make me want to fuck my wife all night long. 🙂 Ok then. You come home one day and find your wife and the husband nude in your bedroom and he’s giving her a full body massage. He has a big ol’ boner, 'cause, y’know, he’s giving your wife a full nude body massage. She says “Oh honey, it’s not like I sucked his dick or let him fuck my brains out.” Do you believe her? Really? Honestly? And if you do, might you simply wonder about all the other times you didn’t catch them? Anyway, I’m really with **Jbone** at this point. You’re going to do whatever you want, so go ahead; it’s not like anybody’s ever ruined their marriage by thinking “Oh, it’s just a little harmless flirting/footsie/peck on the cheek/peck on the lips/backrub/nude backrub/blowjob/sex/unintended pregnancy.” ---
**Author:** ![SeaCanary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@SeaCanary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaCanary)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/84 "2011-10-19T02:14:15Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > I think I might not mind my wife playing footsie with the husband, or kissing him on the cheek, or tickle, or full body massage nude. None of those are really too out there, or crazy. I mean I probably wouldnt want her to suck his dick and let him fuck her brains out. But, I’d be ok with a little flirting on her part, it would actually turn me on and make me want to fuck my wife all night long. 🙂 Time to discuss this with your wife. Then, depending on what your wife says (or does), discuss this with the other couple. No shit; I’ve heard of long-term [polyamory](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory) relationships working. But keep it a secret and I promise you it won’t work. So either quit or take the next step. Either way you’re going to learn something. ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/85 "2011-10-19T02:46:44Z")
Deleted. Reason: I think my post may have broken board rules. ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/86 "2011-10-19T02:48:57Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Trolls like to play footsie? Who knew? I think it’s spelled “playful 'tsie” ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/87 "2011-10-19T02:55:50Z")
Plus, I’m with **Onomatopoeia**. Guy joins to post a poorly written “Letters to Playboy” story full of obsessive detail about “playful”-ness and touching feet with an “FOB” Asian woman, then admits he has a thing for touching feet and Asian women. It’s obvious BS and was typed with one hand. ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/88 "2011-10-19T05:46:22Z")
**asiansilvertoes** , regarding your [post #63](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=14371000&postcount=63) in this thread, you should realize that personal insults are not allowed here (except in the Pit). You might want to reread the [Registration Agreement](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=423183) as well as the FAQs, [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=562482). ---
**Author:** ![buns3000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c89c15/32.png) [@buns3000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buns3000)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 8:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/89 "2011-10-19T08:34:52Z")
I burning your footsie. ---
**Author:** ![NineToTheSky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5a626/32.png) [@NineToTheSky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NineToTheSky)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/90 "2011-10-19T09:20:01Z")
I see that the FTSE is rising. Keep at it 'toes! ---
**Author:** ![Caught\_Work](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/919ad9/32.png) [@Caught\_Work](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caught_Work)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 9:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/91 "2011-10-19T09:52:04Z")
Google the first two sentences encapsulated in quotes. Our friend has been at this since August. ---
**Author:** ![NineToTheSky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5a626/32.png) [@NineToTheSky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NineToTheSky)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 9:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/92 "2011-10-19T09:57:11Z")
> [@Caught\_Work](#): > > Google the first two sentences encapsulated in quotes. > Our friend has been at this since August. So, **asiansilvertoes** , what progress have you made since August? Still playing footsie? Been thrown out and divorced? Become celibate? ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/93 "2011-10-19T15:02:27Z")
> [@Caught\_Work](#): > > Google the first two sentences encapsulated in quotes. > Our friend has been at this since August. I’m thinking its time for [Absorbine Jr](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKP8dOEwX_g). ---
**Author:** ![Bosstrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Bosstrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosstrain)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/94 "2011-10-19T15:31:34Z")
I can’t believe no one’s mentioned the true danger here! That guy’s Yakuza, just think about what he’ll do if you try banging his woman! This could be the last time you see Mr. Happy again! Honestly though, why would you get married if you didn’t love your wife? Do us all a favor and just tell your SO that you think the marriage was a mistake, you prefer Asian girls instead. TBH, I can’t blame you for being attracted to Oriental ladies, they are quite hot, but instead of messing with your friends girl, just get your own, mail-order brides can’t be that expensive 😃 (that was totally out of line, forgive me, I just can’t help it). ---
**Author:** ![Half\_Man\_Half\_Wit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/half_man_half_wit/32/21766_2.png) [@Half\_Man\_Half\_Wit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Half_Man_Half_Wit)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/95 "2011-10-19T15:51:02Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > To: obbn > Sorry, ur wife caught you reading this, hope she didn’t bust you with a hardon. Lol. So, do I take it it’s usually a _bad_ thing if your wife ‘busts you with a hardon’? Because then I think there’s something you’re doing wrong… ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/96 "2011-10-19T15:58:14Z")
> [@Caught\_Work](#): > > Google the first two sentences encapsulated in quotes. > Our friend has been at this since August. All I find is this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Nars\_Glinley](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nars_glinley/32/8177_2.png) [@Nars\_Glinley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nars_Glinley)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/97 "2011-10-19T16:20:07Z")
> [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > I think I might not mind my wife playing footsie with the husband, or kissing him on the cheek, or tickle, or\*\*\* full body massage nude\*\*\*. None of those are really too out there, or crazy. I mean I probably wouldnt want her to suck his dick and let him fuck her brains out. But, I’d be ok with _ **a little flirting on her part,** _ it would actually turn me on and make me want to fuck my wife all night long. 🙂 I’m having a little difficulty reconciling these. And you “probably wouldn’t want her to …”??? Come back when you’ve made up your mind. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/98 "2011-10-19T16:31:11Z")
And here I always thought people bought glass-top dining tables because they were stylish. Now I see it’s quite possibly a last ditch desperate attempt to save their marriage. ---
**Author:** ![Jbone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/58f4c7/32.png) [@Jbone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jbone)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/99 "2011-10-19T17:18:05Z")
> [@SeaCanary](#): > > [Bolding mine.] +1 > > Honestly, if we’d said, “Yeah, she is warmin’ up to you and you should continue because, from all the signals she’s giving you, pretty soon you’re gonna wind up with a hunk of burnin’ love. Forget about any outrage to your or her marriage. You can cross that bridge when you come to it if ever” how would you feel? **Do not** tell me what you would do. How would I feel if “The Boards” agreed and said go for it? I would be amazed that a mass of people could actually all agree on the same thing. I’m trying to look at a bigger picture as to why someone would be posting this? He explained what was going on, and what he wants to happen, and then asks what he should do. It sounded more like he was lookingpeople to say, “She’s sooo got the hots for you, go for it!” just so it would give him a sense that other people would do the same thing. > [@asiansilvertoes](#): > > I think I might not mind my wife playing footsie with the husband, or kissing him on the cheek, or tickle, or full body massage nude. None of those are really too out there, or crazy. I mean I probably wouldnt want her to suck his dick and let him fuck her brains out. But, I’d be ok with a little flirting on her part, it would actually turn me on and make me want to fuck my wife all night long. 🙂 Kinky. I was flipping through the channels one late night and came across a show on HBO called ‘Real Sex’. It was a very old episode (like from the 80’s), but I remember a quote from a guy that they were interviewing who said: “My wife doesn’t care where I work up my appetite; just as long as I eat at home.”. I think the main point is that you really, really, really, REALLY need to bring this up with your wife. ---
**Author:** ![SirRay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@SirRay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SirRay)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2011, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738/100 "2011-10-19T17:49:19Z")
> [@squeegee](#): > > All I find is this thread. I got a hit from “[Yahoo Answers - India](http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111015082407AA3XxFs)” Silvertoes has gone (even more) International! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/played-footsie-with-friends-wife-under-table-what-does-it-mean/599738.md?page=6)