# Playful rudeness **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 5, 2014, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404 "2014-04-05T12:08:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2014, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/1 "2014-04-05T12:08:39Z")
Lately my wife pokes her tongue out at me and sometimes gives me “the finger”… so I do it back to her sometimes. Like in the Bean movie I give her the finger with both hands. BTW my wife offered to stop doing it if it annoyed me but I thought it was funny. On the other hand I did find her hand pretending to be a spider crawling on me annoying so she’s stopped that. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_fun_ball/32/17664_2.png) [@Happy\_Fun\_Ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Fun_Ball)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2014, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/2 "2014-04-05T13:50:30Z")
Thanks for sharing. ---
**Author:** ![HotDogWater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/35a633/32.png) [@HotDogWater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HotDogWater)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2014, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/3 "2014-04-05T14:08:27Z")
When my wife gives me the finger I get her back by “swiping” her when she is at the kitchen sink. :eek: I find it ups the playful rudeness to another level. ---
**Author:** ![PurpleClogs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f04885/32.png) [@PurpleClogs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PurpleClogs)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2014, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/4 "2014-04-05T15:45:38Z")
I think little private playful things like that are sweet. We pants each other in the kitchen often. It’s great when someone has their hands full like doing dishes. Giggling together is romantic! ---
**Author:** ![bienville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4bbf92/32.png) [@bienville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bienville)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 10:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/5 "2014-04-06T10:32:51Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > I did find her hand pretending to be a spider crawling on me annoying so she’s stopped that. She’s a keeper. ---
**Author:** ![marshmallow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@marshmallow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/marshmallow)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/6 "2014-04-06T19:21:59Z")
But what if you want to actually give her the finger? You’ve watered it down! You’ll need to invent new insulting gestures. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/7 "2014-04-06T19:24:38Z")
I want to encourage Mrs. JohnClay to become a member of this board, as I feel that JohnClay is an unreliable narrator of his domestic situations. That way we can ask her if she really feels the contempt for her husband that he reports she shows. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/8 "2014-04-06T21:16:30Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > Lately my wife pokes her tongue out at me and sometimes gives me “the finger”… so I do it back to her sometimes. Like in the Bean movie I give her the finger with both hands. BTW my wife offered to stop doing it if it annoyed me but I thought it was funny. On the other hand I did find her hand pretending to be a spider crawling on me annoying so she’s stopped that. The thing with private rituals like this is that they’re funny and cute for the two of you, but wince-inducing for anyone who has to read about - or witness - them. We all have them, but most of us let the personal stuff _stay_ personal. ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/9 "2014-04-06T21:29:20Z")
I have a friend with whom I get fake spats where we call each other “bitch”. We’ve taken it to another level by changing that over to calling each other fancy desserts instead. It’s great fun to see the looks we get by saying “You cream cake” and “You profiterole”. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/10 "2014-04-06T23:21:02Z")
**JohnClay** , you need to moon her. Maybe at WalMart. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/11 "2014-04-06T23:47:53Z")
I gave my wife the finger, wink wink, nudge nudge ---
**Author:** ![brainstall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@brainstall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainstall)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2014, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/12 "2014-04-06T23:55:00Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > The thing with private rituals like this is that they’re funny and cute for the two of you, but wince-inducing for anyone who has to read about - or witness - them. We all have them, but most of us let the personal stuff _stay_ personal. Yeah, this. If it works for you and the missus, **JohnClay,** fill yer boots, but leave me out of it. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/13 "2014-04-07T01:14:13Z")
> [@DrFidelius](#): > > I want to encourage Mrs. JohnClay to become a member of this board, as I feel that JohnClay is an unreliable narrator of his domestic situations. That way we can ask her if she really feels the contempt for her husband that he reports she shows. Maybe she feels contempt for me… but I just find it funny. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/14 "2014-04-07T01:15:16Z")
> [@AncientHumanoid](#): > > I gave my wife the finger, wink wink, nudge nudge Yeah I used to before we started having intercourse. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/15 "2014-04-07T01:57:13Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > Yeah I used to before we started having intercourse. Filters, dude, seriously. That kind of talk is disrespectful to her and embarrassing to everybody else. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/16 "2014-04-07T02:25:55Z")
Hmmmm ok ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/17 "2014-04-07T03:45:44Z")
It’s banter.John was playing along. I think… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/18 "2014-04-07T04:11:13Z")
Actually I don’t say untruthful things on the Internet… but I do joke around with my wife… ---
**Author:** ![Boogly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Boogly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boogly)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/19 "2014-04-07T05:32:11Z")
Mmmmmm…private jokes lead to those special looks…makes my engine go VROOM… ---
**Author:** ![Dead\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc29f/32.png) [@Dead\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dead_Cat)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2014, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404/20 "2014-04-07T12:41:32Z")
Once you’re comfortable with this sort of thing between you and your wife, and with close friends, you can move on to colleagues and distant relatives - makes it much more exciting. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/playful-rudeness/685404.md?page=2)