Per usual, I can’t speak for anyone else…it’s fine, I’m used to it…but here’s my experience.
Old AD&D games: These were the ones where female characters had a lower strength cap. Since there was never any in-game need or advantage to playing “the fairer sex”, these quickly became testosterone-soaked musclefests. I didn’t like it, but it was kill or be killed. Plus there was always a lot of stuff to carry. Unenlightened times.
Guitar Hero / Rock Band: I made it a point to play not only as female, but the darkest skin color available. It always bothered me that while black men in video games were far from rare, the female side was almost completely lily-white. (These were PS3 games; things may have improved since then.) I remember GH5 having a skin color that was almost jet black…she was ravishing. 
I also insisted that the character designated the singer had to match the gender of the song’s actual singer, but I don’t remember ever making a male character just for that.
Dynasty Warriors 4 Empires: Didn’t play this one very much, didn’t play custom characters much, didn’t really prefer either gender. I think I did one game of each. (I would like to state for the record that Zhu Rong kicked serious butt in DW4.)
Assassin’s Creed Valhalla: I don’t feel like hashing through my entire reasoning process again (here’s the thread if you feel like going through that particular ill-fated journey), but in a nutshell, the impression I got was that the Eivor is a woman and the male Eivor is actually how she perceives herself. I liked the woman’s voice better anyway. 
I never got anywhere with Stardew Valley (mumblegrumble frickin’ parsnips), but if I ever got serious about it, I would’ve been absolutely adamant about making a lesbian couple. Let me put it this way: The game gives me options, I’m not taking the “boring vanilla mainstream conventional same 'ol-same’ol dime a dozen crap” option. Plus I’m a big fan of Alison Bechdel’s work.