# player game?! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 16, 2011, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282 "2011-07-16T20:52:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/1 "2011-07-16T20:52:34Z")
Lets say a guy doesnt even kiss u on 1st date, even though he’s not the shy type. then u kiss 2nd date. then 3rd time is just him telling u to come over late, and u go over (totally unsuspecting)… and he clearly wants u to have sex and even brings up the 3rd date rule, then backs off completely when u say u want to take it slow. WTF… total mixed messages… if ur not gonna be at all sexual on 1st or 2nd time hanging out, then y are u suddenly a complete 180 on 3rd time & accept nothing less apparently ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/2 "2011-07-16T21:06:47Z")
Too long for a tweet? Stranger ---
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/3 "2011-07-16T21:07:14Z")
i did very recently break up w/my old bf so maybe he thinks he has to back off for a while cuz of that ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/4 "2011-07-16T21:10:20Z")
> [@seagull212](#): > > i did very recently break up w/my old bf so maybe he thinks he has to back off for a while cuz of that No. Your third “date” was clearly a booty call. Either accept it or don’t, I won’t make moral judgements, but you are a booty call to him, and the first two dates were just setting you up. Also, please use your words to communicate. ---
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/5 "2011-07-16T21:13:27Z")
sorry. i kind of figured as much… but i didn’t know it was possible to be so polite the first 2 dates and not even try to get fresh w/your date and put in all that work for a booty call ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/6 "2011-07-16T21:17:03Z")
> [@seagull212](#): > > sorry. i kind of figured as much… but i didn’t know it was possible to be so polite the first 2 dates and not even try to get fresh w/your date and put in all that work for a booty call You might be surprised at the lengths some guys will go to for sex. Not only for the sex, but sometimes also for the feeling of conquering. ---
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/7 "2011-07-16T21:44:39Z")
So the guy probably never wanted to date me - after it served the end goal of gettin me into bed? I guess U’d prolly make real plans for a date for the weekend if u cared, instead all I got was a random late night booty call… He didn’t even invite me out to the party where he was, just called me on way home from it last nite I was probably stupid for thinkin he could’ve ever wanted real relationship ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/8 "2011-07-16T21:55:52Z")
On the upside, maybe you can get yourself some break-up sex from him now. ---
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/9 "2011-07-16T22:01:30Z")
Yeah right, y would he ever pursue that again when I failed last times booty call? Too bad bc I would like some breakup sex jow ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/10 "2011-07-16T22:02:56Z")
> [@seagull212](#): > > Yeah right, y would he ever pursue that again when I failed last times booty call? Too bad bc I would like some breakup sex jow Go get it hon! ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/11 "2011-07-16T22:02:59Z")
Is it so hard to type the word “you?” Is it really? My god. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/12 "2011-07-16T22:10:49Z")
“I’m going to ‘break up’ with you for just wanting me for sex, by having sex with you”?? Okay, yeah. ---
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/13 "2011-07-16T22:13:33Z")
Being honest, I regret my decision and want to c what I was missing out on, just had thought it was lil too soon after serious breakup w bf ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/14 "2011-07-16T22:19:12Z")
No problem there, as long as you’re going into it knowing what it is, and not expecting romance or anything else. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/15 "2011-07-16T22:21:21Z")
> [@seagull212](#): > > Being honest, I regret my decision and want to c what I was missing out on, just had thought it was lil too soon after serious breakup w bf Girlfriend, you need to ditch that zero and get yourself a HERO! ---
**Author:** ![treis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@treis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/treis)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/16 "2011-07-16T22:35:51Z")
[National Geographic Aside] Watch as I attempt to speak to it in its native language. If this works, it should give us a fascinating insight to their brain structure. [/NGA] > [@seagull212](#): > > Being honest, I regret my decision and want to c what I was missing out on, just had thought it was lil too soon after serious breakup w bf girl u got 2 get it when it out der. at least c if his dick is bgr than ur bfs or if its lil. is he hot? ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/17 "2011-07-16T22:43:28Z")
Oooh I never thought to talk to it in its native language! I can’t wait to see how it responds. ---
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2011, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/18 "2011-07-16T23:26:14Z")
There’s no way to really communicate to the guy that now I’m up for just sex. I mean, what, next time I run into him… ?! ---
**Author:** ![treis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@treis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/treis)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2011, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/19 "2011-07-17T00:05:37Z")
> [@seagull212](#): > > There’s no way to really communicate to the guy that now I’m up for just sex. I mean, what, next time I run into him… ?! Call him late at night and invite him to come over. What exactly do you think he called you late at night for? A rousing game of Pinochle? ---
**Author:** ![seagull212](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8edcca/32.png) [@seagull212](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seagull212)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2011, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282/20 "2011-07-17T00:24:03Z")
yes i’m aware now that i looked like a naive idiot and have been written off as such 😉 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/player-game/589282.md?page=2)